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heatherrae
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i have to pack and load everything myself. This is going to be fun. 
feisty11975
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Been there, done that, don't wanna do it again!
Good luck hun...If I were near, I'd help ya!
Good luck hun...If I were near, I'd help ya!
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I know you would . You are a cutie.
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*raises hand*
I got that T-shirt too.... and yes, it heavily sucks. But hey, you are moving on to bigger and better things. Who knows what happy new adventures lie ahead of you?
I got that T-shirt too.... and yes, it heavily sucks. But hey, you are moving on to bigger and better things. Who knows what happy new adventures lie ahead of you?
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jnevin said:
with HIS money.... teehee
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uggggg.....I did that this summer.....by myself.....3 bedroom house.....
Look around for some illegals and pay them 30 bukcs per day
Look around for some illegals and pay them 30 bukcs per day
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The Shadow said:
30? Try 50$ then they get you with "It will be and extra 35$ for the TV".
WTF
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LOLBIKINIMOM said:
Well, I better get to it. I'm so overwhelmed that I dont know where to begin...lol.
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BIKINIMOM said:
LOL
Maybe.....
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Awww....you are a gem of a man, though. Unlike my dishonorable, cowardly, parsimonious, knuckle dragging neanderthol of an ex bf.MrMuscle said:id carry all your stuff for a kiss on the cheek
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heatherrae said:
I HATE packing.
We still have to get rid of all my stuff back in Jersey. I finally gave ALL of my kids' clothing to them a few months back. I will have to sell their beds, linens, give them any toys that I got for them, pack up ALL of their trinkets, etc... I have been putting it off for months but I have finally accepted that my kids havent lived with me for over a year now and I need to just move on.
When we finally find a way to live together again, we will just buy new stuff. Or not...
We will be back there for 2 weeks and will have to sell/donate/throw nearly everything away....
It's ok though. I have a life with my husband. Someday we will be a family. For now I have to try really hard to move on so that when my girls can be with us they will come to a happy healthy home. "Stuff" is not important, but it is all I have from them and it is VERY difficult to let go of it.... but I will find a way.
You can do it too darlin. Dont think about the past. Think about how you've grown and been made stronger by this experience. You get a clean new start - NOTHING to tie you to negativity.
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LOL...so long as it is free.Dial_tone said:
BIKINIMOM said:I HATE packing.
We still have to get rid of all my stuff back in Jersey. I finally gave ALL of my kids' clothing to them a few months back. I will have to sell their beds, linens, give them any toys that I got for them, pack up ALL of their trinkets, etc... I have been putting it off for months but I have finally accepted that my kids havent lived with me for over a year now and I need to just move on.
When we finally find a way to live together again, we will just buy new stuff. Or not...
We will be back there for 2 weeks and will have to sell/donate/throw nearly everything away....
It's ok though. I have a life with my husband. Someday we will be a family. For now I have to try really hard to move on so that when my girls can be with us they will come to a happy healthy home. "Stuff" is not important, but it is all I have from them and it is VERY difficult to let go of it.... but I will find a way.
You can do it too darlin. Dont think about the past. Think about how you've grown and been made stronger by this experience. You get a clean new start - NOTHING to tie you to negativity.
don't give up.
i mean, keep fighting to get them, at least a little.
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THat is terrible. I would want to kill my ex if he did that. Keep faith.BIKINIMOM said:I HATE packing.
We still have to get rid of all my stuff back in Jersey. I finally gave ALL of my kids' clothing to them a few months back. I will have to sell their beds, linens, give them any toys that I got for them, pack up ALL of their trinkets, etc... I have been putting it off for months but I have finally accepted that my kids havent lived with me for over a year now and I need to just move on.
When we finally find a way to live together again, we will just buy new stuff. Or not...
We will be back there for 2 weeks and will have to sell/donate/throw nearly everything away....
It's ok though. I have a life with my husband. Someday we will be a family. For now I have to try really hard to move on so that when my girls can be with us they will come to a happy healthy home. "Stuff" is not important, but it is all I have from them and it is VERY difficult to let go of it.... but I will find a way.
You can do it too darlin. Dont think about the past. Think about how you've grown and been made stronger by this experience. You get a clean new start - NOTHING to tie you to negativity.
ekks, i kinda know how that is. thankfully i didnt have to move any furniture or crap. heaviest thing i own is a 20" tv, which i can carry short distances.
I did move all my posessions from one dorm to another by myself back when i was in college, that sucked! new place on the 4th floor of another dorm hall, car loaded to the gills, had to go up stairs, yuck.
I did move all my posessions from one dorm to another by myself back when i was in college, that sucked! new place on the 4th floor of another dorm hall, car loaded to the gills, had to go up stairs, yuck.
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stilleto said:
We would never 100% give up. We have a plan. But the day to day backn'forth courtroom bullshit... One of the reasons why I have been so paralyzed to do ANYTHING with my life. No matter what I did or didnt do, my kids got taken from me. Now it is the fear that no matter what I do or dont do will keep me from EVER getting them back <---- THAT is what I have to let go of.
I am not the first person (mother OR father) who has been through this and sadly, I wont be the last. I have to find a way to finally pull my head out of my ass and just do whatever it is that I WANT to do with my life. Getting married was a big step. Hey, I allowed myself to trust another human being 100% again, so the rest should be a piece of cake.... right?
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I'm going to put my stuff in storage here in Fl and go to my dad's house for x-mas. I will decide from there what to do. =-)healother said:so heatherrae where are you moving to? Did you find an apartement that takes pets?
Well, I got the two really heavy tables on the truck. Now I just have to get my bed. I gave away all my other furniture when I came to live with him. Oh well. Damn, those tables were so heavy that I pulled on them for 2 hours to get them in the truck, and I had a hand truck.
