kids that are cvnts about eating...

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reason 45733546776 not to date single moms

 

[jnevin]

It can be maddening to get my daughter to eat sometimes. One day she'll love something, the next she won't touch it. When it's getting close to meal time I don't let her snack or drink anything at all so she's as hungry as possible. When it's time to eat I usually feed her what I think she needs the most first (usually veg) and will give her the rest after she's eaten what I think is a suitable amount. I'm lucky in the sense that she doesn't really like junk food, but she's so tiny (5 percentile height and weight) that I feel like I need her to eat as much as possible. What's helped for me is to sit there with her the whole time, kind of play with her and feed her/ let her feed me, and not treat her puny appetite like she's doing something wrong.

You're taking on a hell of a big project with this woman with all she has going on with her kid and her ex, and it sounds like you're handling it all well. But don't make the mistake of thinking anything will be a quick fix because you're looking from the outside in and feel like you can change something because common sense would say it's the right thing. Kids defy common sense and single parents have so much on their plate they may miss some things or lose sight of details because they have so many responsibilities. It's really hard being a single parent and you have your work cut out for you if you're really willing to step up and be a maing figure in the kid's life.

 

[msinnott1000]

You should start paying for your own food

I do! Well not all of it, I put in 50 bucks a week.

 

[msinnott1000]

uhh..how old are you?

18

 

[smurf2]

Listen to Nev. don't think you're going to come in with some magical fix for your gf's kid

 

[caligirl85]

It can be maddening to get my daughter to eat sometimes. One day she'll love something, the next she won't touch it. When it's getting close to meal time I don't let her snack or drink anything at all so she's as hungry as possible. When it's time to eat I usually feed her what I think she needs the most first (usually veg) and will give her the rest after she's eaten what I think is a suitable amount. I'm lucky in the sense that she doesn't really like junk food, but she's so tiny (5 percentile height and weight) that I feel like I need her to eat as much as possible. What's helped for me is to sit there with her the whole time, kind of play with her and feed her/ let her feed me, and not treat her puny appetite like she's doing something wrong.

You're taking on a hell of a big project with this woman with all she has going on with her kid and her ex, and it sounds like you're handling it all well. But don't make the mistake of thinking anything will be a quick fix because you're looking from the outside in and feel like you can change something because common sense would say it's the right thing. Kids defy common sense and single parents have so much on their plate they may miss some things or lose sight of details because they have so many responsibilities. It's really hard being a single parent and you have your work cut out for you if you're really willing to step up and be a maing figure in the kid's life.

Very solid advice!

 

[nangiggles]

and dont show a "lemme show you how it's done even though I have no kids" attitude or she'll get pissed.

 

[cindylou]

At least he cares enough to read parenting and child development books. I think it is cute. At the same time, usually every mom or dad does what they think is best and we are going to make mistakes. I'm sure she has considered her son's eating habits and is doing what she thinks is best. I'm pretty sure I just ruined my daughter by being too hard on her while potty training, but I got that great idea by reading too many books combined with an impatient and sometimes overly harsh parenting style and strict personality. I don't know when I'll be done feeling guilty about that; I really hope Freud is full of shit (ha) It sucks we can't be perfect; we just don't need someone telling us about all the mistakes we are making all the time because we'll make them,and sometimes being too critical can make us feel like we are bad moms or bad dads...whatever. Be careful with being too critical, otherwise I think it's great that you care.

 

[*ebony*]

the way i handle it is "look this is what we are having you are gonna sit here untill you eat some of it capiche?"
but the lady likes to cater to needs more, more touchy feely about it..."oh we'll make something you like teehee"
meanwhile a lot of food is getting wasted (i'm the one buying most of it)...reading up on it apparently modern thinkers say it's bad to force kids to eat...but jr just won't eat anything, then acts like a major cvnt cause he's blood sugars are low.
what's your opinion?
dicusssssssssssssss

momma took your approach most of the time. Every now and then my brothers and i would have a moment, but we always knew who was boss.

You lose the power of authority with kids, its hard to get it back. I dont have alot of advice since i don't have much experience in raising kiddos. And its not ur kid no matter how you feel about him so you need to talk to the mom about supporting you or come with some compromise that wont let the kid run the show.

 

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