My husband has bigorexia

[wend]

He looks huge to me, he's got stretch marks on his pecs, but he thinks he's shrinking. Should I get him to start measuring himself with a tape measure and keeping track of his progress? He was so bummed out that he was talking about quitting. (Which would bum me out, cuz he's never been sexier.)

 

[Bulk32]

ya, you might want to mention that to him.

 

[wend]

I sure did. In lots of ways. (If you know what I mean.)

He's actually feeling a bit better about it now, but I know him, and it won't be long before he's getting impatient and bummed out again. So I'm figuring if he's got a written record of his growth, that should help, right? Do any of y'all do that?

 

[lartinos]

did you tell him that?

 

[Fonz]

He looks huge to me, he's got stretch marks on his pecs, but he thinks he's shrinking. Should I get him to start measuring himself with a tape measure and keeping track of his progress? He was so bummed out that he was talking about quitting. (Which would bum me out, cuz he's never been sexier.)

If he's got stretch marks, then he is gaining weight too fast.
The skin has only a certain degree of elasticity, and can only acommodate a certain amount of internal growth(Either fat or muscle).

I'd try to talk him into going a bit more slowly. i.e. Gaining weight.

B/c the stretch marks will be VERY hard to get rid off. He will most likely need laser treatments if he keeps it up.

Fonz

 

[c3bodybuilding]

You need to explain to him that getting big takes years. It sounds to me like he wants results, and he wants them now. A tape measure would be a good idea, but don't do it every day, or every week. Make it a monthly thing, that way you can actually see if there's progress. Also pics help. That with positive comments (which it seems you already do), is about all you can do for him.

 

[Stryker1992]

Dump him and go out with me, I have no mental problems!

 

[ripper2]

start taking measurements. i try to do it the first weekend in every month. measure everything and record weight and BF% if he's got it. its always good to look back and see that you have grown some since your last measurement, and its very motivating when you take a break and can actually see the measurements shrink and/or bodyfat go up.

 

[dmxdmx112v]

stretch marks??...childs play....some are more prone than others.

 

[silver_shadow]

i too suffer from bigorexia. no matter what ppl tell me abt being huge i still look in the mirror and am not satisfied. i know that i have grown, i keep records, i weigh myself every day. sometimes it isn't as simple as that. i really don't know what works for bigorexia.

 

[RADAR]

I have the same problem,crappy diet over the weekend made me look flat,i actually skipped mon workout but started eating right that day tues i'm blasting chest,cable flys,DB flys,bench press & tris i walk up to the mirror an it is like "HOLY SHIT"!!!! the cuts and chisled look got me motavated to blast out an extra 40 min of more intense sets!

RADAR

 

[Frackal]

I have the same problem. I'm at about 147 now at 6' 4" and despite people telling me I'm fucking LIT I still feel skinny in the mirror....even though I know intellectually I'm a massive beast

 

[supertech69]

I have the same problem. I'm at about 147 now at 6' 4" and despite people telling me I'm fucking LIT I still feel skinny in the mirror....even though I know intellectually I'm a massive beast

LMAO!!

 

[wend]

Thanks Fonz, C3, & Ripper...I think a monthly measurement is a good idea. And Fonz, we're going to get some of that stretch mark stuff to help prevent them...I'm not sure I can convince him to slow down!

Stryker, that's sweet, but we've been married for over ten years and have kids. : ) And mental problems or no, I really like him.

Frackal, that's hilarious. (He's 5'10" and 195 with low BF.)

Thanks, all of you.

 

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

I have a combination of bigorexia and anorexia. When I get cut I feel like a skinny weakling. When I bulk up and get strong I feel like a fat ass. I've been battling this for over a year now. Basically I end up gaining a little mass and then feeling fat so I cut some more and lose the mass I gained. This is no joke either. I think I need professional help.

 

[THEEGAME2544]

Wend, I've got that bigorexia, body-morphic disorder.....what ever the heck they call it nowadays......matter of fact, many of us on here have the same darn thing. Everyone around me says that I'm big, but I look at a 180 pound guy and question whether he is bigger than I am when I'm 250. I feel like I'm shrinking everyday. I have good days where I feel big, and bad days where I feel small. What works to help me, that might help him also is measurements. Have him step on the scale everyday. Most likely his weight is not changing, it's all in his perception of himself. The scale will give him his weight, then have him take a floppy tapemeasure and take his measurements: arms, chest, forearms, quads, calfs. Then he will see that his weight is not changing and his measurements are all the same, therefore he'll see that he has not shrunk, but it's just his mind playing tricks on him. Hope this helps.

