It is over

[chesty]

This guy that she had put on the back burner is now on the front burner. He called the house at 6 am and then again from his work later in the morning to make sure she was okay. Gimme a break. I hate being lied to. So, she will be moving out at the end of the month unless I get a contract job sooner or she is comfortable staying here. Barring a miracle we are just gonna spend time together as friends with no expectations, it would be great, but well there is this reality thing.

So, with two ex wives, 5 kids, and 39 years old and having lost a lot of size and weight over the last few months, I am done in the world of woman.

 

[HS Lifter]

This guy that she had put on the back burner is now on the front burner. He called the house at 6 am and then again from his work later in the morning to make sure she was okay. Gimme a break. I hate being lied to. So, she will be moving out at the end of the month unless I get a contract job sooner or she is comfortable staying here. Barring a miracle we are just gonna spend time together as friends with no expectations, it would be great, but well there is this reality thing.

So, with two ex wives, 5 kids, and 39 years old and having lost a lot of size and weight over the last few months, I am done in the world of woman.

Sucks bro.

When your kids are old enough, let them know how much of a whore their mom was.

Take it easy.

 

[chesty]

Yeah, I thought of that as you know, but I just can't do that. We both are to blame for this equally, we just never got our clocks in synch.

 

[Testosterone boy]

Being 39 and smaller? You can still do fine...with a different group of girls.

Personality is #1 to plenty of women.

So I hear.

 

[HS Lifter]

Yeah, I thought of that as you know, but I just can't do that. We both are to blame for this equally, we just never got our clocks in synch.

As they say "Life goes on".

Channel your anger towards the iron and get yourself back in shape.

If I were you, I would not even be friends with her, just set a designated spot to pick up your children.

Good luck bro.

 

[manny78]

Dude, you got 5 kids and lot's of time ahead. Just enjoy your life and wait for the good one. Good luck.

 

[bran987]

This guy that she had put on the back burner is now on the front burner. He called the house at 6 am and then again from his work later in the morning to make sure she was okay. Gimme a break. I hate being lied to. So, she will be moving out at the end of the month unless I get a contract job sooner or she is comfortable staying here. Barring a miracle we are just gonna spend time together as friends with no expectations, it would be great, but well there is this reality thing.

So, with two ex wives, 5 kids, and 39 years old and having lost a lot of size and weight over the last few months, I am done in the world of woman.

once a man hits 40 he becomes even more attractive, and usually wealthier.. don't beat yourself off too bad man.. I don't know how much your kids and ex wives cost though

 

[Apöllo]

Being 39 and smaller? You can still do fine...with a different group of girls.

Personality is #1 to plenty of women.

So I hear.

Ever since you removed your avatar you've been acting wierd. Seriously, don't you remember saying that money #1 is to the majority of women?

 

[powerforward]

sorry to hear this. i hope the best for you man.

 

[biteme]

Same thing happened to me. With time, you'll be able to move on and hopefully find someone else. Not all women are cunts.

 

[Testosterone boy]

Ever since you removed your avatar you've been acting wierd. Seriously, don't you remember saying that money #1 is to the majority of women?

I really doubt that I ever said that. Got a link?

 

[PatsFan34]

"Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks"!!! You'll be alright, just take one step at a time, set some goals and stick to it!!!

Good luck Broham!!!

 

[lucidblue]

Good decision. I think your situation has gone beyond repair. I think dragging it out at this point will only do more damage to both of you and ultimately your children. If possible try to keep things amicable, so that your children do not suffer. Good luck!

 

[Aerojaxx]

I am sorry your sad...but I believe congrats are in order...move on with the next chapter of your life...

Don't forget that you are the author...you'll love again bor...

 

[gonelifting]

Sorry bro. You can look at the bright side, you found out earlier than later. You did`nt go through 6 months of this and then find out.

Kick her out, or move out bro, you don`t need to be with her anymore IMO.

good luck

 

[chesty]

Thanks all. As for her I will not break my promise to honor her in sickness and in health, I will always make sure she is in want of not so long as I can afford and she has not moved in with someone or remarried.

I cannot hate her, I wish I could it would be so easy and clear. I love her and the funny thing is I couldn't describe it to her in a way that made sense.

The hard part to understand is why is she grieving? This is what she wants. I do not understand this? It really messes with your mind!

 

[Dial_tone]

That glass was half full, but unfortunately it was a dribble glass. I'm 39 with no ex-wives and no kids....i'm not sure who is better off.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

be there for your kids and give them the love and support they need.

