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I'm not jelous and like it when other ppl fidn the guy im with attractive.
Also gives u incentive to keep lookin ur best
Also gives u incentive to keep lookin ur best
marshallmadman
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I am the jealous type. I have to try really hard to control it.
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The Shadow
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Prettylittlepest said:
good post
ditoThe Bigdawg said:
wnt2bBeast
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nope but it also depends on your S.O
if they dont make you feel like your the only one and they are very flirty then yeah i can be jelous...
if they dont make you feel like your the only one and they are very flirty then yeah i can be jelous...
Sugarplum said:
I'm not the jealous type.
I've never been in a LTR with a female who was that way either.
I simply don't tolerate it, if a woman isn't secure enough in the relationship that she has to be possessive and controlling, then I will drop her yesterday.
I only date independant women.
DIV
wnt2bBeast said:
that makes sense.
for those of you who said you aren't jealous- would you be if your S.O. was showing some attention to someone else?
would you not care if they were very specific about you being the only one in their heart?
I'm not usually a jealous person, but i need to feel secure that i'm the only one.
Prettylittlepest said:
ditto.
In all honesty, the only time I get jealous is if I'm going through an insecure phase (which is not very often), and when that's the case I recognize that it's due to my own insecurity and do something about it. I'm rarely insecure, though, but I know people who are and are too controlling because of their own insecurities. Unnecessary jealousy and jealous that's not kept under control can really ruin a good relationship!
wnt2bBeast
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Mr. dB said:
true..rage also comes to mind
Sugarplum said:
The type of women I date aren't like that, Sugarplum.
They don't flirt with other guys, because they know I don't allow it, and it's understood. I don't have to say it, they know me well enough to understand what my authority means. I don't hesistate to put a woman in her place, and she knows the limits and boundaries.
Simply put, the women I date aren't the type to give any other guys the time of day.
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DIVISION said:The type of women I date aren't like that, Sugarplum.
They don't flirt with other guys, because they know I don't allow it, and it's understood. I don't have to say it, they know me well enough to understand what my authority means. I don't hesistate to put a woman in her place, and she knows the limits and boundaries.
Simply put, the women I date aren't the type to give any other guys the time of day.
DIV
Women love you.
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The Shadow
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DIVISION said:Mature women love me.
Immature, delusional, superficial women hate me with a passion.
DIV
Hahahahhaaaa........NICE.
I make sure the women I am with always knows she is the only one and I have been lucky enough to have always been with women who make me feel the same way.
I had always dated women who do get a lot of attention but they have enough respect for me and themselves and never disrespected me or crossed the line.
I had always dated women who do get a lot of attention but they have enough respect for me and themselves and never disrespected me or crossed the line.
wnt2bBeast
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DIVISION said:The type of women I date aren't like that, Sugarplum.
They don't flirt with other guys, because they know I don't allow it, and it's understood. I don't have to say it, they know me well enough to understand what my authority means. I don't hesistate to put a woman in her place, and she knows the limits and boundaries.
Simply put, the women I date aren't the type to give any other guys the time of day.
DIV
what exactly is a womans place?
wnt2bBeast
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thats what i was trying to say but you said it better..ChefWide said:
im changing my answer to this lol
wnt2bBeast said:
chef should write most of my answers cause i'd sound less retarded.
i was wondering how DIV puts a woman in her place too.
Personally, i don't respond well to 'being put in my place'- i'm much better with a sincere talk and then i'm the most understanding and compromising person around.
I'm not outwardly jealous,otherwise I would be going insane with my wife's attention-hound exibiting behavior.It does hurt,but I try to just not pay attention to it enough to let it spur me into a response.She'll never change,and it's not even worth the waste of emotion for me anymore.I can say that I would really appreciate being with someone who didn't behave that way though.
wnt2bBeast
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Sugarplum said:
funny you assumed the position right after i picked up the tab?
