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Im so fucking pissed
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Sassy69
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Sorry dude - if you think she's a bitch, or you feel its appropriate to call someone you are dating & consider your significant other, you don't need to be calling her a bitch. That is disrespectful on so many levels. If you feel it is ok to call her a bitch & remain in a relationship w/ her, then you need to re-examine why you are in a relationship w/ this person.
If this guy she talked to is truly someone she knows & was legitimately catching up w/ then why are you threatened so much by that? Just makes you look like a guy w/ low self-esteem who has to control someone else to make himself feel good about himself. If you truly believe she is fucking around on you & disrespecting you by doing that, maybe she's not worth your time.
I moved this from the AAS board because its not appropriate for that board. From your messed up typing it also looks like you're either drunk or just crazy pissed off right now. If you are just off-gassing some frustration, that's fine, but in real life I hope you deal w/ this situation in an adult fashion. Otherwise you sound like a bitchy little high schooler who needs to grow a set.
If this guy she talked to is truly someone she knows & was legitimately catching up w/ then why are you threatened so much by that? Just makes you look like a guy w/ low self-esteem who has to control someone else to make himself feel good about himself. If you truly believe she is fucking around on you & disrespecting you by doing that, maybe she's not worth your time.
I moved this from the AAS board because its not appropriate for that board. From your messed up typing it also looks like you're either drunk or just crazy pissed off right now. If you are just off-gassing some frustration, that's fine, but in real life I hope you deal w/ this situation in an adult fashion. Otherwise you sound like a bitchy little high schooler who needs to grow a set.
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uh, step away from the needle, What does this have to do with AAS or fitness health?
I mean sorry about your situation, but come ON...
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I mean sorry about your situation, but come ON...
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theoak01
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Sassy69 said:Sorry dude - if you think she's a bitch, or you feel its appropriate to call someone you are dating & consider your significant other, you don't need to be calling her a bitch. That is disrespectful on so many levels. If you feel it is ok to call her a bitch & remain in a relationship w/ her, then you need to re-examine why you are in a relationship w/ this person.
If this guy she talked to is truly someone she knows & was legitimately catching up w/ then why are you threatened so much by that? Just makes you look like a guy w/ low self-esteem who has to control someone else to make himself feel good about himself. If you truly believe she is fucking around on you & disrespecting you by doing that, maybe she's not worth your time.
I moved this from the AAS board because its not appropriate for that board. From your messed up typing it also looks like you're either drunk or just crazy pissed off right now. If you are just off-gassing some frustration, that's fine, but in real life I hope you deal w/ this situation in an adult fashion. Otherwise you sound like a bitchy little high schooler who needs to grow a set.
marvelous54
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theoak01 said:
Ypu guys are so right, I just got way to drunk and shes really a goood girl. Im just being an ass and qwas looking to be so with some support. Im wrong and Im glad u guys seg me steaight. Im sorry. Apologizing right now.
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btw i dont recommend getting drunk on a cycle,, the extra test in you can get WAY out of control,, not to mention the health risks involved either.
You must have had bad relationships in the passed that still bother you.marvelous54 said:
My girlfriend has guy friends that she talks to from time to time. She is still friends with her ex, who is now married with a couple kids. She talks to him from time to time and I could care less. I trust her. She trusts me and allows me to talk to my girl friends.
Are you still in high school, cuz that is some high school shit. If you cant handle your own insecurities you prob ought not push them off on her. Get over yourself. And by the way, if she's gonna cheat, she's gonna cheat and there really ain't a thing you can do to stop it. Unless she has done it in the past to ya, just trust her.marvelous54 said:
mrplunkey
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Well, I think this particular guy is either an alter having fun with us, or it's some roided-up highschool kid who's got mental problems.
Having said that... there is a certain amount of deferance and respect that's nice to see coming from a GF when she's chatting-up another guy. Simple things like:
1) Make sure you introduce the BF
2) TOUCH the BF... nothing sexual, but put your hand on the back of his arm or hold his hand or something like that.
3) In your conversation, incorporate the BF into it: "Oh, I saw that movie too. I've been trying drag BF here to it as well. I think he'd really like it."
4) No innuendos that don't involve the BF... no comments on the guy you're talking to that could be construed as negative about the BF either.
5) After the conversation with the random guy, if the guy you are talking to is potential "dating material" to you (or at least your BF may view it that way), make a point to say the 3-4 things that make the BF much better. For example: "It was nice seeing Random_guy again. It's been ages. You know, while we were talking it really dawned on me -- other guys just aren't as funny or energetic as you are. It really put things into perspective."
6) If you have slept with the guy, TELL the BF beforehand... and don't give the BF any details. Also, apply rules 1-5 with ten times the vigor.
