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Mental attraction,but not physical,can it work?
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Can't work you got to want to bone the one you are with.
chewyxrage
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well then wouldn't sex just be a chore - that's no way to live
theoak01
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thats what im sayin,so Im pretty close to cutting ties and running for the hills
she just keeps saying looks dont matter,but I know shes full of shit,because we fucked twice ,she wasnt into it at all,and now that this came out it certainly seems to be the cause of why.
its probably for the best I get my ass moving along,she always fucks with my head,for example tonight she was suppose to have plans,so I made some with my boys to hit the bar for pub night,when I told her she is all guilt trippy telling me to go have fun with the bar whores blah blah instead of hanging with her
she just keeps saying looks dont matter,but I know shes full of shit,because we fucked twice ,she wasnt into it at all,and now that this came out it certainly seems to be the cause of why.
its probably for the best I get my ass moving along,she always fucks with my head,for example tonight she was suppose to have plans,so I made some with my boys to hit the bar for pub night,when I told her she is all guilt trippy telling me to go have fun with the bar whores blah blah instead of hanging with her
KillahBee
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Nope. While a great personality can mos def make an average girl very hot, if there is no physical attraction there, then you are missing a piece of the puzzle. But then again, that won't matter after a kid or 2 comes flying out the ol love canal and she gets her hands around an edless supply of Ben & Jerry's. No sir, not even a blind mute could be turned on by that fat dragging ass, droopy pooptits and overall distaste for you once that ring hits that stubby sausage-finger.
I'd say it could work in your situation, but not if it was reversed. I see hot chicks with fat dudes all the time and I doubt they set out to find a porker. Guys are much more shallow for the most part. I don't think I could be with a fatty.
My ex said I wasn't her type when we first met. She was used to scrawny little faggots. Now she says she wouldn't go out with a guy if he isn't big.
My ex said I wasn't her type when we first met. She was used to scrawny little faggots. Now she says she wouldn't go out with a guy if he isn't big.
chewyxrage
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TheOak01 said:
you shouldn't even be thinking the word "settle"
you should be thinking "weekend fuck buddy" with no pillow talk
Pardon?Scotsman said:
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sigweed
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TheOak01 said:
dude you have your whole life to date late 20s girls. Sure they're more stable, but when you're actually elligble to date late 20s, you're going to miss the sweet teen poontang. Im 21, started the dating scene a little late i guess at 17, ive only dated 1 girl my age, all the rest younger. I've seen many an irrational female moment and blatant immaturity, but the sweet teen poontang makes it all worth it, to the point where i get so fed up with their stupid behaviour that when im actually late 20s, the late 20s girls will seem that much better
nvrbuffenuff_girl
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Sometimes you may find that you aren't entirely physically attracted to someone. Then you get to know them and over time that person can become attractive to you.
For example, my boyfriend of a year. A year ago I would never think I'd be dating someone who looks like him. Not that he is obese, or so ugly that I think of someone else when we screw. But when I met him I saw him as just a friend. At the time, I did find his eyes to be very beautiful and I liked his build but that was it. My ex boyfriend use to model so I guess I was ruined in a way. As I got to know my boyfriend he became more physically attractive to me.
I think it depends on the two individuals involved in the relationship.
For example, my boyfriend of a year. A year ago I would never think I'd be dating someone who looks like him. Not that he is obese, or so ugly that I think of someone else when we screw. But when I met him I saw him as just a friend. At the time, I did find his eyes to be very beautiful and I liked his build but that was it. My ex boyfriend use to model so I guess I was ruined in a way. As I got to know my boyfriend he became more physically attractive to me.
I think it depends on the two individuals involved in the relationship.
Scotsman
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TheOak01 said:
http://img31.exs.cx/my.php?loc=img31&image=kiltdoor.jpg
Here's me in my work kilt by my front door.
Cheers,
Scotsman
nvrbuffenuff_girl
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In a situation where there is no attraction whatsoever physical or mental it probably won't work. If she feels there is nothing to like about you whatsoever things more than likely won't change for her.
Sounds like it really doesnt matter what you think, the problems on her end.
Are you certain its your looks she finds unappealing?
In any case the answer is no. If one is truly unattracted to the person they are with, there isnt much that can be done. But there is a big difference between completely unattractive and not ideal in some way
Are you certain its your looks she finds unappealing?
In any case the answer is no. If one is truly unattracted to the person they are with, there isnt much that can be done. But there is a big difference between completely unattractive and not ideal in some way
Scotsman said:
HEY!! thats not true. i'm a very easy person to live with.
at one time, when my husband and i were considering divorce- he even said that i'd make someone else a great wife and that i'd have no trouble if i wanted to remarry- not cause of looks, just cause i'm easy going and stable and normal. i mean... pretty much normal.
usually.
anyway, oak... i think physical attraction can grow if you really like a person- i've resisted dating someone because i wasn't crazy about their look, but i got to know them and then thought they were hot.