sigweed
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i can get pretty jealous
i hate it, but the more i care about someone the more jealous i get
i guess im shallow but the girls i end up with are all really pretty and get way too much attention from other guys when we go to bars and stuff... I've never been cheated on before so im not sure why im like that
i just got out of a long distance relationship with an absolutely gorgeous girl... every single guy in her residence was all over her all the time, got really annoying when i went to visit
i hate it, but the more i care about someone the more jealous i get
i guess im shallow but the girls i end up with are all really pretty and get way too much attention from other guys when we go to bars and stuff... I've never been cheated on before so im not sure why im like that
i just got out of a long distance relationship with an absolutely gorgeous girl... every single guy in her residence was all over her all the time, got really annoying when i went to visit
Sugarplum said:
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Sugarplum said:
Well I don't flirt with other women in a relationship, so there isn't any problem on my part. If I had started dating a woman, and she started pulling that flirting shit, I'd have it out with her and lay things down.....'cause I don't allow it. That's what "putting her in her place" means.
Sugarplum, sincere talks only go so far, if she was mature enough to respond to a "mature talk" she wouldn't be flirting in the first place.
DIV
It's a human emotion that everyone has, but one that is better off controlled. Jealousy doesn't bother me, it's the need that some people have to make their partner jealous that bothers me. Yes, there are lots of people out there who are insanely jealous, and that is their problem, but when you see people do things on purpose to get their partner jealous, then you have to ask why? More often than not the answer is insecurity, one playing on the insecurity of the other.
wnt2bBeast
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well its a good thing no one else was in the rest except for the waitressSugarplum said:
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who was very nice to ask you if you needed a hand with it..
sigweed said:
It's really easy as the person receiving all the attention to make your mate feel comfortable - that is if that person can get over their own ego that receives the attention to give a shit about someone else's feelings.
You CAN be the center of attention and make is crystal clear to other that you can look all you want but you're not gettin' any because MY MATE is the only one who will and btw here he/she is now, why don't you come and meet him/her.
If your ex cared about your feelings she would have made part of the attention she was getting.
But that's just me.
theoak01
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Huck man I feel bad for ya,it seems like your wife treats ya like shit with little regard for your feelings, I cant say I agree on the clothing thing as with women I probably was attracted to her because of how she dresses and wouldnt expect it to change cuz of me,but the flirting hurts
DIVISION said:
well, i agree that a mature person wouldn't be flirting with other people, either behind your back or especially in front of you, but there are always misunderstandings.
one partner FEELS like their SO was flirting and the other didn't realize it looked that way- thats probably common and just a short talk away from being resolved. "hey... i didn't really like that when you blah blah blah". "oh.. i'm sorry. i didn't even realize i did that. I won't do it again."
"ok".
thats all.
Funny thing is,when I was young,I was REAL jealous(after being fucked over a few times)and I would go as far as to throw down with dudes flirting with my G/F.After obseving my wife's behavior and having people report it back to me,I realized I would be a complete idiot fighting or even confronting any dude in regards to her,as she totally eggs the shit on.
CrazyK said:
I'm not sure.
Sugarplum said:
Hard for her to do that when she's never around,lol.
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The Shadow
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HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex said:
Stop bitching then....hehehehe
The Shadow said:
Did you land that Transporter role corn?
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Ulcasterdropout
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I'm an extremely jealous person in general...
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Ulcasterdropout
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I did very well, academically, in college. The fact the women avoided me is prolly the reason...No distractions.DIVISION said:You would not make it in college......those sorrority bitches would have you danglin' on the strings.......
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yes..don't let the screen name fool you.DIVISION said:You graduate, homeslice?
DIV
I did well in school, life is another story. I flunked outa that good and proper like...
ChefWide said:
said well
my problem is i tend to get jealous if i think to far into hypothetical situations. I realize that it is my own insecurities and my walls that i have built up. I have with age become more secure and openminded about things i never used to be. I am a very vulnerable woman that loves to please the person im with.
...but not as muchJealousy is what took a toll on my marriage. I'm the least bit jealous but my X-husband was very much so... As long as I felt loved and knew he cared... him flirting talking.. to others bothered me NONE... I knew where he laid his head each and every night.. sadly enough, he didn't feel the same. I never felt a need to flirt.. etc with anyone, I was happy with what I had.
I knew walking in the relationship he was a bit jealous, but hoping that the security in our relationship would ease him up.. but likewise as time went on.. his jealousy grew. Jealous is a spawn of Satan. if you ask me.. hehe. I HATE it..
