Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below I just recently broke up with my finance. Reason : I love everything about him but I'm not sexually attracted to him at all. He calls and wants us to get back together. I would love to but I don't want to hurt him by rejecting him sexually. Has anyone had this problem? Any advice?
love but no attraction
- Thread starter zhara
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Personally, I think you did the right thing. I dated a guy for seven years and never was physically attracted to him. He was a great guy and treated me so well...but it just wasn't there. I tried to stay with him the last two years just because I didn't want to hurt him, but I ended up probably hurting him worse. I am now with a guy that I love more than anything and physically, it is hard to control myself sometimes when I am around him and it is amazing how much better it is
Good luck!!!
Good luck!!!
MaGilicuti
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how did you girls go out and date people you weren't attracted to? a guy would never do that. please explain because that really doesn't make sense to me. you were about to marry the guy even
Iv'e talked to girls about this and the reason usually seems that they have gotten hurt by another guy. They then look for an honest man ho treats them good and overlook their looks. To me if i'm not sexual attracted to you in any way then you have no chance with me
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cyberflash
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sexual attraction is not the issue here ... if you really like him ... sexual attraction should come with the 'package' ... how long have you been with him
blood_drinker
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I know wtf ? I don't get this, I'll second cyberflash's opinion
We met at my job...... He's a very good looking guy, but no he does not take care of his body the way I would like him to. He is out of shape. I'm not an extremist as far as health and fitness but I take care of myself as it is a requirement for my job and my health. I admire others who do the same.
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cher-e
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YOU CAN DATE A GUY THAT YOUR ATTRACTED TO AND THEN REALIZE AFTER SEX THAT YOUR NOT "SEXUALLY" ATTRACTED TO HIM. bUT EVERYTHING ELSE ABOUT HIM IS PERFECT TO YOU, SO YOU KEEP HOPING SEX WILL GET BETTER! BUT IT DOESN'T!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU CAN DATE A GUY THAT YOUR ATTRACTED TO AND THEN REALIZE AFTER SEX THAT YOUR NOT "SEXUALLY" ATTRACTED TO HIM. bUT EVERYTHING ELSE ABOUT HIM IS PERFECT TO YOU, SO YOU KEEP HOPING SEX WILL GET BETTER! BUT IT DOESN'T!!!!!!!!!!!!
blood_drinker
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WHATEVER ! I DON'T BUY THAT AT ALL!
I JUST THINK YOU ARE USING HIM THEN . BUT THEN AGAIN , I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND FEMALES. BUT SERIOUSLY, WTF?
I JUST THINK YOU ARE USING HIM THEN . BUT THEN AGAIN , I WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND FEMALES. BUT SERIOUSLY, WTF?
MaGilicuti
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word blood drinker. i think all the guys here don't agree with this shit. u love him or not? eventually in a relationship people just aren't as sexually attracted as they were at first. can't u guys just role play or get some videos like everyone else? i mean like most of the world is probably ugly
lynaghgrew
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yeah im getting married to a girl in october. that i love dearly but more like a sister than a gf.
and before u say i should break up with her. im 36 and its time to settle down.
and im a scumbag who fools around on the side
an before u say it. ive fooled around even when in love and lust with former gfs.
lifes shit sometimes
and before u say i should break up with her. im 36 and its time to settle down.
and im a scumbag who fools around on the side
an before u say it. ive fooled around even when in love and lust with former gfs.
lifes shit sometimes
cyberflash
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Maybe Lynaghgrew is not matured enough to get married .... it's a choice .... marriage is a commitment and a huge responsibility ... something that you should love doing 
lynaghgrew
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its patently obvious im not mature enough to get married.
thing is im 36 and got to pass on the old genes to the next generation.
otherwise who am i gonna leave the ranch too.
in the mean time i console myself with meaningless sex.
thing is im 36 and got to pass on the old genes to the next generation.
otherwise who am i gonna leave the ranch too.
in the mean time i console myself with meaningless sex.
I was like this with my last girlfriend. i really did love her, but i just was less and less attracted to her physically. it's ultimately what made me end the relationship. now i'm with a girl that i can't keep my hands off of. hehe....can't wait till after i work out to go get some!!!!!
LawDawg8
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You people are something else! But at least you're honest with yourselves. I personally could not be with someone that I didn't find sexually attractive... I'm a text-book scorpio and sex is a major outlet for me. If the sex isn't there, nothing else will be right. Fuck all that non-sex shit.....
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john937
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I wonder if part of what's going on here is the dynamics of who asks who out?
Guys ask women out on a date so they wouldn't consider asking one they weren't attracted to.
Since the woman got asked, they go along, thinking, "Maybe he'll grow on me".
If women were more comfortable being assertive and doing the asking,
they probably wouldn't make the mistake of going out for a long time where there's no chemistry.
What do you think. Anything to this?
Guys ask women out on a date so they wouldn't consider asking one they weren't attracted to.
Since the woman got asked, they go along, thinking, "Maybe he'll grow on me".
If women were more comfortable being assertive and doing the asking,
they probably wouldn't make the mistake of going out for a long time where there's no chemistry.
What do you think. Anything to this?
Steak Helmet
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Just to prove a point all women are crazy...
What are women?
LIFE SUPPORT FOR PUSSY...
Yes I will die a lonely old man, but I won't be alone.
What are women?
LIFE SUPPORT FOR PUSSY...
Yes I will die a lonely old man, but I won't be alone.
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