long distance relationship and fighting! HELP...

[doubles1]

so ive been ina long distance relationship for about 3 months now and its the hardest thing i have ever done. i am with the girl rite now that i want to marry and be with the rest of my life and i am sure of it...

but i wont be with her till june 10th and have to wait tijll then till i move to florida to be with her. we fight about little things whether its about the opposite sex or the fact one of us is going out....it hurts our relationship some and we say things we dont even mean....last nite we got into a fight and now we have made up and still love eachtother but its only been 4 days since i spent 12 days with her on my spring break and we got into a big fight already....how can i help make this work better and keep our relationship always happy until we can be toghether forever...


thanks for any replies...


dubz.1.

 

[avenirup]

Rule #1: Long distance relationships do not work.

 

[PoyeBoy]

forgetaboutit

 

[tripleblonde]

long distance relationships are trouble waiting to happen, at least from my experience, BUT that does not mean that it is impossible or that it can't work out....

bottom line, things are probably gonna be a tad tense until you two can be together because it's just too hard when you can't be around the person to know what their thinking, love on them, protect them, do little things for them that you know they love, etc....

if you really think she is the one, stick it out...try and put your bickering aside and count the days down together till you'll both be in the same city

good luck darling!

 

[Dial_tone]

Abandon Ship!

 

[avenirup]

long distance relationships are trouble waiting to happen, BUT that does not mean that it is impossible or that it can't work out....

So what are we waiting for...

 

[tripleblonde]

Rule #1: Long distance relationships do not work.

mmmm........you said it not me

 

[avenirup]

mmmm........you said it not me

Nah baby, nah......I didn't mean us

O well, I guess I will just have to move out there then......do you guys have TV and stuff like that yet in OK???

 

[tripleblonde]

Nah baby, nah......I didn't mean us

O well, I guess I will just have to move out there then......do you guys have TV and stuff like that yet in OK???

unfortunately no

but there is talk of installing running water w/in the year.....it's a statewide initiative that i think could really take off!

 

[avenirup]

unfortunately no

but there is talk of installing running water w/in the year.....it's a statewide initiative that i think could really take off!

 

[doubles1]

she is def the one...there is no chance i would break up with her or her break up with me...we are both dedicated to each other however we experience these little arguments that boil into big things....i am sticking it out its making it until june that is going to be tough for me...


dubz...

 

[bowling ball nutz]

hows the accutane bro??

 

[Fina Junkie]

get a britney spears poster. Increase the time you spend masterbating.

Problem solved

 

[string_bean00]

Abandon Ship!

That's one way to put it.

 

[sigweed]

if you're going to be together after june 10th and stay together (i.e. no more long distance) then hang in there

i just broke up with my long distance gf, because the best possible outcome was it stayed a long distance relationship... but i was planning on marrying her, id stay with it. and yes, fights definitly did happen... but they happen in every relationship. Just shrug it off, appologize and move on with it

 

[Imnotdutch]

Shit its only a couple of months......sit it out.

If you find yourselves arguing about the same things over and over just talk it out and come to some agreement. If you to really want to be together you will figure it out.

And to think I gave up believing in love when I was like 6.

 

[onebigab]

It's real hard to make a long distance relationship work. That's where your problem is. There's gotta be a trust issue here if you argue about one's going out for awhile. I've been there, done that. If you guys love each other the way you say you do, then you should not have to make this work. It should just happen. If you guys start to argue take a little time out from each other.(yeah sounds gay) You need to cool down and be rational with each other. You won't accomplish anything if your arguing. Good luck and make up.

 

[doubles1]

thnksx ...........ne one else???

 

[Sub-Zero]

tell her exactly what you posted on here, and then ask if you can see other people until june 10th.


this way you can totally forget about her untill then so you have nothing to argue about

 

[b fold the truth]

It happens.

Long distance? I think that Nefi and I are about 7,000 miles a part...or something like that.

Takes LOTS of patience, love, PURE HONESTY, complete understanding, respect, and lots of deep breaths. It can happen though.

I'm moving in September.

B True

 

[PHATchik]

Long distance relationships are extremely hard. It's so easy to nitpick at the other person and find little things to fuss about that can blow up into a full blown argument. And this can happen a hell of a lot more than it should. Basically, you are missing that person so much that you are completely frustrated because you can't be by their side and vice versa. It's hell on your emotional status.

If you rarely get to see them, it's even worse. If you don't even have a set date to count down to, it's even worse. You have to face uncertainty of whether or not this is best for you and whether it might be better to call it quits. The fights become more frequent and sometimes, it seems like it really would be best to go your separate ways.

Just remember though, you love her. You honestly believe that she is the woman you want to marry. You can envision the two of you having a house, raising kids, and growing old together. It can be really hard to find that person that you honestly want to spend the rest of your life with. So when things start getting tough, just think about good times, old memories, and future happenings that are yet to come. And when she starts fussing over something insignificant, realize that this is just as hard on her as it is on you.

Long distance may be hard, but if you can make it through it, you'll be so glad you did. Sorry for the long post, just had a lot to say on this one.