DivaInPink
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I've been searching the net looking for a "girl's talk" area of fitness women to get some feedback. So I joined this forum today.
My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years used to be a fitness buff until he got pneumonia in February of 2007. It left scar tissue in his lungs so he does not have the breathing capacity he used too. It took him months to recover as best as he was going to recover and in the process he stopped working out. Now a year later he just seems to have given up. He does not work out, he is tired all the time, sleeps all the time, he is sluggish, and he lacks motivation about most anything. He wont' do anything that requires physical exertion so he just sorts of does very little.
We used to go to the gym together and it was great! I miss that. Now I go to the gym without him and he just spends his evenings on his computer, watching t.v. sleeping, or driving around window shopping.
His lack of physical activity is impacting his mood, his energy level and he no longer likes his body. He gets stressed and eats fast food, drinks lots of sodas and sleeps.
I want to help I just don't know what to say anymore. He says I nag him about his condition so I'll stop that but I just hate seeing him this way.
Considering I'm in the gym four to five evenings a week and have lots of energy and feel good about life sometimes his down mood and sluggishness frustrates me. It's been a year already.
Yes I understand about accepting him as he is but it seems we are going in two different directions. I'm sort of waiting for him to "snap out of it" but maybe this is just the way he will be going forward.
Any advice?
My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years used to be a fitness buff until he got pneumonia in February of 2007. It left scar tissue in his lungs so he does not have the breathing capacity he used too. It took him months to recover as best as he was going to recover and in the process he stopped working out. Now a year later he just seems to have given up. He does not work out, he is tired all the time, sleeps all the time, he is sluggish, and he lacks motivation about most anything. He wont' do anything that requires physical exertion so he just sorts of does very little.
We used to go to the gym together and it was great! I miss that. Now I go to the gym without him and he just spends his evenings on his computer, watching t.v. sleeping, or driving around window shopping.
His lack of physical activity is impacting his mood, his energy level and he no longer likes his body. He gets stressed and eats fast food, drinks lots of sodas and sleeps.
I want to help I just don't know what to say anymore. He says I nag him about his condition so I'll stop that but I just hate seeing him this way.
Considering I'm in the gym four to five evenings a week and have lots of energy and feel good about life sometimes his down mood and sluggishness frustrates me. It's been a year already.
Yes I understand about accepting him as he is but it seems we are going in two different directions. I'm sort of waiting for him to "snap out of it" but maybe this is just the way he will be going forward.
Any advice?