IP, you're not getting it and clearly won't.
I grew up with money. a LOT of it- my parents paid for my college and graduate school too, plus spring breaks and anything else i wanted. and as soon as i saw that cake I laughed at the rediculousness of it.
this thread REEKS of "look at how privaledged i am". its not the issue of you having a simple bbq or a ball at the waldorf. you're here on a site of bodybuilders and weightlifters and powerlifters, and you show us some pretty, little, expensive cake your parents are going to buy for your "little BBQ" (which you failed to mention until called on it), and what were you expecting? everyone to say "oh, thats so pretty! you're so lucky!"?
really, what WERE you expecting here?
you are the one that told US how laid back you are. how you don't take anything here seriously, because its just the internet after all, and how this is purely entertainment for you, then you come here and make threads with personal agendas and get pissed when they don't work.
what happened to the girl who said she knows how to chill and just have fun?