I just don't get it.

[Scotsman]

How come every girl I know who is very attractive but down to earth doesn't believe they are attractive? or that every other semi-attractive girl they see is better looking?

This shit is mindboggling to me. Especially when you pay them a complement and they seriously just don't believe you.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[wnt2bBeast]

i find it easier if i just ahng my brains out
if she starts licking her lips i know i got a keeper..if not ..next

 

[jnevin]

She just wants to hear you say she's pretty. Maybe she was a bit of a late bloomer.

 

[Elite_Fry]

do you find fat chicks attractive?

 

[Scotsman]

do you find fat chicks attractive?

Typically no, though I do like women with a little meat on them, really skinny girls are gross.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[jenscats5]

I think some other things could play into that......... like was she ugly/plain, etc till she hit puberty then got cute but hasn't gotten her head around it yet?? Or maybe her parents were negative towards her appearance as a child?? Or if she was plain/ugly as a child, maybe other kids tortured her for it or maybe she was always cute & the other kids teased for that too.....

 

[jerseyart]

How come every girl I know who is very attractive but down to earth doesn't believe they are attractive? or that every other semi-attractive girl they see is better looking?

This shit is mindboggling to me. Especially when you pay them a complement and they seriously just don't believe you.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Low self esteem girls rock

Yay

 

[Scotsman]

Low self esteem girls rock

Yay

Like a vulture to a carcass huh?

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[biteme]

Typically no, though I do like women with a little meat on them, really skinny girls are gross.

Cheers,
Scotsman

THe bigger I have gotten I am more attacted to girls with a little meat on them as well I've noticed. Maybe it's a perception thing. If they are real small, I'm afraid I'd break them.

 

[Scotsman]

THe bigger I have gotten I am more attacted to girls with a little meat on them as well I've noticed. Maybe it's a perception thing. If they are real small, I'm afraid I'd break them.

Exactly what I think. I am at 305 right now and am pretty sure that I would crush a girl who weighs under 120. Hell if I rolled over during the night they could get trapped and suffocate.LOL

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[jerseyart]

Like a vulture to a carcass huh?

Cheers,
Scotsman

Then write on their tombstone

Thank you for the meal

 

[Scotsman]

Then write on their tombstone

Thank you for the meal

Nice epitaph.LOL

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[john937]

Guys are the same way.

 

[Tink!]

Typically no, though I do like women with a little meat on them, really skinny girls are gross.

Cheers,
Scotsman

LOL okay this is why i am so down on myself..all my life i have been very tiny and every one has always told me how icky it was or gross...how sickly i looked...so when some one else tells me i am pretty or attractive, i find it very hard to believe them...not to mention, my husband always made me feel like this as he would always tell me i need to gain weight..and he didn't want to know what i weighed until i got to a buck.
Just made me feel like i wasn't good enough for him...especially when he ended up doing the things he did.

 

[BUBBLES]

How come every girl I know who is very attractive but down to earth doesn't believe they are attractive? or that every other semi-attractive girl they see is better looking?

This shit is mindboggling to me. Especially when you pay them a complement and they seriously just don't believe you.

Cheers,
Scotsman

Personally I do not take too kindly to TOO many compliments.
A couple is enough or else it spoils the evening. Words to me don't mean much, it is the way action is displayed that speaks louder. Sometimes peole lie !

What do you make of guys who give women many compliments yet they are affraid to display affection in public or in front of their family?

Stop the baloney and give me something substantial! ie Loyalty to one woman, honesty, hugs, kisses, nice surprises, written letter, poem etc.... now that is when a woman will believe a man! (@ least I know I will!)

Cheers

 

[biteme]

LOL okay this is why i am so down on myself..all my life i have been very tiny and every one has always told me how icky it was or gross...how sickly i looked...so when some one else tells me i am pretty or attractive, i find it very hard to believe them...not to mention, my husband always made me feel like this as he would always tell me i need to gain weight..and he didn't want to know what i weighed until i got to a buck.
Just made me feel like i wasn't good enough for him...especially when he ended up doing the things he did.

I am very sorry. Chin up.

