It's official

[canadianhitman]

been having the weirdest fuckin dream:

i would get a phone call from ex-wife's brother - wakes me up....he says something like wtf are you still doing home....your wife is waiting for you to pick her up from (it's a diff place everytime) come up man get up get dressed and go...I would quickly run through the routines, shower, brush my teeth, get dressed, get excited about seeing her (she would be coming back from somewhere - vacation on something...) I would get in the car drive to the airport or somewhere else...as soon as I get there....I'm excited and smiling and I call her, wave at her like an idiot then she looks at me and her eyes tear up...she says: what are you doing here? why do you want to hurt me? what are you trying to do, you leave me and now you're torturing me?? Then I realise what has happened....we're no longer together. I wake up fuckin sweating and in tears....

wtf is going on and wtf am I having these fuckin dreams??

Damn, that's heavy bro. Clearly you are still struggling with the divorce on a subconscious level, and that's being expressed in your dreams.

 

[the_alcatraz]

tell me about it...I told my girlfriend about the dream and she replies: It's going to take time baby but I'll be by your side and we'll get over this together. I think this girl is too good for me.

 

[zaozoe]

Hope things work out for ya it takes time, I had a few rough ones if ur in ontario I have tonnes of friends there and im there a lot too pm me if u ever get In a major jam up man
Cheers

 

[TC2]

"She said she bluffed and didnt really want a divorce...she just wanted me to change"

This is such an incredibly stupid thing to do be it male or female.

From a Psychological point of view, you plant the seed/idea that you may not be around, you might take off and the person who receives this statement will start the process of letting go.

 

[the_alcatraz]

"She said she bluffed and didnt really want a divorce...she just wanted me to change"

This is such an incredibly stupid thing to do be it male or female.

From a Psychological point of view, you plant the seed/idea that you may not be around, you might take off and the person who receives this statement will start the process of letting go.

Dude, this PERFECTLY describes what happened to me...I couldn't have put it better myself. At first I didn't even want to consider it but then it seems to be a better idea every day.

 

[TC2]

its similar to the grieving process of when a loved one gives the news of a terminal illness...like it or not your mind will start the process of letting go in order make it easier to deal with mentally.

Same when someone makes a declaration of "or else I'm leaving", suddenly you are faced with the stark reality that when it comes down to it..ultimately someone, a loved one, could walk in one day tell you I'm leaving.

And nothing you can do can fix the situation.

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Been uphappily married for a while. Already went through a depression. Already saw couples therapy before divorce. Therapist suggested we get a divorce...still cry every few days....shit's hard no doubt...luckily my new girlfriend is patient as fuck and supportive.

I got married in Lebanon and gave my dad proxy to get the divorce done on my behalf in lebanon then all you have to do is translate it and implement in Canada....we have no shared assets or kids or anthing....was married for 4 years.

Trust me I'm saying this as a friend even if you feel fine see a therapist. The shit is going to come back up on you when you least expect it. Getting over divorce is a long process typically at least a year and that from the friends that saw a therapist. My best friend didn't it took her much longer to get over things nearly 4 years.

 

[the_alcatraz]

Trust me I'm saying this as a friend even if you feel fine see a therapist. The shit is going to come back up on you when you least expect it. Getting over divorce is a long process typically at least a year and that from the friends that saw a therapist. My best friend didn't it took her much longer to get over things nearly 4 years.

female companionship >>>>>> therapist

unless therapist = female companion

 

[superqt4u2nv]

female companionship >>>>>> therapist

unless therapist = female companion

Yep one of my buddies did that to guess what it delayed him dealing with his shit. I promise you if you don't deal with your feelings there going to come back and it will be way worse. I have seen two men and two woman go through this the one that was two proud for therapy took them way longer to get passed things.

 

[smurf2]

Why the need to get past things? Just carry the resentment forever. That's what I'm doing. It works for me. very cathartic to hate someone.