Marriage Failure?

[CrimsonKing]

anyone experience a failed marriage (i.e. divore or seperation) because of a general long-term parting of ways? I mean not the he/she beat me or sexed up xyz down the street or in the office. I mean just a awaking one day that damn, I'm living with someone I can't stand kind of failure?

If so, what, when, how, did it go? Kids? etc?

 

[WODIN]

Don't look at it as being a "Failed Marriage", look at as being really good at being single!

 

[knight69]

save the marriage, swap your wife w/ others. NOTHIN better than watching her get banged by some strager you picked up under a bridge or at the country club. A LAY IS A LAY!!!! SPICE UP YOUR DAMN LIFE SON!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[havoc]

save the marriage, swap your wife w/ others. NOTHIN better than watching her get banged by some strager you picked up under a bridge or at the country club. A LAY IS A LAY!!!! SPICE UP YOUR DAMN LIFE SON!!!!!!!!!!!!

This guy also said that the taste of discharge is divine, so listen up!

 

[knight69]

to have something devine is to be in a heavenly trance!!!!!!

 

[Temple]

hmmmmm...yeah. We were really young but that is pretty much what happened. We had a 1 year old at the time. Did everything we could to make each other miserable for about 5 years then somewhere along the line we grew up and realized that we had a child to raise. We are now pretty good friends and managed to raise a great kid. The main thing is
Don't fight about the money or the stuff - money and things can be reacquired
Just because the ex does or says something awful to you does not mean you need to do something in retaliation. It is hard to fight with someone when you are the only one fighting.
Don't say everything you think - some things just need to be let go.
Focus on doing the best you can for your kids, back each other up when it comes to discipline. The kids will play you and they do best if when they are in trouble there is nowhere to hide.

 

[velvett]

People sometimes grow upart and whether or not you can find each other all over again will determine if you have a future together.

You have to ask your self and your mate whether or not you want to make the effort to do so and if you already have with less than desirable results, you have to be honest with each other regarding what is best for both of you.













...just because it's not forever doesn't make it a failure.

 

[toga22]

Marriage is not meant to be a life-sentence that you are forced to carry out.... Although, it is never easy, it is meant to be a rewarding and enjoyable journey.

When it comes to the point where listening to the other person breathe, irrates the hell out of you....it just may be time for a break from each other. A few days away to re-evaluate what in life makes YOU happy...and what you need to feel that way.

But at the same time....do not make decisions too hastely....once the word "divorce" or "separation" are mentioned it spreads like a disease through everything that is good that you have left.


Good Luck to you.....

 

[The Shadow]

Velvett is wise.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

check out the link in my sig. seriously.

 

[CrimsonKing]

check out the link in my sig. seriously.

Thanks Bro.. the October seminar is relativy near me so I think I'll get my wife to go with me to that one. I'll let you know how it goes if you care..

thanks

 

[KHMER ROGUE]

If you can't stand to be in a marriage simply because you feel like both of you have grew apart or she/he irritates the hell out of you then you shouldn't be in a marriage at all. That's a horrendous reason for divorce. It never ceases to amaze me how people complain how their spouses have changed and they don't feel like they're in love with them anymore. Weak people.

Experiences in life is what shapes people' characters and thus, changing them. Nobody remains the same person after awhile. It takes two strong and intelligent people to make a successful marriage.

 

[THeMaCHinE]

Thanks Bro.. the October seminar is relativy near me so I think I'll get my wife to go with me to that one. I'll let you know how it goes if you care..

thanks

Hey good for you! That's making a very positive step! It's a couples weekend, so you'll definitely want to go together. Just approach it in a positive manner... (not: 'I want to go to this seminar to fix your behavior')

There's a ton of great stuff on that site, be sure to explore it too (and mention it to your wife too)... My wife and I went to a weekend about 2 years ago, and I can't tell you how much it helped us. This was even after individual and couples counseling...

Yes, do let me know how it goes...

 

[THeMaCHinE]

P.S. A couple of good books you may wish to get started on:

His Needs, Her Needs -- Dr. William F. Harley, Jr. (provided in course)
Relationship Rescue -- Dr. Phil McGraw
Love Must Be Tough -- James Dobson
Divorce Busters -- Michele Weiner-Davis

 

[stealth]

Ugh! My wife moved out a year ago with our three year old and then filed for a divorce. I tired every imaginable thing to get us to therapy and try- if for nothing else, the sake of our child. The fact is that i still love her but she has no willingness so i have had to accept my fate and concentrate on my part in alienating our relationship. It is the most painful thing I have ever been through.

 

[b fold the truth]

1) You can be you.
2) I can be me.
3) You can work on you.
4) I can work on me.
5) We can work on US.

B True

 

[curling]

When you build a great marriage nothing can tear it down. I am glad you are seeking help instead of giving up.

 

[BronzedGoddess]

How long have you been married? I ask becuase my marriage was BAD for the first 3 years. I really didn't like my husband, let alone love him, but after I really got to know him, I fell deeply in love with him. We lived apart for about a year, and that was my choice. I was so ready to get a divorce and we almost did, but I thank God that we didn't. What I'm trying to say is MAKE SURE A DIVORCE IS WHAT YOU WANT! I was so sure that I did not want to be married to him then one day I realized I couldn't imagine my life without him. Only you know what's best for you. Life's too short to be miserable. I wish you the best of luck with whatever choice you make.

 

[Citruscide]

1) You can be you.
2) I can be me.
3) You can work on you.
4) I can work on me.
5) We can work on US.

B True

Sweet words of advice, I only wish I could have taken them in the past.

C

 

[Formula]

Marriage is the Start of a Divorce

Nuff Said.

 

[HumorMe]

How long have you been married? I ask becuase my marriage was BAD for the first 3 years. I really didn't like my husband, let alone love him, but after I really got to know him, I fell deeply in love with him. We lived apart for about a year, and that was my choice. I was so ready to get a divorce and we almost did, but I thank God that we didn't. What I'm trying to say is MAKE SURE A DIVORCE IS WHAT YOU WANT! I was so sure that I did not want to be married to him then one day I realized I couldn't imagine my life without him. Only you know what's best for you. Life's too short to be miserable. I wish you the best of luck with whatever choice you make.

Inspiring post!
Glad the two of you stuck it out.

I've been married for 15 years and I can't imagine living without her. She's the best! Communication and trust seem to be our biggest attributes.

CK if you want it to work out, then you know what you have to do but if you don't, then don't delay the process any longer.

 

[b fold the truth]

Sweet words of advice, I only wish I could have taken them in the past.

C

Yes...you are right. Words that I will forever live by in every relationship. Notice though...it does take lots of work...and is not complete without the 5th one...

B True

 

[JOKER47]

I couldn't imagine my life without him.

I just got married for the second time in April. No matter how much she pisses me off, irritates me, snores, bitches, ignores me or complains...I can't imagine living without her.

All the time she does these things, she still makes me happier than anyone else in the world.


"Marry your best friend." If that doesn't make sense, you aren't ready for marriage.





Joker

 

[Frackal]

Marriage is like winning a pie eating contest and the prize is pie.

 

[b fold the truth]

I just got married for the second time in April. No matter how much she pisses me off, irritates me, snores, bitches, ignores me or complains...I can't imagine living without her.

All the time she does these things, she still makes me happier than anyone else in the world.

"Marry your best friend." If that doesn't make sense, you aren't ready for marriage.

Joker

Hope everyone reads that...

B True