I have a strange question.

[Bikini Mod]

I understand what you are saying MB as this happened to me once, back in the day. I REALLY dug two diff guys I was dating, hadn't "committed" to either so I "offered myself up to both".....whoever took it, got me. Needless to say, this was a BBAAAAAAAAD move. As I am now in divorce court.

In this case though, there is no "other woman". It is a distance and circumstance thing. Both he and she have children, with children come ex's, and then VERY DIFFICULT decisions have to be made.

So now let me ask this.....assuming this is the case (that he can not make a decision about continuing the relationship because of the distance/circumstance thing.) Why would ANYONE allow another total control over whether or not a relationship continues if they genuinely care for that individual? I mean, we are talking grown-ups here.....not teenage "fantasy land" (no offense to the teenage board members). Does this mean that he really DOESN'T care for her.....or that he cares so deeply for her that he would be willing to let her go because he can not guarantee a future and doesn't want her to be hurt by this?

OK..now this sounds like a fucking soap opera.

Seriously, though I would like your opinions. This all just does not fit into my head.

 

[TxCollegeguy]

BM this reminds me of a country song by Tim Mcgraw(sp?) I agree with the 2nd part of your last post where he might care for her enough to know that he can't provide what she will need in her life

 

[Bikini Mod]

So now, either this guy is just THE MOST caring man on the planet...or he is a total user.

WTF?

 

[Bikini Mod]

Ummmm, you would have to have a dick to be able to do that....BEING A DICK is not good enough.

 

[edgecrusher]

Personally, if I where to tell a woman that it would be ok for her to leave me if she met someone else, it would me looking for an easy way out of a relationship (something I've never done). I did however, experience a situation where when I saw my girlfriend w/ another person and realised, how happy they were together, I let her go.

A situation like this sounds quite unhealthy to me. It seems as though these people are together for all the wrong reasons. I don't know if they are afraid to be alone, staying together for there kids, or whatever reason but if it is not for love then it is the wrong reason. And it will only cause bad things to manifest within there relationship.

If your not in it for the right reasons, then get out of it. I guess what i'm trying to say is if I did care for the person, I would not allow them to have total control over the situation, I could not let them just walk away, not if i cared.

 

[HappyScrappy]

nothing about any of that question is at all strange.

a strange question would be like:
"I have a strong affinity for the sound that blue makes. Why is it that when I hear it, I want to drag myself across the upstairs hallway carpet while holding and massaging a young female goat?"

that's strange.

and if any of your question involves women, then all bets are off - you never know what is going on there.
just come up with two theories and then flip a coin to choose which.
it doesn't matter b/c they are both wrong and the real reason will keep changing anyway.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I see our point edgecrusher..but they have children of their own from other relationships that are ending - FOR REAL. One is just waiting for the paperwork to go through and the other is relocating to another state faaaaaar away from the other....career move.

What I am saying is that they "happened across each other" at a point when they were both in the midst of making major life changes....and they have developed very strong feelings for each other (hence the playful "tell me that you love me"- he said during making love...yet he did not reciprocate when she asked him the same playfully also during lovemaking).

She asked us (girls) while chatting what we thought of this and I for the life of me can not figure it out. So now, is he the most sensitive man on the planet - afraid to show his true feelings for her because he had been devastated in the past. Now he finds this amazing woman, but is moving across country and the likelihood that she would EVER be able to be with him is near impossible as her ex would NEVER allow her to move with her kids.....and she would NEVER leave them. So he can not end the relationship....she can't either even though they BOTH know that there is almost NO WAY that it could EVER WORK OUT.........

or is he the BIGGEST USER on the planet, just trying to get THE MOST AMAZING COOCHIE EVER while he is still able to have her being that she is STILL somewhat geographically desirable?!

 

[MrMuscle]

i didnt read any of that...if i did im sure id feel even more dumber than i actually am

 

[madbomber31]

mr muscle??? you cannot get any dumber so dont worry bro.. you will smarten up when you feed your peter (penis) some nifty love juice.... (snatch drippings).


bm... i personally dont think the man in question cares as much about her as it seems... he thinks he loves her but at the same time does not feel like putting forth the effort??? its possible.. maybe he thinks if she finds someone else and that person takes her away then he will have less stress somehow..

but... here is a brilliant idea...

SHE SHOULD ASK HIM... and maybe she will be able to judge his honesty right then and there... ask HIM all the things you are wondering here... see what he says...

if she is really wanting him to say i love you, she should ask and suck his dick while awaiting the reply...

 

[MrMuscle]

i cannot get any dumber? damn..what is there to strive for then?