 

[Tink!]

I am very sorry. Chin up.

thank you sweetie

 

[Pamela]

I think some other things could play into that......... like was she ugly/plain, etc till she hit puberty then got cute but hasn't gotten her head around it yet? Or if she was plain/ugly as a child, maybe other kids tortured her for it & the other kids teased for that too.....

This is what I was thinking too.

I can relate to this!

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

How come every girl I know who is very attractive but down to earth doesn't believe they are attractive? or that every other semi-attractive girl they see is better looking?

This shit is mindboggling to me. Especially when you pay them a complement and they seriously just don't believe you.

Cheers,
Scotsman

A girl you think is pretty, but she thinks she is not, and is honest......that's a gift! Hit that shit!!

 

[evansteve]

How come every girl I know who is very attractive but down to earth doesn't believe they are attractive? or that every other semi-attractive girl they see is better looking?

This shit is mindboggling to me. Especially when you pay them a complement and they seriously just don't believe you.

Cheers,
Scotsman

When girls have a lower self esteem like this, I actually consider it to be a good thing. That way us men have a higher chance of dating these beautiful women.

You see, if she knew that she was hot, then she would be all stuck up, and want to date the 'perfect man' and all that crap.

 

[*MissFit*]

Girls have egos.. guys complain.. girls are less obvious about looking a certain way.. men complain..

Make up your minds

 

[evansteve]

Guys are the same way.

no, most guys are always talking about how goodlooking they are.

 

[d3track]

Typically no, though I do like women with a little meat on them, really skinny girls are gross.

Cheers,
Scotsman

a woman with some muscle is very yummy

 

[evansteve]

LOL okay this is why i am so down on myself..all my life i have been very tiny and every one has always told me how icky it was or gross...how sickly i looked...so when some one else tells me i am pretty or attractive, i find it very hard to believe them...not to mention, my husband always made me feel like this as he would always tell me i need to gain weight..and he didn't want to know what i weighed until i got to a buck.
Just made me feel like i wasn't good enough for him...especially when he ended up doing the things he did.

wow, thats horrible. sounds like a pretty crappy husband to me.
Personally from your avatar pics I think you look beautiful.

As long as a girl isn't trying to starve herself, I think that one can still be really skinny and be beautiful. I would be proud of your body, there are probably a lot of women out there that would kill to have abody like yours.

 

[Scotsman]

LOL okay this is why i am so down on myself..all my life i have been very tiny and every one has always told me how icky it was or gross...how sickly i looked...so when some one else tells me i am pretty or attractive, i find it very hard to believe them...not to mention, my husband always made me feel like this as he would always tell me i need to gain weight..and he didn't want to know what i weighed until i got to a buck.
Just made me feel like i wasn't good enough for him...especially when he ended up doing the things he did.

There is a big difference between being naturally thin and making yourself too skinny. I should have made this distinction. Anyways this is just in the initial phase of meeting that it makes any difference. One of the most attractive girls I know is about 5'2" and maybe 90lbs, her personality makes her beautiful to me. Part of my problem is just the size differential. At 6'2" and over 300lbs I feel akward around really small people, especially since everyone in my family is big(mom is 5'11") I am just not used to it.

Trust me from the pics I've seen of you, you aren't icky or gross, just not very big.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Tink!]

well thank you for clearning that up I am by nature a very small person..very small boned...but i do also know i dont help the situation..when i get upset or depressed, i take it out on my self by not eating...i want to hurt something as much as i am being hurt, but dont want to cause pain for any one else..so i do it to myself.
It is comforting because 1 out of every 100 comments i get on my body, it is some one who is jealous..so i guess i am appealing or at least envied a little by some. Sad thing is, i don't want to be this way any more. I want to get back to working out...and i found all my husbands crap he was taking..so hopefully in a few days i will be on some shakes and on my way to at least where i should be

 

[Scotsman]

It sounds like your mindset is getting better which makes me happy. I know people who are just really thin no matter how much they eat which it sounds like you are as well. Get back to working out get yourself healthy and move on in life. Sometimes the way to a healthy mind is a healthy body.

