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I hate being married
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hamstershaver
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she still blows you?
hamstershaver
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sounds like you married my gfmoose11 said:
vansmack2000
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too late for an annulment?
moose11
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funny everyone brings that up...but apparently they arent as easy to get as one would think...you have to prove the wedding happened under false presumptions. ie already married, drunk, etc. so no cant do that. and since we moved after wedding we are stuck between 2 states residency laws so sometime mid/late dec is when we can file
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jenscats5
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moose11 said:
Did you get married in a Catholic church?? If so, an annulment costs $500 *donation* to the church....
Anyways, it sucks to be you........sorry to hearh that....
GoldenDelicious
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do what everyone else does and have a kid
youll be too sleep deprived to be upset
youll be too sleep deprived to be upset
awittyusername
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Why did you get married?
Sorry bor.
Is it just that you miss the single life or that you really just dont dig your wife?
Me, I miss dating other chicks. But I love my wife, so they sort of cross multiply to cancel each other out and leave me completely content.
Except when shes PMSing. To solve that, I simply drug her for 4 consecutive days. Her work is starting to wonder why a family member of hers dies around the same time every month.
I may have to start drugging them too.
Is it just that you miss the single life or that you really just dont dig your wife?
Me, I miss dating other chicks. But I love my wife, so they sort of cross multiply to cancel each other out and leave me completely content.
Except when shes PMSing. To solve that, I simply drug her for 4 consecutive days. Her work is starting to wonder why a family member of hers dies around the same time every month.
I may have to start drugging them too.
GoldenDelicious
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i remember pms...thats why you need a mistress75th said:
Extra_Strong
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75th said:
lmfao .. ha ha.. gotta love drugs.
How does someone do something as goddam stupid as marrying someone after a few months?
Mach1 said:
.... and talk to her about it. She might feel the same way and you'll both be relieved about it and move on.
milo hobgoblin
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And I bet you 7 months ago.. all your male married friends were sayign "dont do it dumbfuck"
covergrl80
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I have seen so many men in the military that rush them self into marriage and within months there so unhappy. Why do they do this!!!????
milo hobgoblin
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Its the military lifestyle covergrl.. they make it so miserable on you being single you'll do anything to get out of living on base.
You cant imagine how bad it fucking sucks living on a military base.. you have NO freedom..
You cant imagine how bad it fucking sucks living on a military base.. you have NO freedom..
covergrl80
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milo hobgoblin said:
Well that is just down right sad!! There has to be another way to to get off base!
milo hobgoblin
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as an enlitsted guy there isnt.. they usually wont let you off base unless the barracks are severely overcrowded (and I mean severely)..
at one point while I was in the FLEET.. we had 3 guys living in a small room.
Usually until you hit E6 they make you live on base until you get married. Of course this may have changed in the last few years.. but it probably hasnt.
Oh.. and they can search your room at any moment with no notice.. and you have to clean it every week (like sanitize it) after which its inspected by some asshole , who iff he doesnt like you will fail you and make you stay in on Friday night to get "reinspected")
and of course the officers know this shit goes on and dont do a god damn thing about it. Then they have the nerve to act shocked when no one wants to reenlist.. dumbfucks.
You treat grown men like 12 year olds and put vindictive low IQ fucks in charge of em then wonder why they run off and get married.
at one point while I was in the FLEET.. we had 3 guys living in a small room.
Usually until you hit E6 they make you live on base until you get married. Of course this may have changed in the last few years.. but it probably hasnt.
Oh.. and they can search your room at any moment with no notice.. and you have to clean it every week (like sanitize it) after which its inspected by some asshole , who iff he doesnt like you will fail you and make you stay in on Friday night to get "reinspected")
and of course the officers know this shit goes on and dont do a god damn thing about it. Then they have the nerve to act shocked when no one wants to reenlist.. dumbfucks.