Enjoy!
Having said that... there is a certain amount of deferance and respect that's nice to see coming from a GF when she's chatting-up another guy. Simple things like:
1) Make sure you introduce the BF
2) TOUCH the BF... nothing sexual, but put your hand on the back of his arm or hold his hand or something like that.
3) In your conversation, incorporate the BF into it: "Oh, I saw that movie too. I've been trying drag BF here to it as well. I think he'd really like it."
4) No innuendos that don't involve the BF... no comments on the guy you're talking to that could be construed as negative about the BF either.
5) After the conversation with the random guy, if the guy you are talking to is potential "dating material" to you (or at least your BF may view it that way), make a point to say the 3-4 things that make the BF much better. For example: "It was nice seeing Random_guy again. It's been ages. You know, while we were talking it really dawned on me -- other guys just aren't as funny or energetic as you are. It really put things into perspective."
6) If you have slept with the guy, TELL the BF beforehand... and don't give the BF any details. Also, apply rules 1-5 with ten times the vigor.
Enjoy!
mrplunkey
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crew9 said:
Naw... I'd never advocate running down the roster. I'm a "don't ask, don't tell" kinda guy.
What I mean is something like a party or a wedding... if you're about to be around your ex's old flame, its best to know a thing or two going in. For example, if I went to a mutual friend's wedding, and she chatted-up a guy (even adhering to rules #1-#5) and then I found out they lived together for 3 months, I wouldn't care for it. Even something as simple as "hey, he's an ex and we briefly lived under the same roof" would be fine.
Now if the ex were a random hookup or a super-brief fling and my SO thought there was *zero* chance I'd ever find-out, then yeah -- keep that shit quiet.
I guess for me, the nightmare scenario would be spending 20 minutes in a casual 3-way conversation with my SO and another guy... Then, a few days later, finding out from a friend that *that* was the guy who taught her that trick where she reaches around with her hand during....
mrplunkey
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In all fairness, a little bit of respect and deferance is a good thing anytime *either* person in a relationship is dealing with the opposite sex. For example, I wouldn't chat-up an attractive female at a party for more than 20-30 seconds unless I pulled my SO into the conversation. It's not a control thing -- it's just common courtesy.Raina said:
My thought with sig others have friends of the opposite sex- let your partner know about them from the beginning. If the friend has no interest in hanging out with you and your sig other and doesn't care to get to know the sig other, they have interests that aren't appropriate and at least for me, it would make me not want to talk to them at all.
Most of my friends are male and they're nothing but respectful and tend to befriend people I'm involved with romantically.
Most of my friends are male and they're nothing but respectful and tend to befriend people I'm involved with romantically.
agreed.....i dont talk to other men with out my husband there and same with him talking to females....it is respect for your relationship and the feelings of you SO....mrplunkey said:
But this guy in other threads was calling his girl a whore and a bitch and such which is not needed..far cry from talking to opposite sex and being a whore!
personally, i think she should just dump him and go for the other guy.
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Angel said:
I have to disagree...........there is a HUGE difference between being sociable & simply talking to someone, regardless of their sex and talking to someone with the intent of "hooking up" with them.....
What are you supposed to do at a party?? Say to a man "I'm sorry I can't talk to you cuz my husband is here??" That's just dumb.....
DannoMight
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slap her and tell her who the fuck does she think she is.
mrplunkey
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jenscats5 said:
No, but like you said -- there is a HUGE difference between being sociable versus talking with the intent to hook-up.
The problem is... if you are off in a corner talking to an attractive member of the opposite sex for 10-15 minutes, you're sending a signal to everyone else including your SO. I know I certainly notice when friends of mine are getting chatted-up. Also, out of sheer respect for my friends I would *never* chat-up their SO at a party even if there was 0% chance of a hookup. It's just a respect thing.
It's really not hard. Be sociable and have the 20-60 second exchanges that always take place at parties. If a guy starts to "stick" to you or if you want to have a more detailed exchange with the guy, simply look over at your SO, wave him over, and say "oh and have you met my boyfriend XYZ?". Then, XYZ can choose to stay in the conversation or keep going. Hell... if you introduce me, pet the back of my arm (to show physical connection), then make a witty comment about me (or about you and me), I would wander-off and never think twice if you and the guy chit-chatted the rest of the evening.
It sounds like it's a good thing she's looking for attention elsewhere. If you treat her like the way you talk about her she's better off without you, and vice versa.
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mrplunkey said:
Well I guess I have a different school of thought on this - but I'm not going to limit the time I talk to my male friends just cuz my SO happens to be around.....my ski group is an equal amount of men & women, both of which I enjoy spending time with....
I have no time in tolerating other people's *toxic* behavior.....
