Cornholio said:
There are days that can make your life.
There are days that can ruin your life.
When you distill it down, life is simply those 4 or 5 days.
True.
The major course-defining moments in your life can usually be boiled down to just a few days...just a few acts or a few decisions that alter your course.
The secret to life, however, has never been that complex to me and I never understood why people continue to remain confused about. Everyone inherently searches for purpose in an otherwise pointless existence whether it be a conscious or subconscious level. It is the fulfillment of the highest level of the need hierarchy pyramid, the satisfaction of self-actualization.
True happiness boils down to that...either you find that meaning in your life or you don't. It's the reason mankind invented religion. Unfortunately, we are cursed with the ability to reason and do not remain blissfully unaware of our finite existence and we are able to comprehend our own mortality. This is what separates us from dogs, monkeys, trees, or bacteria. Our minds place linear principles to the structure of time and this, along with the contradicting forces of nature versus nurture, lead us into neurosis. The ensuing confusion leaves us bewildered, confused, and searching for answers. The solution is to find purpose to extinguish these mental anxieties.
This is man in his natural state. He is naturally geared to look for meaning...to look for answers. The actual achievement of self-actualization is not necessarily required to be valid or even real for that matter. It is merely required to satisfy said requirement for a given person considering their individual variables such as intelligence, personality type, personal tastes, experience, biological mechanisms, etc.
It can take many forms, from extremely complex to the mundane...preaching the gospel in a Methodist church, teaching history to 8th graders, accumulating wealth, raising a daughter, being a spouse, mowing yards, studying philosophy, or sitting alone in the grass in mid-summer.
Everyone will find self-actualization differently, some will never find it. But this is the journey we are given...find you purpose and will find meaning in life.