If on a 3rd date and you give a girl $20 to go get a beer&she doesn't give you change

[Rex]

Beer at a Philadelphia game can run from $7.50-9.00 a beer. So you're looking at $15-18 for 2 beers. Mix that in with the walking back to the seats, and dealing with the crowd, and if she's somewhat into the game her mind is on that. I'd give her the benefit of the doubt that she herself may be surprised by the extra bill floating around in her pocket. Now if you send her into a gas station to get a pack of smokes with ten bucks, and you get no change, then there's a problem.

Unless she's like Sharon Stone in Casino.

 

[Forge]

Personally I would start off by assuming that she forgot to give me the change back, and I would try reminding her by asking something like "How much did the beers cost?". If that didn't have any effect I would probably ask outright for the change back.

By now a red flag would be going up in my mind and I would be watching her for any further deceptive behaviour. With her being a female and all, I would probably find a shitload of manipulative and deceptive behaviour going on. I would probably quietly brood for a little until she does something so blatant that I can't contain myself any further. I would confront her about it and she would probably start off by playing coy and ignorant.

As I press her on the issue and want to see some acknowledgement of her wrong doing she will most likely start getting all mad and try to turn it around on me by calling me "petty", or dig up something about me that she doesn't like in hopes of deflecting the issue. Women don't get far with me when it comes to changing the subject and trying to confuse things. Once again, seeing as she's female and all, she will absolutely, positively not admit that she's wrong...because women are never wrong. At this point things are extremly damaged to me and I will never see her the same way again.

That in a nutshell is pretty much every relationship that I've ever had with a woman.

Ah, the truth is spoken.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

a few things i dont like about this situation

first and foremost as jersey said, a half decent girl will be very concious of appearing money hungry or cheap, and would certainly not risk doing so over a handful of change

the other thing is in the same vein - what is she doing handling money of yours? on every date, and in every relationship i ahve been a part of, no one handles the other persons money. if you want to buy a round, YOU buy it. giving someone else money is belittling and a shade degrading imo. seedy.

if i were in your shoes i would probably be pretty put off, but id also have a look at the way i conduct myself and see how it comes across to others. maybe im old fashioned or something, but the thought of giving money or accepting it to buy something makes me cringe

cheers

 

[mountain muscle]

Re: If on a 3rd date and you give a girl $20 to go get a beer&she doesn't give you ch

I still don't see the big damn deal about this. $6-8 dollars for a beer at any stadium in Denver, add in the fact SHE went to get them! Consider it s&h. At least if you game one even a bit on you got some handling as well after the game! If not please see Ejac about his laundry.

 

[Becoming]

Why is he having her go get him a beer?

Personally if it was a date I would have got up and gotten them myself...

If me and the wife are out I still always get up and by the drinks/whatever... (Unless she says to me "hey do you want a beer" in which case I might let her get me one, unless I decide I will get us one anyways)

Maybe she was pissed you let her get them and pocketed the change...

 

[Taps]

I always tried to pull the "I forgot about the change" routine when I was a kid and my parents sent me to the store for milk or something. Didn't fly then, and it doesn't fly now -- nobody "forgets" anything to do with money.

Anyway, like superdave said if she _actually_ did forget, then she's an idiot. And if she kept it on purpose...well, we all know what that makes her.

No long-term potential either way. Hit it then jettison her.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Integrity is integrity, whether she keeps $6 in change or steals your savings or jewelry, it is the same behavior.

Integrity issues are the only ones irresolveable.

 

[supersizeme]

lol someone listens to 105.3 Pugs and Kelly. heard them discussing this situation last week on the way to work. for the record, the girl that Pugs gave the $20 to bought not just one beer, but also one for herself without asking and then kept the change. he ended up calling her out on it indirectly by asking her to "just use the change from the last beer run" when he finished his beer and wanted another one.

big red flag excepting the case where she had a brain fart and simply forgot about the change. it happens sometimes.

 

[strangebrew]

I would tell the bitch to give me my fucking change. No excuse for that.

 

[Smurfy]

If someone didnt return my change and I was wondering about it, i would simply ask them where the change was. No biggie.