I've come to the point where I have to pick

[The Terminator]

I know I will tell her one day, but telling her right away would be very wrong. I think It's better to tell her when I got some distance to this. When I can look back and say I just had to choose, It didn't feel right.

Wise choice Alfons. The drugs are not real, they don't matter. What you now have may be irreplaceable and the risk is not worth it IMO. Anyone who says otherwise obviously has not had something they cared that deeply about.

 

[Delinquent]

You people are missing the fucking point. If the women can't accept it then she has a problem with trusting him. If she fully trusts the man she would eventually be understanding. If he's taking it this far to hide it and not tell her, obviously means that he thinks she'll leave him for it. Moral of the story is that if you're in a relationship that is becoming serious and you think you'll marry the chich, tell her before it's too late. If she finds out once you're married then leaves you, it'll be that much more expensive to get the divorce. Maybe I'm just inexperienced when it comes to women since I've only been with 3. One for 3.5 years, one for 6 months and my current for almost 3 years. I know that if you don't tell them, they WILL find out eventually. So YOU decide whether it will be better for you to tell her or her hear it from someone else.

 

[Polfa/Jelfa]

You people are missing the fucking point. If the women can't accept it then she has a problem with trusting him. If she fully trusts the man she would eventually be understanding. If he's taking it this far to hide it and not tell her, obviously means that he thinks she'll leave him for it. Moral of the story is that if you're in a relationship that is becoming serious and you think you'll marry the chich, tell her before it's too late. If she finds out once you're married then leaves you, it'll be that much more expensive to get the divorce. Maybe I'm just inexperienced when it comes to women since I've only been with 3. One for 3.5 years, one for 6 months and my current for almost 3 years. I know that if you don't tell them, they WILL find out eventually. So YOU decide whether it will be better for you to tell her or her hear it from someone else.

Took the words right out of my mouth.....couldnt of said it better myself..

 

[The Terminator]

I was referring more to the fact that sometimes in life you have to make sacrifices. Choosing between what you want more (in this case he may or may not get what he wants) she could be really understanding and generally cool about it, or not. It's a risk that Alfons has to want to take, or maybe not take as appears to be the case. Either way he has to live with it and it's easy for me to shell out my thoughts here as I don't have to make that choice, he does.

 

[Punschkrapfen]

She read up on juice and she wanted me to keep it to the more mild AS (Deca, Primo, Eq, Ox, etc...)

ox is not that "mild", its liver toxic like other orals except Primo S tabs:

http://www.anabolic.info/forum/viewtopic.php4?topic=69&forum=1&1

 

[Hengst]

Why should she "trust" him if he reveals that for the last 4 years he has been lying to her? I think that if she finds out and leaves him it is because of the lie, not the actual juice use.

It's like Nixon said....... It wasn't the break-in at watergate that screwed him it was the cover-up.

 

[Silent Method]

Delinquent you have good points. I think one qualifying factor for embracing your argument is that, like Hengst said, no one should have hidden such an aspect of ones life from his or her partner in the first place.

Unfourtunately, such ideals are not always possible. Relationships are emergent. They evolve. We all start out the same way when finding a mate. We think "she looks hot, think I'll try for a piece of that" or "what a great person, I'd like to get to know her." (As men we usually start by think the first one). At this stage, all of us, consciously or unconsciously, keep some such important aspects of our lives private.

Real love develops later. This love is a choice - a conscious decision. When we have made this desision, it is then that we feel compeled to freely reevaluate ourselves. Many aspects of our lives may still be kept private though they may be discontinued in order for one to honor the other.

Alfons stated "If she left me for telling her, It wouldn't have much with the steroids it self to do. It would be more because I had done it behind her back, and she would never be able to trust me again." This is a key idea here. He loves her. Their are parts of himself which, if revealed, would break her heart. So it is with all of us. It's up to us what aspects of ourselves we change. These decisions are not easy, but I believe that as men, we face them and do what we feel is honorable and just.

Originally posted by SCOTTY-TWO-HOTTY
Silent Method- Wow! I put you in the same category as Plato and Socrates. That's some deep shit. I'll be coming at ya if I ever need some counsellng.

Thanks. My first major was psychology. My second was philosophy.

 

[Delinquent]

Agreed.

 

[neo1605]

If she can't except it leave her bro........I have seen too many bro's sell out over a woman. If you give in now, you will be giving into her demands for the rest of your life.

 

[B-legit]

that sucks that you cant be open w/her about the roids and sit down with her and explain why roids have a bad rap. Im glad that my g/f and i can discuss this and that she is open about me using in small doses (hehe) occasionally. I just made sure to educate her as much as possible and keep the open line of communication. You ought to sit down w/her for a few hours and explain why the media has given juice a bad rap, tell her what u use and that there is a such thing as RESPONSIBLE steroid use with minimal side effects.