What - should I have a timer with me the size of Flava Flav's neck-watch so I don't go over my limit when talking to people?? C'mon!
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jenscats5 said:
You and your SO going on a ski trip, with a group of friends you both know is *worlds* different than you and some random guy off in a corner at a party yucking it up with a 30 minute side conversation.
I'd classify not dissing an SO at a party in the same category as not turning your back on your girl when you are walking together, holding the door for her, or pushing-in a chair. It's respect and courtesy which may be old-fashioned -- but not toxic.
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mrplunkey said:
No, no - I'm talking about my friends - who happen to be men..... I can't discuss skiing with my SO - he doesn't ski.....so I chat with my friends about it.....
Just cuz my SO is with me at a group get-together doesn't mean I have to spend every single second with him....
To me - standing there & timing me while I'm having a conversation with someone IS toxic.....and I wouldn't tolerate it....
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yeah dont stay with her if you cant even trust her over this bullshit.CEASAR said:
theres a fine line between trust and 2-4 years for assault and battery.
dont waste your time if you dont trust her. obviously its an issue you need to deal with.
otherwise shoot her with paintballs.
she'll get the message.
Jen babe i think you read me wrong..I talk to opposite sex people but i make damn well sure they know about my husband and i introduce him. I would never chat on the phone with another man as a friend unless my husband was there with me.Nor would i go out some where with another man.If it so happens i run into some one in a store or at a group then yes obviously i talk and i talk about my husband.I would never go to a party without needto with me, if he doesn't come with then i dont go.jenscats5 said:
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Angel said:
I think I understood you..... and when I'm away on my ski trips I do go out with my guy friends....hubby doesn't come on my ski trips with me....I'm not going to stay in just because he's not around to "escort" me.....
mrplunkey
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jenscats5 said:
I can't find a single statement on this entire thread that suggests or even implies "I have to spend every single second with him".
I can't find a single statement on this entire thread that suggests someone is standing there and timing you either.
Maybe this is a better way of asking the question... You're attending his company's once a year office party, and this *smoking* secretary with a low-cut dress is there too. He worked with her closely, even long nights, for the better part of six months on a project and they have a lot in common. He and she are off in the corner reminiscing the project. You're sure he's loyal and a "good boy", but she's over there smiling, hair-flipping and obviously chatting about parts of her body as well (i.e. pointing to things). They spend a good 30 minutes off in the corner just gabbing away. You fine with that, or are you going to be "toxic"?
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mrplunkey said:
I simply don't see a problem with a SO having a conversation with *another person* regardless of their sex....
I was referring to Angel saying she wouldn't go out unless Needto went with her....here:
Angel said:
Unless I'm misunderstanding what she means by that statement....
a ski trip is a far cry from a party. You enjoy skiing and such, having a hubby should not stop you.....If i was into skiing i wouldnt expect needto to come with...Do you call and hang out with men that ski with you or that you meet while skiing??jenscats5 said:
I surely would not go to a party or call another man....its a lot different than a ski trip or some thing like that.
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Angel said:
I have a large group of ski friends.....and we all go to Happy Hour together....but at times, the whole big group isn't up - so I may go out to eat or for drinks with some of the people who live up there....some of whom are men and it's totally harmless....
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jenscats5
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Angel said:
Well, sometimes it's just us two at a bar.....
but I guess that counts as other people around....needtogetaas
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lmao opps.that was me.Angel said:
Kakdiesel
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ok i finally read everyone's post:
I agree with Mrplunky, if I'm with my girl in public and talking to some females that I know I will introduce within the first minute of the converstation. not that she has to be standing right next to me during the whole time, but just as "common courtesy" to let my friends know (if they dont know) that I am with her and that anything I say shouldnt be misconstrued as flirting or of any romantic/sexual nature. (i.e. if im being witty and nice, its because i'm being friendly--not flirty)
Do I expect the same courtesy? Of course. why wouldnt your girl want other guys to know she is with you? just a formal introduction and then she can go on the other side of the bar/room/party and talk to them all she wants. as long as she puts it out there im fine with it.
I agree with Mrplunky, if I'm with my girl in public and talking to some females that I know I will introduce within the first minute of the converstation. not that she has to be standing right next to me during the whole time, but just as "common courtesy" to let my friends know (if they dont know) that I am with her and that anything I say shouldnt be misconstrued as flirting or of any romantic/sexual nature. (i.e. if im being witty and nice, its because i'm being friendly--not flirty)
Do I expect the same courtesy? Of course. why wouldnt your girl want other guys to know she is with you? just a formal introduction and then she can go on the other side of the bar/room/party and talk to them all she wants. as long as she puts it out there im fine with it.
needtogetaas
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true.Kakdiesel said:
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