Keep you head up high and reagain your self esteem and confidence, there is nothing sexier than that.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[Scotsman]

Girls have egos.. guys complain.. girls are less obvious about looking a certain way.. men complain..

Make up your minds

There has to be a happy medium though. It just irks me when you pay someone a genuine compliment and they are in denial about it.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[feisty11975]

How come every girl I know who is very attractive but down to earth doesn't believe they are attractive? or that every other semi-attractive girl they see is better looking?

This shit is mindboggling to me. Especially when you pay them a complement and they seriously just don't believe you.

Cheers,
Scotsman

I'll tell you this much, I was with my husband for 13 years and he always cut me down; too fat, too skinny, hair too long, too straight, too blonde: Now that I am single and I get lots of compliments (which btw I really do like) sometimes I wonder if they are just saying those things or if they really mean them. Going through that type of mental abuse for that long can really fuck up someones self-esteem. There have been times that I have been told things and I just think to myself yeah right.

 

[jenscats5]

I'll tell you this much, I was with my husband for 13 years and he always cut me down; too fat, too skinny, hair too long, too straight, too blonde: Now that I am single and I get lots of compliments (which btw I really do like) sometimes I wonder if they are just saying those things or if they really mean them. Going through that type of mental abuse for that long can really fuck up someones self-esteem. There have been times that I have been told things and I just think to myself yeah right.

Exactly!! If you're told negative things for a long period of time, you eventually believe them. Then when someone pays you a compliment, you don't believe them or you're suspicious.....

 

[Scotsman]

I'll tell you this much, I was with my husband for 13 years and he always cut me down; too fat, too skinny, hair too long, too straight, too blonde: Now that I am single and I get lots of compliments (which btw I really do like) sometimes I wonder if they are just saying those things or if they really mean them. Going through that type of mental abuse for that long can really fuck up someones self-esteem. There have been times that I have been told things and I just think to myself yeah right.

Come hang out with me for a bit. I say what I think. If I give a compliment I really mean it. If you ask me for my opinion on something you get it no candy coating. This has gotten me into a world of trouble. I had a girl ask me once if I thought her jeans made her butt look big, I replied with "No, your butt makes your butt look big" Funny how she never spoke to me again.LOL

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[d3track]

I'll tell you this much, I was with my husband for 13 years and he always cut me down; too fat, too skinny, hair too long, too straight, too blonde: Now that I am single and I get lots of compliments (which btw I really do like) sometimes I wonder if they are just saying those things or if they really mean them. Going through that type of mental abuse for that long can really fuck up someones self-esteem. There have been times that I have been told things and I just think to myself yeah right.

damn thats no good
i dont think i would be able to deal with that for 13 years
what a tool

 

[feisty11975]

damn thats no good
i dont think i would be able to deal with that for 13 years
what a tool

I still don't know how I took it for so long. Guess I stayed for the kids.(WRONG REASON) I know now that I could never go back to a relationship like that. Hell any relationship for that matter. j/j I want to be happy and have a good man in my life who can give and accept compliments and not be afraid to show his emotions. Am I asking for too much?

 

[Scotsman]

Am I asking for too much?

NO

 

[evansteve]

well thank you for clearning that up I am by nature a very small person..very small boned...but i do also know i dont help the situation..when i get upset or depressed, i take it out on my self by not eating...i want to hurt something as much as i am being hurt, but dont want to cause pain for any one else..so i do it to myself.
It is comforting because 1 out of every 100 comments i get on my body, it is some one who is jealous..so i guess i am appealing or at least envied a little by some. Sad thing is, i don't want to be this way any more. I want to get back to working out...and i found all my husbands crap he was taking..so hopefully in a few days i will be on some shakes and on my way to at least where i should be

interesting. so you punish yourself by not eating? heh, that is a little different since most people punish themselves by eating too much.
I suppose either way isnt good though. Have you considered taking your anger/frustration out by doing something thats productive? Like working out or something?

you get a lot of comments on your body? how much of it is positive and how much of it is negative? hopefully you are getting some positive comments.