 

[The_Ghost]

Wend, I've got that bigorexia, body-morphic disorder.....what ever the heck they call it nowadays......matter of fact, many of us on here have the same darn thing. Everyone around me says that I'm big, but I look at a 180 pound guy and question whether he is bigger than I am when I'm 250. I feel like I'm shrinking everyday. I have good days where I feel big, and bad days where I feel small. What works to help me, that might help him also is measurements. Have him step on the scale everyday. Most likely his weight is not changing, it's all in his perception of himself. The scale will give him his weight, then have him take a floppy tapemeasure and take his measurements: arms, chest, forearms, quads, calfs. Then he will see that his weight is not changing and his measurements are all the same, therefore he'll see that he has not shrunk, but it's just his mind playing tricks on him. Hope this helps.

I agree, most of us have it here. Hell I know I get really bad when I go off.

 

[Fast Twitch Fiber]

BTW... try complimenting your man on the size of his uh..manhood. That will work wonders (unless he's hung really small and knows it)

 

[RADAR]

Thanks Fonz, C3, & Ripper...I think a monthly measurement is a good idea. And Fonz, we're going to get some of that stretch mark stuff to help prevent them...I'm not sure I can convince him to slow down!

Stryker, that's sweet, but we've been married for over ten years and have kids. : ) And mental problems or no, I really like him.

Frackal, that's hilarious. (He's 5'10" and 195 with low BF.)

Thanks, all of you.

Just a note Wend have him take some vitamine E & zinc(above the rec amount) i have yet to get a stretch mark.Eckerd's drugs has products like Mederma & scar zone to help make them less noticeable.


RADAR

 

[liquidmuscle]

we all suffer from muscle dysmorphia thats why we do what we do...all the time i get compliments on my bi's/tri's but then i am asking my girl "Is that guy more cut/bigger than me?" its not just him

 

[wend]

Yeah, I know it's a common problem, which is why I figured some of you would know a good way to combat it.

Fast Twitch, that was the other problem...he felt like he was getting fat. But I pinched where his love handles used to be, and it's all muscle...same with his abs. There's the tiniest bit of skin fat (much of which I'm pretty sure is water), but I pushed in on it and made him feel how firm it is. He's got much less fat on him now than when he was twenty pounds lighter.

He's already feeling much better about his shape. (And as far as his manhood goes...there's never been a problem there, and he knows it.)

Thanks again, y'all.

 

[BigAndy69]

Take him on Rikki Lake and confront him about it. "My Man is all that, but he thinks he's fat!" That will work wonders.

 

[Gigantasor]

I am still on the quest for the "30lbs of lean mass in one day" thing. I know i can do it if I just work hard enough. I'm gonna get biggg. Gotta get Bigger. Need size. If I yell and sweat and groan and move lots of weight I will get it I just know it.

It hasn't happend yet but It's gonna. I sure am glad that I don't suffer from Bigorexia. I do suffer from greatbigerrectionia though.

Really though. Wend your on the right track measurements are the only real way to know that you are going in the right direction. They eyes are really messed up and the mind loves to play games. Between the two six plates to mee looks like nothing. My body however and my lowerback disagree completley. Good luck.

 

[psychedout]

If I didn't have bigorexia, I would never improve in BBing...

If you become satisfied with the way you look, you won't progress.... for me anyways...

 

[silver_shadow]

If I didn't have bigorexia, I would never improve in BBing...

If you become satisfied with the way you look, you won't progress.... for me anyways...

good point. the geeks who write abt and research bigorexia never key this in.

but i think maybe some bigorexics do need to see a shrink- i for one have become quite a recluse.

 

[wend]

LOL, Big Andy. I think if I took him on Ricki Lake that would put his mother in the grave.

Which wouldn't be such a bad thing.

KIDDING! Really. I'm just kidding. I love my mother-in-law. I really do...

 

[psychedout]

good point. the geeks who write abt and research bigorexia never key this in.

but i think maybe some bigorexics do need to see a shrink- i for one have become quite a recluse.

Indeed.

Funny thing, I wasn't sure what 'recluse' meant, so I looked it up in the dictionary beside me....

Reclue- one who withdraws from the world to live in solitude, or seclusion, as a hermit.... LOL

I thought that was an interestind definition.... hhehe.

 

[guards]

Wend,

I did a rather large research paper on this subject in University. If you are interested in some reading, shoot me an email and i will sent it to you. I got an A+ on it


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