Let's just see who's got it easy here.

[68GT350]

Ever feel like you've hit rock bottom and there's no light at the end of the tunnel? Ever feel like you're constantly swimming upstream in life? How about living life living for others, sacrificing so much and getting nothing in return, when all you want is common courtesy and a little thought?

Ever expected so very little of people and didn't even get that? Have you ever trusted someone with everything and been betrayed completely? Have you ever had your parents tell you their love IS conditional and you are a complete failure and dissappointement when what's really wrong are a few bad decisions in life?

Just wondering how everyone else is holding up, here...

 

[naturally anabolic]

ever danced with the devil under the pale moon light?

yes boach you know i have.

 

[68GT350]

In all honesty, your problems make mine seem like spilled milk, my man. I don't know how you cope. Shit always seems so bleak lately.

 

[vinylgroover]

If anyone has their physical and mental health intact, then yes, all of us have it easy, ALL OF US.

Anything else we have or don't have in life is what we make of it.

Here' a short list of people who don't have it easy;

Children born in most developing African nations
Political prisoners
People born with a disability (mental or physical)
Children in foster homes
Land mine victims
(To name but a few)

I don't mean to make light of anyone's personal problem, but every now and then i think a little perspective in our lives is warranted.

 

[HighIntensity]

good to see you can still post at least

 

[68GT350]

If anyone has their physical and mental health intact, then yes, all of us have it easy, ALL OF US.

Anything else we have or don't have in life is what we make of it.

Here' a short list of people who don't have it easy;

Children born in most developing African nations
Political prisoners
People born with a disability (mental or physical)
Children in foster homes
Land mine victims
(To name but a few)

I don't mean to make light of anyone's personal problem, but every now and then i think a little perspective in our lives is warranted.

I try to think that way--imagining how so many people have it so much worse and it depresses me further and makes me sick of myself for being so selfish. I mean, how dare I complain, right?

 

[naturally anabolic]

complain all ya like, it is your right to do so, to others they may not seem like a big deal but to YOU they are.

do not try to compare yourself to others, it only makes things worse.

 

[BodhiDharma]

you need some of this

:havoc:

 

[Jimsbbc]

I feel the same way Boach. I've never been so stressed out in my entire life. This shit has to end soon. Something has got to give.

 

[WODIN]

Learn to meditate.

 

[Charvelle]

I try to think that way--imagining how so many people have it so much worse and it depresses me further and makes me sick of myself for being so selfish. I mean, how dare I complain, right?

It is good to make that realization sometime, go drive through the
drug district in your local big city, visit the psychiatric ward at your
local hospital, look at homeless people sitting on bus benches for
hours on end. You my friend have hope & promise.

 

[vinylgroover]

I try to think that way--imagining how so many people have it so much worse and it depresses me further and makes me sick of myself for being so selfish. I mean, how dare I complain, right?

Both you and naturally anabolic have missed the entire point of my post.

You have the opportunity to turn things around. None of the above examples i gave have that opportunity. I assume your health is ok. So then, the decision is up to you. You can take a positive approach and look for ways that will turn things around for you, or you can perpetuate your current feelings and make things worse by constantly dwelling on the negatives.

It's all about taking the positives and working with that. Starting with you being grateful for your health. The next positive is......... and keep working away at it like that.

Give it a try GT

 

[naturally anabolic]

Learn to meditate.

doesn't seem to help me, i tried to but my mind is a battlefield, i really hate my mental disorder, i can never achieve peace

 

[68GT350]

Well VG,

I've lived my life always looking at the bright side of things. I'm sick of it. I'm tired of saying, "well, this sucks but look at the bright side." Why do I always have to find solace in a mundane detail?

It seems like I say, "at least I still have my health" while everything crashes around me. I'm a damn good person, damn it. I respect my religion, I help people in need, I'm loyal to my friends (no Magilicuti remarks please...everyone fucks up), I'm nice to old people, I follow a very strict code of morals and ethics and what's my reward? Basically, everthing that can go wrong, DOES.

Now, i'm working 80 hours a week to recover and life just seems all the more shitty. All I do is work and sleep and post here for a few mins.

Meditation sounds like a great idea but I barely have time to sleep nevermind sitting in one spot thinking about one hand clapping.

 

[68GT350]

you need some of this

:havoc:

Amen

 

[WODIN]

doesn't seem to help me, i tried to but my mind is a battlefield, i really hate my mental disorder, i can never achieve peace

No one ever does achieve a mental peace, well maybe Homer Simpson, the nut of is that you meditate in order to achieve a state of mental clarity where your thoughts, feelings and happenings are like watching a movie or seeing the waves of the ocean meet the shore.

