Is it worth it?

[PHATchik]

Falling in love. Is it worth the risk of being hurt? SHould you really open yourself up to someone completely? People can live contented lives on their own and alone. True, they are missing out on that companionship that comes from being involved with someone, but they are also missing out on possibly having their heart broken. I had this "discussion" with someone last night. I say that you don't necessarily need that emotional involvement. He said that by blocking out negative repercussions, you are also missing out on any positive ones. Thoughts?

 

[sk*]

Yes it's worth it, cause not all relationships have to end.

-sk

 

[PHATchik]

Perhaps. As he put it, all relationships can't work out because then, you couldn't be committed to just one person. But should a person take that risk? Life has no guaranteers. Nothing does. So why should someone actually take the chance?

 

[vinylgroover]

Hello babes.

If you have a good network of friends or family, you won't feel alone. Aside from not having regular sex, i get all the companionship i need. I'd like to start a family some day soon, but still having too much fun.......i don't look for love for the sake of love.

 

[gettinlarger]

Heartache is a part of life. I don't care who you are, you're going to feel it sometime or another.

Also, shit happens. Of course love is worth it. It's a wonderful, amazing emotional feeling. If it falls apart and you get hurt, don't sit and bitch about it. Get up and find it again.

 

[OreoPL]

life has one guarantee, u are going to die. thats the way i look at it the only thing ugranteed is your gonna die so why worry about anything just live life day by die. dont worry about the good and the bad it will happen. it will all end one day so why worry about it now.

 

[c3bodybuilding]

Everything in life has a chance of failure. Being scared of that failure will prevent you from living a full life. Some people are afraid of following their dreams, going after a new job, buying a new car, or yes, even falling in love. Living a life in a fear, is a life that is not lived at all.

 

[PHATchik]

Nope. Just stay lonely all your life.

-= nav =-

Lol. I knew I could count on you.

 

[big4life]

Nope. Just stay lonely all your life.

-= nav =-

I don't think that PHATchik has to worry about that.

 

[PHATchik]

I don't think that PHATchik has to worry about that.

Lol. I wouldn't be too sure on that one.

 

[velvett]

When you are ready - yes.

 

[lucidblue]

Falling in love is worth the risk of getting hurt. I don't think you truly fall in love many times in life, so hopefully you won't get hurt too many times. If you don't take the chance and really open up to the person you love/let them know how you feel (out of fear), you run the risk of really getting hurt in the end because they had no clue how you felt. Trust me... I know from experience.

 

[big4life]

Like velvett said, "when you are ready."

But it will be worth it when that one smile causes you to forget everything that you were thinking. When a simple touch can cause you to feel a spark, all the way to the core of your being. When you find yourself watching your partner sleep and a warmth just overwhelms you.

You will know when you are ready, and you will find the one for you.

 

[lucidblue]

But it will be worth it when that one smile causes you to forget everything that you were thinking. When a simple touch can cause you to feel a spark, all the way to the core of your being. When you find yourself watching your partner sleep and a warmth just overwhelms you.

Know exactly what you mean... but he wasn't ready. It was worth feeling that way about someone though!

 

[lucidblue]

Heartache is a part of life. I don't care who you are, you're going to feel it sometime or another.

Also, shit happens. Of course love is worth it. It's a wonderful, amazing emotional feeling. If it falls apart and you get hurt, don't sit and bitch about it. Get up and find it again.

Agree with everything you say, except the get up and find it again... sometimes it's just not that easy.

 

[casavant]

Good post, PHATchik. I've been pondering that question more and more. I used to not give it a second thought and just assume that I would hook up with someone that I clicked with eventually and we'd have a "relationship, but I'm not so sure anymore.

It's not something I feel like actively seeking out right now or in the near future, that's for sure.

 

[The Shadow]

Falling in love. Is it worth the risk of being hurt? SHould you really open yourself up to someone completely? People can live contented lives on their own and alone. True, they are missing out on that companionship that comes from being involved with someone, but they are also missing out on possibly having their heart broken. I had this "discussion" with someone last night. I say that you don't necessarily need that emotional involvement. He said that by blocking out negative repercussions, you are also missing out on any positive ones. Thoughts?