Good luck to you. it's going to take time to heal the wounds, but you can and will.

 

[Lestat]

hang in there man, you've got a lot of positive things to look forward to, focus on them.

 

[DcupSheepNipples]

Yes, it was over at Crotch Breath!

 

[chesty]

Yes, I am focusing on the positives. It is just so weird being cheated on and not loved or found attractive by the very woman that would have given her life for you not so long ago. The worst part is, if my eyes had of been open this would not be the way it ended.

This will take time to feel anything inside again. I must move on.

 

[Razorguns]

Dude, there's a reason why so many of us guys are NOT married!

Fewer and fewer people are getting married these days. Cuz women have become bitchier, more nazi feminist, expect more, and are more drama-laden. Women were so sweet and innocent and caring back in the 1900-1980s. Their moms taught them well.

Now society has changed. Today's women have come from more broken-families, lesbian parents, crack moms and runaway dads. Therefore there's no "family values". It's all changed. Now it's all about money, the tease, doing what she wants, belly chains, fake boobs, etc. etc. Just non-stop bullshit. If i had a crappy life -- you're suffering with me too now, type attitudes.

Makes me just want to go to Europe and get a real nice woman who still believes in the basics and simple living and just wants to love and be loved back.

 

[biteme]

Thanks all. As for her I will not break my promise to honor her in sickness and in health, I will always make sure she is in want of not so long as I can afford and she has not moved in with someone or remarried.

I cannot hate her, I wish I could it would be so easy and clear. I love her and the funny thing is I couldn't describe it to her in a way that made sense.

The hard part to understand is why is she grieving? This is what she wants. I do not understand this? It really messes with your mind!

You may hate her before this is all over. I hope not, but people can be so evil.

 

[Imnotdutch]

This guy that she had put on the back burner is now on the front burner. He called the house at 6 am and then again from his work later in the morning to make sure she was okay. Gimme a break. I hate being lied to. So, she will be moving out at the end of the month unless I get a contract job sooner or she is comfortable staying here. Barring a miracle we are just gonna spend time together as friends with no expectations, it would be great, but well there is this reality thing.

So, with two ex wives, 5 kids, and 39 years old and having lost a lot of size and weight over the last few months, I am done in the world of woman.

Well it could just be that he is trying hard to get back on the front burner........playing at being the sensitive one. Have you had a honest conversation with her about where this other guy fits in? How long did they talk for??

Mebbe she is using him for moral support........dunno.

 

[chesty]

Yeah, she said he is a very small part of the whole thing. She apparently can't even lie to herself very well. Otherwise, she would have not been calling him or have given him the home number and had him call her to see if she was okay.

The way I look at it, I had become the very person I have always despised. Now, all I can do is learn to be the person I should have been.

 

[The_Ghost]

Chest you will be best off in the long run, i think you have known this for awihle but were afraid to admit it to yourself.

Do for yourself and your kids first from ehre on on out. If you feel the need to help her in anyway in the future, don't do it with the hope that she will come around. You deserve far better then her and life will get better again.

Hang in the dude.

 

[chesty]

I know, I just found out she has been lying to me the whole time and sleeping with this guy during all of counseling. She just didn't have the guts to tell me. That is what hurts, being lied to. I can handle just about anything, but being lied to.

She has made me feel small, worthless, humiliated, betrayed, and more. She went and got some dude who is younger than me, has no bills, never been married, no kids, a better house, pretty much better than I have ever had.

My house is a wreck, falling apart, I have a huge school loan to reapy for life, no money in the bank, almost 40 and I have nothing to show for my 40 years of life. I have lost two family's how pathetic is that?

I am very numb and very cold. I will never trust another human being again. Especially a woman that shows any sort of interest in me. I just won't be able to. So far now my track record at being lied to is 100%

 

[The_Ghost]

Chesty don't say you have nothing. You have your wonderful kids, no one can take that away from you.

Continue to get the counseling to help you get through this. There will be bad days and good days, when things seem bad just like at your children and realize you do have some good in your life.

I wish nothing but the best for you buddy, sure you made mistakes in the past but you gave 110% to make this work. This isn't your fault and don't let her make you feel worthless.

Keep your head up and start living for you and your children!!

 

[canadianhitman]

I have a friend who recently separated under similar circumstances. As hard as it's been, and as messed up as this has made his life, he tells me it will all be worth it on one day: the day his kids are old enough to sit then down and tell them about his wife's affair, and that everything is her fault. He calls it his day of redemption and vindication.

