Interesting article on becoming a parent

[heatherrae]

Or the parents who take their kids to "nighttime" restaurants. I'm so annoyed by ppl who are sitting there drinking with all their friends while the kids are on the floor coloring. I mean come on! Its not pizza hut, these restaurants basically turn into bars after 9:00; if you cant get a sitter why cant you stay home??? Smoke everywhere.....

I can't believe they keep the kids out so late. It's like 11 at night and their kids are exhausted and crying. They should be in bed.

 

[Faizakafez]

I actually had someone who I thought was my friend tell me that I should have had an abortion because I'm too old and am cheating the baby. He said I could die when the boy is in his twenties and I'm basically a selfish person and should give the child up for adoption to someone younger.

I've just come to terms with the fact that whether or not you have kids and no matter at what age, there will be some asshole with a bad attitude about it. You gotta just ignore the idiots.

what a piece of shit i should kick his ass..

*neeed to learn how to fight*

 

[Bikini Mod]

I totally agree with Ms PregoRae and CindyLu.

There was a good TEN YEARS where I stayed my ass HOME with my kids and didn't bitch because it was MY PLEASURE to be able to have them. I wouldn't even go on a family vacation until my baby was fully potty-trained. How could ANYONE subject a child in a diaper to the beach... not to mention all the people around them. To watch kids running around and playing - some of my fondest memories are of my little girls on the beach, matter of fact, I am actually sitting here crying because I haven't seen that in so many years....

Anyway, I left the child in diapers AT HOME with a sitter.

I can not believe that anyone said something THAT NASTY and thoughtless to you, Ms Rae... ... on second thought. *looks around* I take that back.

 

[Faizakafez]

That is cultural and shouldn't offend anyone. I am Eastern European but married a totally cultureless American first time around. People who were from my family all wished us lots of healthy babies (as is our tradition too) and those were not, didn't.

And even though I am definitely no youngster this time and my husband is DEFINITELY much older than me people still occasionally ask if we will have children. LOL

Our answer is - ARE YOU CRAZY?

lol,

Its weird cuz i do want kids, but after reading this thread i went to take a piss and was like "do i really want kids" or was i hard wired earlier in birth to come to terms that kids and my culture are a part of it.. but i would like kids


i think

 

[heatherrae]

lol,

Its weird cuz i do want kids, but after reading this thread i went to take a piss and was like "do i really want kids" or was i hard wired earlier in birth to come to terms that kids and my culture are a part of it.. but i would like kids


i think

You have plenty of time to worry about that later. Get whatever education and stuff you want to do out of the way first. You have so much time.

 

[biteme]

lol,

Its weird cuz i do want kids, but after reading this thread i went to take a piss and was like "do i really want kids" or was i hard wired earlier in birth to come to terms that kids and my culture are a part of it.. but i would like kids


i think

You better think it over twice. Really, I didnt want any children because I was agnostic and didn't want to bring any life into this piece of shit world... If you don't believe in an afterlife, I can't see one reason why to have children. You're bringing them into a world of pain. That's selfish.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Hardest job in the world. I love my kid, but I'd never do it again. I have no idea how to be a parent and many of you will never know either. You wing it and if you spoil them, you will pay.

I have to say I believe that this one post by you in regards to your thoughts on parenting is most likely the most sincere one I've seen to date.

 

[blueta2]

Philly's a great city, but it was really rough for a while. If you visited and made your way to the wrong places, I can see how you'd have a bad experience. But yeah, definite culture shock.

Well I went to a few places, but my friend lives in a ritzy part of town and we did have to drive through some slums. I also went to that big music festival you guys have every year on the water, but 2 yrs ago it was in Camden. Lovely place ;-)

 

[Bikini Mod]

You better think it over twice. Really, I didnt want any children because I was agnostic and didn't want to bring any life into this piece of shit world... If you don't believe in an afterlife, I can't see one reason why to have children. You're bringing them into a world of pain. That's selfish.

The decision to bring another life into the world is THE MOST SELFISH one as that child has NO SAY in the matter.

But that does not mean that PARENTING in and of itself is selfish.

just my .02

 

[blueta2]

Not really,

but if i marry someone who is within my culture im sure she will want to have kids thats how it works its religon/culture..its kinda sucks

like here is perfect example

my sisters wedding

when my brother in laws sister were giving their speeches alot them ending like oh bless you too and the your children in the future so its automatically implied kinda

damn immigrants ;-)