Oh, Java, I have no doubt your ex's have all told you exactly what personality deficiencies you suffer from Say what you will about breakups/divorce, it does ummm, liberate one's true feelings. Yes, those feelings are significantly exacerbated by the intensity of the situation, but I also found myself giving my ex husband advice about just exactly what he did wrong, that he could change, that contributed the most to the dissolution of our marriage.
What's funny is he actually DID take my advice and he's still with #2 (won't admit it, though).