 

[chesty]

That day is today for us. She will be home in a few hours and we are going to tell the kids that while dad was partly to blame, had it not been for mom going and finding this guy we would have had a fighting chance. In the end she is the one that destroyed my faith in humanity and has humiliated me in front of the world.

Will I surive? Sure. Will I remarry? No, Will I ever find peace? I don't know. Will I find happiness? I don't know.

 

[rnch]

i would still get a good divorce lawyer, chesty......she has lied to you in the past....wouldn't put it past her to put the screws to you in the settlement.

 

[Imnotdutch]

i would still get a good divorce lawyer, chesty......she has lied to you in the past....wouldn't put it past her to put the screws to you in the settlement.

I agree.........play safe.

 

[chesty]

We have already done all the paper work. So that front is covered. I am just worried that she is using him for comfort and that he really has no intentions of truly being with her. I hope that is not the case, but she also really needs time for herself before getting involved again.

 

[wutangnomo]

Hey Chesty I am sorry to hear of your situation. I have been reading some of your posts lately about your relationship and actually had a response typed up and was about to send it when my computer crashed.

Basically, in my opinion what you had was a VERY unhealthy relationship (no offense intended). If you look at it realistically with your head and not your heart you will see that it was doomed a long time ago. You were living in a dream world hoping that everything would turn out wonderfully like it is done in the movies, but honestly, it just wasn't meant to be. You held onto the relationship and HOPED for the best, but even you know that it was over. It is only human nature to hope, but for YOUR sake, your kids', and her's it is best that you two move apart.

I am personally against counsellors b/c a relationship is between two people, and if those two people cannot work out their issues together, someone who is not even part of the relationship sure as hell can't.

Chesty you need NOT settle for a woman, and that is what you were doing with her. She lied to you, cheated, and made you feel worthless. Do NOT settle my man. You are better than she is, and so SHE does NOT deserve YOU!

I wish you all the best Chesty. May I ask what kind of work you do?

 

[WODIN]

You need to attend the annual bukkake festival in tokyo my man.

Good luck with the future and enjoy your kids. You are only 39 so shut up with your life is over shit. That doesn't happen till you hit 40...just ask curling.

 

[chesty]

I am an Aerospace Engineer. I do structural analysis. I wanted to have a little girl and now there is no way that can happen. I would be way too old by the time they were 18. Plus, who the hell wants someone who has been divorced twice, cheated on twice and has 5 kids?

 

[Aerojaxx]

I am an Aerospace Engineer. I do structural analysis. I wanted to have a little girl and now there is no way that can happen. I would be way too old by the time they were 18. Plus, who the hell wants someone who has been divorced twice, cheated on twice and has 5 kids?

We are in the same field bor...I work for L-3 Com, Vertex Aerospace...

 

[chesty]

Never heard of them. I have been at Boeing, and many other places

 

[Aerojaxx]

Never heard of them. I have been at Boeing, and many other places

Vertex Aerospace LLC is an aviation and aerospace technical services company, managing and servicing more than 2,800 fixed and rotary wing aircraft (83 platforms) as well as other equipment, primarily for government customers. The company's name is changing to L-3 Communications Vertex Aerospace LLC, reflecting the Dec. 1 acquisition of Vertex by L-3. The L-3 Vertex website is under construction.

Vertex Aerospace core services include logistics support; maintenance, repair and overhaul services; supply chain management; pilot and flight officer training support. Customers include the Department of Defense (all branches), US Customs Service (Dept. of Homeland Security), NASA, Drug Enforcement Administration and others.

Vertex Aerospace has more than 10,000 employees at 301 locations in 42 states and 32 countries, including 3,000 employees that are part of a joint venture company, Army Fleet Support at Fort Rucker, Ala. Vertex is managing partner of Army Fleet Support.

Latest News Releases Press Release Archives
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[Frackal19]

Dude, there's a reason why so many of us guys are NOT married!

Fewer and fewer people are getting married these days. Cuz women have become bitchier, more nazi feminist, expect more, and are more drama-laden. Women were so sweet and innocent and caring back in the 1900-1980s. Their moms taught them well.

Now society has changed. Today's women have come from more broken-families, lesbian parents, crack moms and runaway dads. Therefore there's no "family values". It's all changed. Now it's all about money, the tease, doing what she wants, belly chains, fake boobs, etc. etc. Just non-stop bullshit. If i had a crappy life -- you're suffering with me too now, type attitudes.