Robert Jan
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How would you ever know anyway?
Its not like anyone talks to ugly chicks anyway is it?
\I mean why"?
Its not like anyone talks to ugly chicks anyway is it?
\I mean why"?
IwouldSlamU
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its works with blind people.....i saw this really cool story on dateline about 2 blind people that met and totally love each other
Ask yourself, "Self, if I found a mate that I was wildly attracted to but their voice, personality or intellect was less than desirable to you what would I do?"
Sometimes one sort of attraction will lead to others and sometimes not.
I say take the ride and enjoy the view untill the vacation's over.
Sometimes one sort of attraction will lead to others and sometimes not.
I say take the ride and enjoy the view untill the vacation's over.
jh1
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TheOak01 said:
AHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh....
You AAP and Lestat all need to start a support group. This crying in your beer crap is making my stomach do flips everytime I read it...
You all know the right answers... but you keep beating yourself up mentally and then coming back here and telling us all about it and getting the same advice - it is always the same answer from the folks at EF... it is the answer you all already know...
You are the one, neo.
There is no spoon.
milo hobgoblin
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Nope.. it wouldnt work for a guy... physical attraction plays a much greater role and is partially genetically driven.. you would fuck around eventually.
theoak01
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Im attracted to her,and milo your reason is why im weary,I know id fuck someone else if I wasnt into it physically,but I guess everyone is different.
for now Im just kinda going with shit ,trying not to get attached so I dont let her win,if she is playing games,and maybe things will workout,I dont really give a fuck
for now Im just kinda going with shit ,trying not to get attached so I dont let her win,if she is playing games,and maybe things will workout,I dont really give a fuck
milo hobgoblin
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Well Oak.. everyone (guys) is not different.
One of the beauties of evolution we all pretty much have the same desires and goals when it comes to women.
Dont feel bad.. 99% of straight guys would do the same thing..
the idiot male or retard female is the one who "thinks" they are different..
There is an ideal famel physique with slight differences based upon culture.. the further a woan deviates from that "ideal" physique.. the less innate physical attraction males will ahve for her..
Think about this.. if it werent true..t he how comes geeks and really ugly guys still prefer beautiful women buitl like Pam Anderson as opposed to women who are physically more analagous to them??
Because how smart you are and how you look doesnt change what you desire in a woman. Its built in and slightly modified by societal and or cultural standards..
Men do not vlaue intelligent women as much as physically attractive women because we did not evolve with women being the "caretakers" we evolved with them being the "babymakers" and the mroe a woman "looks" like a babymaker.. the mroe attractive she is.
Smart women know this and that why most of them resent the fuck out of more attractive women.
Havnt you ever noticed how a table of average looking women will belittle a hot slutty looking chick? Instead of congratulating her on her ability to attract men.
And to their dismay they will al be goign home alone while the hot little slut will be getting a man.
And it pisses the smart girl off because no matter how much she know about the evils of the Vietnam war or biochemistry.. you would rather bang the fuck out of the little slut bunny than her anyday.
One of the beauties of evolution we all pretty much have the same desires and goals when it comes to women.
Dont feel bad.. 99% of straight guys would do the same thing..
the idiot male or retard female is the one who "thinks" they are different..
There is an ideal famel physique with slight differences based upon culture.. the further a woan deviates from that "ideal" physique.. the less innate physical attraction males will ahve for her..
Think about this.. if it werent true..t he how comes geeks and really ugly guys still prefer beautiful women buitl like Pam Anderson as opposed to women who are physically more analagous to them??
Because how smart you are and how you look doesnt change what you desire in a woman. Its built in and slightly modified by societal and or cultural standards..
Men do not vlaue intelligent women as much as physically attractive women because we did not evolve with women being the "caretakers" we evolved with them being the "babymakers" and the mroe a woman "looks" like a babymaker.. the mroe attractive she is.
Smart women know this and that why most of them resent the fuck out of more attractive women.
Havnt you ever noticed how a table of average looking women will belittle a hot slutty looking chick? Instead of congratulating her on her ability to attract men.
And to their dismay they will al be goign home alone while the hot little slut will be getting a man.
And it pisses the smart girl off because no matter how much she know about the evils of the Vietnam war or biochemistry.. you would rather bang the fuck out of the little slut bunny than her anyday.
milo hobgoblin
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You know if more smart, plain looking women would just accept the truth and do their best to look better they would be so much happier in life. Get a boob job. Wear makeup, DONT cut your hair.. show some cleavage.. you know'' look attractive to men (unless of course they are gay then who cares... unless its porn LOL)
But they are always so god damn stubborn.. no living entity on this planet has mastered the fine art of "cutting off their nose to spite their face" better than an intelligent human female.
But they are always so god damn stubborn.. no living entity on this planet has mastered the fine art of "cutting off their nose to spite their face" better than an intelligent human female.
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TheOak01 said:
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