Is trusting women hard these days????

[Kakdiesel]

I am tired of all the game playing that goes on.

I just want to be me and a man be him. That is all.


Is that too much to ask?

I think thats the point of my thread. Its hard for a "man" to be himself when he doesnt even trust the girl. Why open up and let her in if you dont trust her as far as you can throw her? (Note: I do not condone domestic violence)

 

[May1010]

Hmmm ... I'd respond to Kak's post, but I'm mad at him.

 

[Kakdiesel]

Why you mad at me May? I love ya brotha

 

[Big Wiggs]

I'll put it like this..... If I offered any one of you 1 million dollars to cheat on your other and it was gurenteed that you would get away with it I bet there would be very little who wouldn't do it. That's true trust!!

 

[Maximum Intensity]

I agree whole heartedly that trust does lie behind gender walls -- it is a human quality. The ability to trust lies both within our pasts and within our experiences with the person who we do or do not trust.

After reviewing the original post for a second time, it seems to be referring to mens relationships with women. I have question -- why would you be with someone you did not trust? I don't see the problem being within other people, but rather within ourselves. Let me explain: I had an incident in my life that devastated me. After that incident occurred, I trusted absolutely nobody. Why? Not because of what each and every person I came into contact with did to me, but because of what one person did to me and how I chose to react to it. It took me a long time to get over that and I did not have a single significant relationship up until I did put that behind. Now I am with a person that I trust whole heartedly -- someone who's hands I am willing to place my heart in and trust that she will handle it with care. Trust is a personal issue that each of us needs to deal with. How we deal with it will determine future relationships with others.

 

[casavant]

Unfortunately, trusting anybody is hard.

 

[strongchick]

You mean to tell me that you behave a certain way because of how OTHERS behave?

Your post is COMPLETELY SEXIST!....what is this "girls nowadays" BS? Why is it OK for a guy to be a player and do what they want to do, but not for a girl? What is good for one gender IS MOST CERTAINLY GOOD FOR THE OTHER!

There are definite differences between the sexes (praise God hehe) but "morality" (whatever the individual's definition may be) should NEVER be based on gender, but on what that individual's belief system is. In other words you should keep you pants zipped whether you are in possession of a penis OR vagina - PERIOD.

Now, before you all call me the freaking church lady (which I AIN'T)....I believe that we should all be held accountable for our own behaviour. Whether it is sleeping with someone on the first date (you run the risk of being degraded....if you do not feel degraded and you are fine w/pleasure, you protect yourself - BRING IT ON) or cheating on your income taxes (this, in effect is stealing from everybody......please no political BS here, yes, I know that all of our tax money does NOT go where it is supposed to) - understand what behaviour you are engaging in and realize the possible rammifications.

I believe brotha KDiesel - that it may have been a more accurate question to ask, "Do you find it more difficult to trust YOUNGER women these days?" When people are younger they tend to take more risks and not take life as seriously (not saying EVERYBODY, just generally), hence the higher rate of frivolous behavior. Notice my use of the word frivolous and not moral.....I try not to judge. We all have to make our own decisions and then we have to live with them.

Trust me when I tell you that you could go through your ENTIRE ADULT LIFE doing EVERYTHING morally correct, never wishing harm on anyone, loving your chosen one with your entire being - AND STILL END UP GETTING FUCKED. Would such events make me trust people in general less? Yes, it would tend to make me more cautious. But I am a trusting individual by nature. I do not have a suspicious bone in my body and when I HAVE to be on guard IT KILLS ME.

Whether and whom you decide to trust has nothing to do with gender (yes, of course, in affairs of the heart it does). But to make a blanket statement that women are less trustworthy than men?.....that is just plain ignorant. I mean, how would you know?....unless you ALSO DATED MEN?.....you would have NOTHING TO COMPARE IT TO - see what I mean?

well said, all points covered.

 

[Audacious1]

The only one i trust is myself! Every man i have been with has betrayed my trust...including my husband. I have little faith in trusting others

 

[toga22]

"Are women hard to trust in general"........

I hope you are kidding!! Women and men are exactly the same when it comes to the ability to be trusted. It only varies from person to person. Trust is not a gender issue!!

~toga

 

[Austin316]

"Are women hard to trust in general"........

I hope you are kidding!! Women and men are exactly the same when it comes to the ability to be trusted. It only varies from person to person. Trust is not a gender issue!!

~toga

exactly, Toga is wise. Trust has to be earned no matter what gender you are. It makes no diferance, the only dif is that it would hurt a lot more if the person you loved broke it