Makes me just want to go to Europe and get a real nice woman who still believes in the basics and simple living and just wants to love and be loved back.

Yep...you can't do the simple mutual love thing here in the USA... too rare to bother trying IMO


Chesty I'm sorry bro....you are free now though..don't let yourself get trapped paying too much either my man.. she's her own person, and clearly made this decision of her own will....don't get stuck sending her a big check every two weeks.

 

[Razorguns]

Cheating dogs never lie.

If it makes you feel any better -- this "let me sleep with a married woman" scumbucket will one day have karma come right back at him, when she cheats on HIM one day.

If she can do it to you - she can do it to him (and will).

Let her crash and burn on her own merits. When guys like you chase after her, and take the blame, and validate her actions -- she feeds off it. Ignore her, put yourself FIRST before her, and move on with your life. That'll send a message way stronger than 90 hours of yelling in a kitchen.

You know what's the ULTIMATE revenge dude? You know the BEST way to get back at someone, to show that they couldn't bring you down and that their lack of being a genuine respectful human being had no effect on you?

Success.

Make yourself strong. Successfull. Happy. A great father. Rich. Living the life (with a good lawyer to protect you!). That'll send a message WAY STRONGER than bitching, arguing, drama, violence, anything you can think of.

Living the good life is the ultimate revenge my friend.

 

[chesty]

Well, I have the house that she is going to live in while I contract which will be forever. The conditions are that if she moves' in with someone or they want to live here the bill now belongs to them and all she gets is the child support. I won't support her lifestyle, but I will do right by her regardless of how she has done me.

 

[lil'tangerine]

Sorry to hear that...sounds like it is best to not drag it out any longer. You will be fine in time...Take this time and spend it with your children. They need you as much as you need them right now.

 

[Razorguns]

>she moves' in with someone or they want to live here the bill now belongs to them

You wanna pay the mortgage so she can invite guys over and fuck them. More power to you....

 

[HS Lifter]

>she moves' in with someone or they want to live here the bill now belongs to them

You wanna pay the mortgage so she can invite guys over and fuck them. More power to you....

What he said.

 

[Burning_Inside]

This guy that she had put on the back burner is now on the front burner. He called the house at 6 am and then again from his work later in the morning to make sure she was okay. Gimme a break. I hate being lied to. So, she will be moving out at the end of the month unless I get a contract job sooner or she is comfortable staying here. Barring a miracle we are just gonna spend time together as friends with no expectations, it would be great, but well there is this reality thing.

So, with two ex wives, 5 kids, and 39 years old and having lost a lot of size and weight over the last few months, I am done in the world of woman.

Your story is definately one the younger generation should look to for insight. You should write a book geared towards yuonger people to make them realize that marriage isn't always bliss and be wary and don't jump into shit.

 

[gotmilk]

This guy that she had put on the back burner is now on the front burner. He called the house at 6 am and then again from his work later in the morning to make sure she was okay. Gimme a break. I hate being lied to. So, she will be moving out at the end of the month unless I get a contract job sooner or she is comfortable staying here. Barring a miracle we are just gonna spend time together as friends with no expectations, it would be great, but well there is this reality thing.

So, with two ex wives, 5 kids, and 39 years old and having lost a lot of size and weight over the last few months, I am done in the world of woman.

I caught my ex by calling her house at 7am once...and then drove 850 miles to whip some ass.

I bet he was calling because she never said a word to him..in fact...I bet he didn't know you were still trying to work stuff out.

I hate being lied to also...which is why I always cover my ass. Don't give up the house....atleast take a stand. Legally, you can't force her out but you can ask her to leave and you can be sarcastic about it.

 

[Dial_tone]

I bet he was calling because she never said a word to him..in fact...I bet he didn't know you were still trying to work stuff out.

He said they were sleeping together during the counseling, so I believe he would have some idea.

 

[gotmilk]

He said they were sleeping together during the counseling, so I believe he would have some idea.

That does not mean she was being honest with biker boy. My ex was lying to me and the other guy too...he found out when I barged in and right hooked his ass.

I vote to snipe biker boy.

 

[chesty]

Yes, but remember, a winner never quits and a quiter never wins. I do what is right not what isn't. I still have a shot at the title. It technically is over, but till the bugle calls me home, I will climb mount suribachi and will destroy the enemy all the way to the top. If I do not make it, I can look myself in the mirror and say I was not the one that gave up.


Yeah, I know, I am a glutton for punishment, but I cannot surrender, not yet. Anyway
more on this soap opera to come.