MuscleMom was right. I should have been doing less cardio and heavier weights. Sure as heck would have come in handy today.
heatherrae said:I'm going to put my stuff in storage here in Fl and go to my dad's house for x-mas. I will decide from there what to do. =-)
Well, I got the two really heavy tables on the truck. Now I just have to get my bed. I gave away all my other furniture when I came to live with him. Oh well. Damn, those tables were so heavy that I pulled on them for 2 hours to get them in the truck, and I had a hand truck.
MuscleMom was right. I should have been doing less cardio and heavier weights. Sure as heck would have come in handy today.
dang, so you dont think some neighbors might want to help or something? or somebody from your job?
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I dont really know many people down here in fl. Anyway, i've gotten the heavy stuff now, anywayhealother said:
oh hun that sucks...I got help when I moved for all the heavy furniture. I had to move my table and all the boxes and stuff basically on my own, and it was not fun.
If I were there I so would have helped you!!!!
Just think, now you are free from that shit bag! That should be enough strength to move mountains with.
If I were there I so would have helped you!!!!
Just think, now you are free from that shit bag! That should be enough strength to move mountains with.
BIKINIMOM said:We would never 100% give up. We have a plan. But the day to day backn'forth courtroom bullshit... One of the reasons why I have been so paralyzed to do ANYTHING with my life. No matter what I did or didnt do, my kids got taken from me. Now it is the fear that no matter what I do or dont do will keep me from EVER getting them back <---- THAT is what I have to let go of.
I am not the first person (mother OR father) who has been through this and sadly, I wont be the last. I have to find a way to finally pull my head out of my ass and just do whatever it is that I WANT to do with my life. Getting married was a big step. Hey, I allowed myself to trust another human being 100% again, so the rest should be a piece of cake.... right?
yup. my father was where you are and he kept pushing and pushing till he won. which he did- against HUGE odds. he had an endless supply of money, which helped, but he had a lot of other HUGE negatives.
he didn't work either, and i didn't understand why he wasn't getting a job- he kept saying that he couldn't fight this fight AND work.
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MrMuscle said:id carry all your stuff for a kiss on the cheek
jeez EF guys need a Penis Union like they got with the Royal Order Of The Vagina.
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Done that stuff. Sucks. Hang in there.
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true, and I did get some cool presents, at least. =-) flat panel tv, scuba gear, new side tables. It's all good. Material stuff is replacable.
Well, the latest in the saga is that he had the sheriff and his lawyer and his drug addict, loser 18 year old son come out here and serve me with a 3 day notice that says if I don't get out in 3 days he is going to charge me 3000 in rent...rofl. The only person dumber than my ex is this scumbag lawyer he sent over here. I look a mess right now b/c I have no running water and I have been moving. She looked me up and down and smirked this superior smile. Hell, she just better wait until our day in court. She can't hold a candle to me intellectually or in any other way, and she is going to find that out the hard way.
Plus, they both new I was moving today. They just wanted to harass me some more. Well, they can keep trying, but in the end, he better just pack his toothbrush when he comes to court, because the truth will come out, and that man is going to jail this time. Hope he didn't pay his lousy lawyer much. She doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.
Well, the latest in the saga is that he had the sheriff and his lawyer and his drug addict, loser 18 year old son come out here and serve me with a 3 day notice that says if I don't get out in 3 days he is going to charge me 3000 in rent...rofl. The only person dumber than my ex is this scumbag lawyer he sent over here. I look a mess right now b/c I have no running water and I have been moving. She looked me up and down and smirked this superior smile. Hell, she just better wait until our day in court. She can't hold a candle to me intellectually or in any other way, and she is going to find that out the hard way.
Plus, they both new I was moving today. They just wanted to harass me some more. Well, they can keep trying, but in the end, he better just pack his toothbrush when he comes to court, because the truth will come out, and that man is going to jail this time. Hope he didn't pay his lousy lawyer much. She doesn't know her ass from a hole in the ground.
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stilleto said:
Yup it's a hyuge toll on one's psyche. Imagine being imputed a 40 hour work week even though you only work parttime because you have kids to take care of. Sooooo you work more hours to be able to support yourself only to have the courts take your children away from you for the hours that you work! <---- Happened to me.
When I was working fewer hours and making enough to support us (we lived VERY simply) as a dancer NO ONE questioned my parenting. (Different judges) But once I got a job as a receptionist, then personal trainer I lost custody of my kids 4 times in 3 years. I feel like I have been wearing a shock collar for the last 3+ years. No matter what I did, I got shocked by having my kids taken.
My husband is a tremendous positive influence in my life. He keeps saying over and over again, "HE CANT CONTROL YOU OR HURT YOU ANYMORE... YOU ARE FREE TO DO AS YOU WISH."
I thank God for him every day.
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heatherrae said:
GOOD FOR YOU!!!
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BIKINIMOM said:
I talked to a friend today who gave me really good advice. He made me realize that this guy is drawing at straws to keep the last vestiges of control over me that he can. He has sent people out here twice today to try to cut the electric off at the top of the telephone pole. Each time I explained to the guy that he is just a surly old spouse abuser, and they have gone away. That man creates his own misery. He knows I'm trying to move out tonight, but he just wants to exercise control. I'm cool as a cucumber though, cause I know he will never get anyone as good as me ever again, and he will always be an angry, unhappy alcoholic loser.
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heatherrae said:
Yup. With losers like this (male and female) it is ALL ABOUT CONTROL - NOT LOVE. Peeps like this are incapable of love. Sad, sad....
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i agree with all the other guys. i'll help but we need to have hot freaky sweaty monkey sex and day and night long.
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stay strong HR, you're almost done with the worst of it. Then YOU get to pull the strings.
