Long Distance Insanity!

[lil'tangerine]

So this long distance relationship shit is driving me absolutely crazy! It's going on three months and there's still no end in sight! I just wanna be with my man...
Things seem to be getting harder for both of us. We argue and fight so much more than ever before. We've been together for almost two years and now I worry that he's gonna meet someone. I am getting so insecure and want to address this with him, but I am so tired of fighting! I dunno if he's being more insensitive lately or if I'm just being an emotional wreck...I feel like I am always crying about stupid little things. He isn't the expressive type who professes his undying love for someone. I know I shouldn't sweat the small stuff, but it all starts to add up and make me crazy.

Ladies, are any of you in LDR's? How do you cope when it seems to be too much to handle. I love him with all my heart, but feel sometimes it would be easier to just give up.

 

[SoKlueles]

Dont give up if u really love him. You are fighting with him because you miss him and you are worried that hes going to meet someone else right? Hes probably fighting with you because of the same thing, men are insecure. They cant really talk about their problems, well the men ive been around.
It sucks having a long distance relationship, maybe you should surprise him and go visit him or something?

 

[wutangsfiancee]

Girl I hear you..... Wutangnomo and I are in a LDR, and I will tell you it is tough, you just need to remind yourself you love him and he loves you, and yes you may want to go and visit him, surprise him... You will feel better and so will he, spend some time with your honey. But the whole thing about LDR's is trust, you have to be able to trust each other. But when you are feeling (crabby)....lol... should we say when you are talking to him take a deep breath and remind yourself I LOVE HIM and HE LOVES ME... Hope it helps you....

 

[lil'tangerine]

Thanks gals...

That was my rage after not sleeping all night stressing out about everything and anything! We do love each other very much and this LDR is real hard since we spent so much time together before he left! We have so much fun together. I think I've been feeling sorry for myself sometimes since I'm still here in the same shitty ass city with nothing to do and he's off on a new adventure! Deep breaths help and reminding myself I am going to get there somehow or some way!

I do wanna go visit, but I'm trying to get a visa myself to be able to move down there with him..so it seems silly to go visit when I could possibly be there shortly. If things don't get moving soon with this visa crap I am definately gettin' on a plane soon. He'll be calling in sick for a few days that's for sure!!!

 

[velvett]

I couldn't do it.

There a lot of people that have and do so successfully so don't give up hope.

 

[Werd]

I feel you, bigtime. I have had them before and as long as there is trust it works for me. Neither worked out for me but distance was not the deciding factor. Neither man was for me...

I LDR is not my preference but I would do it again. My life is full so I have more than enough to keep me busy. Also have a crazy ex that will never go away so I all but have given up on ever having a REAL relationship with anyone.

Good luck.

PS - reading on that thread on chat.

GET SOME NEW "FRIENDS".