Trust.. be true.. jealousy gets you nowhere, you can't hold someone from something they want....
I knew walking in the relationship he was a bit jealous, but hoping that the security in our relationship would ease him up.. but likewise as time went on.. his jealousy grew. Jealous is a spawn of Satan. if you ask me.. hehe. I HATE it..
Trust.. be true.. jealousy gets you nowhere, you can't hold someone from something they want....
DIVISION said:Dakotah: when you get insecure you get jealous and start thinking "what ifs". You tend to overthink things and really get obsessed with things, instead of focusing on the reality of the situation. We've been over this.
DIV
i had a feeling you would reply to this.
very true my what if s are a thing that will pass with time. With the right person by my side (which I feel I have) then those what ifs will diminish.
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Ulcasterdropout
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D, you're such a beautiful and special women. Jealousy should bounce off you like rain dropsDakotah said:
Robert Jan
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im not easily jealous
when i am i dont show it
I hate the jealousy factor, its such drama
my girl will sometimes play on jealousy when she is a bit insecure about our relationship. I dont really like it, it's not real, not honest
when i am i dont show it
I hate the jealousy factor, its such drama
my girl will sometimes play on jealousy when she is a bit insecure about our relationship. I dont really like it, it's not real, not honest
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Lady Viking
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I´m a little bit jealous. But I don´t show it.
ditto.Sugarplum said:i think i'm probably a little insecure, but i know thats MY issue, not my partners and i don't 'project' that onto him.
if someone loves me, i try to trust that there is a reason.
and my man is not the jealous type either. he trusts me. i think he gets a kick out of other people checking me out or hitting on me.
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The Bigdawg said:
Agreed. I make sure my bf knows that he is the only one. This isn't hard to do, since I really don't pay attention to other guys when I'm in love with someone.
ChefWide said:
This is pretty much how I feel... makes sense if you allow yourself to open your heart to someone.
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Usually the most jealous people are the ones that cheat themselves.
Ironic huh?
Ironic huh?
I'm not the jealous type. I can be and have been hurt, but I also genuinely believe that when people hurt you, living well is truly the best revenge.
I therefore try and focus that pain into bettering myself and making myself a more complete, wholesome and successful person.
The problem with this strategy is that it ultimately narrows your social options to an ever smaller group, and when you get hurt, you have fewer places to seek comfort.
This strategy, pursued to an extreme, makes you an extremely well-developed, successful person with so much insight into others' behavior that you find it difficult to overlook flaws and pursue relationships, because you have already been there and done that.
People, in turn, begin to dislike you because in their own minds, which have not benefited from the scrutiny to which you have subjected yourself, you are condescending toward them.
The person I most look up to tells me I am right - the circle does get smaller, but it will begin to include very cool people....I have not seen them, though he has, and he finds great satisfaction in it.
This life is so damn hard.
Jealous? Nope. But I sure do wish I had more answers.
Weclome to my world.
I therefore try and focus that pain into bettering myself and making myself a more complete, wholesome and successful person.
The problem with this strategy is that it ultimately narrows your social options to an ever smaller group, and when you get hurt, you have fewer places to seek comfort.
This strategy, pursued to an extreme, makes you an extremely well-developed, successful person with so much insight into others' behavior that you find it difficult to overlook flaws and pursue relationships, because you have already been there and done that.
People, in turn, begin to dislike you because in their own minds, which have not benefited from the scrutiny to which you have subjected yourself, you are condescending toward them.
The person I most look up to tells me I am right - the circle does get smaller, but it will begin to include very cool people....I have not seen them, though he has, and he finds great satisfaction in it.
This life is so damn hard.
Jealous? Nope. But I sure do wish I had more answers.
Weclome to my world.
jerkbox said:
Yep,pretty much my attitude.
HUCKLEBERRY FINNaplex said:
I'd like to think i'm a good person to be in a relationship with. i mean, if i was a guy, i'd want to date me. lol. so, if i feel secure that i'm being nice and fun and loveable and all that a woman should be and i care about the person i'm with, i try not to worry about bad things that could happen when i'm not with him.
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