Well.....walls keep YOU in as much as they keep OTHERS out....

...remember that thing I said about difficult to breathe?

Well.....its worth it

 

[bigguns15]

I believe it's definitely worth it. Like the cliche says, better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all.

 

[b fold the truth]

Falling in love. Is it worth the risk of being hurt? SHould you really open yourself up to someone completely? People can live contented lives on their own and alone. True, they are missing out on that companionship that comes from being involved with someone, but they are also missing out on possibly having their heart broken. I had this "discussion" with someone last night. I say that you don't necessarily need that emotional involvement. He said that by blocking out negative repercussions, you are also missing out on any positive ones. Thoughts?

You know A LOT about me...

You tell me. Should I have given up after being destroyed like I was? You tell me.

You need a hug...wish I could give you one.

B True

 

[quez82]

Love is quite a fond feeling... You get hatred and happiness all in one.. Some people grow after being in love ... They learn new emotions... Become more creative so said with new companions...It's worth having but not worth losing...Just the thought of giving someone your all and knowing that one day you could find yourself alone,With another person knowing your life...They soon become another statistic... It's the hardest decision to make ...Too bad we dont know who were suppose to love and who were not ... Quez

 

[big4life]

Re: Re: Is it worth it?

You need a hug...wish I could give you one.

B True

I tried to give her a hug yesterday, but she didn't understand why she had to be naked and in the shower when I gave her a hug.



Nah, She will be ok. She's tough. She told me so herself.

 

[Mandinka2]

Hey folks , my view is that falling in love is worth it if it works out , if not it certainly isn't , both times I've been in love I was badly burned , both put me into depression/job and country changes , all that stuff... but there is nothing like loving someone who loves you back , nothing even close so we'll all take that plunge and hope that we can remember to swim from the last time if things go sour....

 

[Scarlett33]

Yes its so very, very worth it!!!!

 

[toga22]

If you don't take the chance and really open up to the person you love/let them know how you feel (out of fear), you run the risk of really getting hurt in the end because they had no clue how you felt. Trust me... I know from experience.

Oh I know this feeling... I am going through a break-up now. The guy was incredible and the only man I have ever felt completely comfortable with. However because of being hurt in the past, and the fear of possibly scaring him away, I never told him how I truly felt. So even though I have accepted that it is over, I am left with so many unspoken feelings.

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

Love yes, get married no. At least when you are in love and no longer you can walk away and still possibly be friends. When you get divorced usually the process of divorce makes you enemies.

 

[biteme]

It was worth it to me. Especially the first time. There are cultures of people who practice the art of non-attachment for the reasons you stated. Everything that you are attached to will eventually bring you pain. That's life. I can't imagine a life without love.

 

[MFMan]

I think its worth it. If you find the right one. Whatever that means.

 

[PHATchik]

There have been a lot of good replies to this post since I posted it the other day. I'm not really sure how to comment to a lot of them. I can agree wtith both sides of the issue. I think I am a lot like Cas on this one. I think when I was younger, I just assumed that one day I was going to meet the man that I would just naturally marry and spend the rest of my life with. Well, things just don't happen like that. Nothing seems like it is naturally supposed to happen anymore. And I will agree with Corn that walls can close in on and keep more of you in, than they keep things out. However, sometimes that can protect you more often than it can harm you. B Fold has a point too. He went through a lot, but he didn't give up. He came close once or twice I think, but he stuck it out.

I'm going to come to this conclusion. It depends on the person. Some people have the strength and will to make it through anything. They can have their heart broken, lied to, used, or whatever, and still manage to keep that hope that something better is out there. Then you have those that just absolutely can't take another heartache, or at least, they don't think they can. Sometimes, we don't know what we are capable of, and we may sell ourselves short. To each his own.

I think a lot of people took this thread to be something extremely personal for me. It really isn't. I'll admit this is a question that I have had for a while, and I still haven't figured out what I want yet. Maybe I won't. However, I'm not in the middle of some situation threatening to swallow me whole. I guess I'm just looking for a few answers.

Besides, like Big4life said, I'm tough. I said so myself.

 

[Austin316]

your stubborn is what you are, I hope you took what I told you to heart, you know Im right, I always am