What's weird is that I've been meditating before, had a state of mind where I was observing myself, meditate a mantra, think a thought and sing a song in my head all at the same time. Sort of like being the kid watch the carnival of the mind pass by.

 

[vinylgroover]

But what are the options GT, giving up.

You told me you're a good person. Don't you find any solace in that? You can't control what people around you do and think and how they treat you. All you can do is what you're doing, being a decent person. You are only young, 22 i think.

You have so much time ahead of you to turn things around, and i promise you, all the hard work you are putting in now will set you up for that, why? because it's building and strengthening your character. Sure, it may not be giving you the financial and material rewards you feel you are working so hard for, but it's building your toughness, resilience and character, things no amount of money can buy.

I've seen your posts around here and you've got a good head on your shoulders for a young guy. You will prevail longer term if you stick at it and keep true to yourself, which it sounds like you've done all through the hardships you've faced

 

[T-800]

everything is relative. if you lived in ethiopia, you might just want food. if you live in l.a., you might just want a hot chick. although it's true some people are worse off, how you feel individually is relative. we all have our problems.

 

[circusgirl]

Both you and naturally anabolic have missed the entire point of my post.

You have the opportunity to turn things around. None of the above examples i gave have that opportunity. I assume your health is ok. So then, the decision is up to you. You can take a positive approach and look for ways that will turn things around for you, or you can perpetuate your current feelings and make things worse by constantly dwelling on the negatives.

It's all about taking the positives and working with that. Starting with you being grateful for your health. The next positive is......... and keep working away at it like that.

Give it a try GT

He's right. Whe you are feeling really bad it's easy to view the above as though someone is "lecturing" you or criticising you for being deperssed. However, I know that's NOT what he means - he means that in fact, much as though we all sometimes hate ourselves and blame ourselves when life goes pear-shaped, life gets shit sometimes for everyone and it's not anyone's fault. The thing to do is not put yourself down to yourself all the time and say "I'm a failure" but tell yourself that you are a good person, talented lifter etc, list all the people who care about you - if they caer about you, you're doing something right, right? and so on.

I recommend the "feeling good handbook", check amazon, it's about turning round the steam of negative self-thought we all have to being positive to yourself. Being positive does not equal having to grin and bear it, but learning to like yourself and giving yourself a break. I think everyone on here on elite has high expectations of themselves and pushes themselves harder than the norm, remember, you don't have to be perfect, sometimes it's ok to let things slide a bit.

 

[Frackal]

I am extremely lucky and very thankful for all that I have. Seriously.

 

[The Ranger]

IF



If I could only find enough drugs to cancel this pain
this slow alcohol suicide would cease
bringing my tears to drought
and absorbing my uncertainty

If only my sanity were sanitary I could stay clean
washing away the filth that has built on my soul

If I could only add 2 feet to my grave
I'd be 8 feet under and that much more forgotten
Never erecting my marker
making my death like my life, unnoticed...

If only she had kissed my pale face
stained by her lips
leaving me my only keepsake
one tattered love

If I could only wrap myself around the blanket
giving warmth to an inanimate object
placing its fiber across my face
wondering into a deep sleep

In hope to find a happiness of unknown...


I think this one is rather fitting....

Ranger

 

[casavant]

Reading about someone who died tragically at a young age or perusing the pictures at www.rotten.com always makes me feel a lot better when I feel like life has got me by the balls.

 

[Lumberg]

No one ever does achieve a mental peace, well maybe Homer Simpson, the nut of is that you meditate in order to achieve a state of mental clarity where your thoughts, feelings and happenings are like watching a movie or seeing the waves of the ocean meet the shore.

What's weird is that I've been meditating before, had a state of mind where I was observing myself, meditate a mantra, think a thought and sing a song in my head all at the same time. Sort of like being the kid watch the carnival of the mind pass by.

so that's what senility's like....

 

[Raina]

I'm not sure anyone really "has it easy"....at least not for long periods of time. Joy and peace seem to be fleeting moments. We all have our challenges, flaws, and demons.

 

[Bullit]

As the immortal Flavor Flave once said:

It was you that chose your due
You built a maze you cant get through
I tried to help you all I can
Now I cant do nuttin for you man

I cant do nuttin for ya man
You got all these people on your back now
I cant do nuttin for ya man
Flavor flav got problems of his own
I cant do nuttin for you man

Go lean on shells answer man
I cant do nuttin for ya man
You jumped out of the jelly into a jam

I cant do nuttin for ya man
You want six dollars for what?
I cant do nuttin for ya man
You better man kiss my but
I cant do nuttin for ya man
Im busy tryin to do for me
I cant do nuttin for ya man
Thats the way the ball bounces gee

Bass for your face, kick that shit