Interesting article on becoming a parent

[Bikini Mod]

They ask when you're having kids because misery usually loves company ;-)

People don't ask me anymore, they used to and my answer would be "Now why would I want to go and ruin my life"
My sister and some friends who have kids resent me and my life b/c they have no freedom. That is a funny thing!

Couples/individuals who decide not to have children have my utmost respect because I do believe that they understand the commitment and responsibility more likely than most who DO go ahead and have kids then say, "FUCK... what did I get myself into?"

Children and pets are not one in the same, however they are the same in that there is a degree of commitment, responsibility and long term obligation - also love, nurturing and attention. The good news is if you really HAVE TO you can give a pet to a shelter or someone who wants it, but you can't do that with a kid.

Way more people who should never have kids have way too many (even ONE is too many when you dont know WTF you are doing) and those that would most likely be AWESOME parents are prevented...

 

[-SD-]

I think people should get a dog first then decide if they want to kick it up a notch with a kid. If you cant handle a dog you sure as hell cant handle a kid.

 

[cindylou]

I have so many people ask me that and I'm only 26.

This last saturday I had two women ask me if there was something wrong with me and to see a doctor.

The nerve!!!

I want to have kids, but I may not just out of spite.

 

[heatherrae]

Oh my, I agree so much with that article. I used to get that question from EVERYONE. My ex-hubbie has one side of his family that are really weird very hard core catholics that even the roman catholic church thinks is too hard core. One of his aunts came up to me upon first meeting me and had a discussion about how my curvy body should be good for having at least 6 or 7 children if I got started right away! She was NOT JOKING.

At our wedding, I made it ABUNDANTLY clear that it was an adults only reception. It didn't begin until 9 p.m. His family thought that was a dumb idea so they all brought their kids anyway. So, there were lots of sleepy, cranky kids at this late night booze soaked reception. It pissed me off.

Plus, if you kid starts screaming in a restaurant, TAKE HIM/HER OUTSIDE and comfort the poor kid.

Don't even get me started on taking babies to R-rated films and then just letting them cry and ruin it for everyone else.

Some parents are clueless.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Not really,

but if i marry someone who is within my culture im sure she will want to have kids thats how it works its religon/culture..its kinda sucks

like here is perfect example

my sisters wedding

when my brother in laws sister were giving their speeches alot them ending like oh bless you too and the your children in the future so its automatically implied kinda

That is cultural and shouldn't offend anyone. I am Eastern European but married a totally cultureless American first time around. People who were from my family all wished us lots of healthy babies (as is our tradition too) and those were not, didn't.

And even though I am definitely no youngster this time and my husband is DEFINITELY much older than me people still occasionally ask if we will have children. LOL

Our answer is - ARE YOU CRAZY?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Oh my, I agree so much with that article. I used to get that question from EVERYONE. My ex-hubbie has one side of his family that are really weird very hard core catholics that even the roman catholic church thinks is too hard core. One of his aunts came up to me upon first meeting me and had a discussion about how my curvy body should be good for having at least 6 or 7 children if I got started right away! She was NOT JOKING.

At our wedding, I made it ABUNDANTLY clear that it was an adults only reception. It didn't begin until 9 p.m. His family thought that was a dumb idea so they all brought their kids anyway. So, there were lots of sleepy, cranky kids at this late night booze soaked reception. It pissed me off.

Plus, if you kid starts screaming in a restaurant, TAKE HIM/HER OUTSIDE and comfort the poor kid.

Don't even get me started on taking babies to R-rated films and then just letting them cry and ruin it for everyone else.

Some parents are clueless.

Correction - WAY TOO MANY parents are clueless.

 

[heatherrae]

I actually had someone who I thought was my friend tell me that I should have had an abortion because I'm too old and am cheating the baby. He said I could die when the boy is in his twenties and I'm basically a selfish person and should give the child up for adoption to someone younger.

I've just come to terms with the fact that whether or not you have kids and no matter at what age, there will be some asshole with a bad attitude about it. You gotta just ignore the idiots.

 

[cindylou]

Oh my, I agree so much with that article. I used to get that question from EVERYONE. My ex-hubbie has one side of his family that are really weird very hard core catholics that even the roman catholic church thinks is too hard core. One of his aunts came up to me upon first meeting me and had a discussion about how my curvy body should be good for having at least 6 or 7 children if I got started right away! She was NOT JOKING.

At our wedding, I made it ABUNDANTLY clear that it was an adults only reception. It didn't begin until 9 p.m. His family thought that was a dumb idea so they all brought their kids anyway. So, there were lots of sleepy, cranky kids at this late night booze soaked reception. It pissed me off.

Plus, if you kid starts screaming in a restaurant, TAKE HIM/HER OUTSIDE and comfort the poor kid.

Don't even get me started on taking babies to R-rated films and then just letting them cry and ruin it for everyone else.

Some parents are clueless.

Or the parents who take their kids to "nighttime" restaurants. I'm so annoyed by ppl who are sitting there drinking with all their friends while the kids are on the floor coloring. I mean come on! Its not pizza hut, these restaurants basically turn into bars after 9:00; if you cant get a sitter why cant you stay home??? Smoke everywhere.....

 

[Tytan]

You should be required to have a license to have kids in this day and age. What seemed really simply in the old days has become complex in todays society. "We" adults make kids into what they are today whiny,bratty ,spoiled, shits.

 

[biteme]

Hardest job in the world. I love my kid, but I'd never do it again. I have no idea how to be a parent and many of you will never know either. You wing it and if you spoil them, you will pay.