You treat grown men like 12 year olds and put vindictive low IQ fucks in charge of em then wonder why they run off and get married.
moose11
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we met in feb.....engaged in july i left for iraq and got back late march and married in may...i honestly dont think she cheated. and yes shes hot lol shes just waaay too needy and girly for me...and wasnt like that before. we butt heads over EVERYTHING and tells her parents/friends EVERYTHING so they all hate me cus all they hear is bad shit. they dont hear chris took me here or bought me this or sent me flowers or made me dinner etc etc they hear chris yelled he left the house hes an ass etc etc
MILF69
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Sorry to that Moose...but here is my thought. This is your life, in the end it comes down to what makes YOU happy. No one wants to hurt anyone else but sometimes we have to do what we have to do to get the best out of this life. If your not happy then you have to move on. Yes she will be devistated I'm sure but in the end it will be the best for both you. Sometimes you have to be very selfish, especially when it's your life. Do what is best for YOU...no matter how complicated it will be. Best wishes!
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alien amp pharm
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I can't even stand guests spending the night at my house, there's no way I could handle someone with me 24/7/365.
Marriage does not appeal to me one bit.
There is no such thing as a fairy tale marriage like most people want to believe.
Marriage is like getting raped in prison....as appealing as it seems at first, the excitment quickly wears off then you're left with getting screwed over and over with no way out.
Marriage does not appeal to me one bit.
There is no such thing as a fairy tale marriage like most people want to believe.
Marriage is like getting raped in prison....as appealing as it seems at first, the excitment quickly wears off then you're left with getting screwed over and over with no way out.
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alien amp pharm
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Hey moose, I also live in Tennessee which gives me a plan.
I will come sleep with your wife. During about the 3rd month of doing this you act like you walk in on her and I doing it and catch her cheating. You then say you want a divorce and chances are you won't lose half of everything because she was being unfaithful.* Plus you come out looking like the good guy.
*note: this plan is only acceptable if your wife is hot.
I will come sleep with your wife. During about the 3rd month of doing this you act like you walk in on her and I doing it and catch her cheating. You then say you want a divorce and chances are you won't lose half of everything because she was being unfaithful.* Plus you come out looking like the good guy.
*note: this plan is only acceptable if your wife is hot.
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KillahBee
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OMEGA said:
without a very reliable source this is beyond hard to believe.
and for the guy that made this thread - it sucks, but you deserve whatever happens since you made such a bad decision. as many before you have and many after you will. people just don't think rationally when it comes to relationships because it ruins the fairytale. if anyone ever acted like that in any other aspect of life they'd be laughed at, but it's almost applauded when it comes to marriage. sad state of affairs.
best of luck getting back to happiness maing.
talk to her nicely. tell her what's bothering you, what you dont' like and what you DO. Ask her what she is unhappy with. be positive.
if sex went downhill, she's probably not happy either. not everything has to go bad after marriage- in fact, it SHOULD get better, despite the fact that its a hard adjustment.
be open and honest with her and see what she feels.
if sex went downhill, she's probably not happy either. not everything has to go bad after marriage- in fact, it SHOULD get better, despite the fact that its a hard adjustment.
be open and honest with her and see what she feels.
Why no prenuptual? Did you have any assets?
Also, PLEASE DO NOT TRUST HER as far as birth control!! She will probably try to trap you by getting pregnant. DO NOT HAVE ANY CHILDREN PLEASE!!!
She will lie about being on the pill, she will poke holes in the condoms, etc...
It's amazing how much they change when they get "comfortable". Gain weight, stop trying to make you happy, less sex, and my least favorite thing: THEY COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING LIKE IT'S YOUR FAULT! They always know what they DON'T want, but never know what they do want.
"How about steaks tonight?"
"I don't want steak."
"How about chicken?"
"I don't want chicken."
"What DO you want?"
"I'm not sure..."
Also, PLEASE DO NOT TRUST HER as far as birth control!! She will probably try to trap you by getting pregnant. DO NOT HAVE ANY CHILDREN PLEASE!!!
She will lie about being on the pill, she will poke holes in the condoms, etc...
It's amazing how much they change when they get "comfortable". Gain weight, stop trying to make you happy, less sex, and my least favorite thing: THEY COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING LIKE IT'S YOUR FAULT! They always know what they DON'T want, but never know what they do want.
"How about steaks tonight?"
"I don't want steak."
"How about chicken?"
"I don't want chicken."
"What DO you want?"
"I'm not sure..."
GoldenDelicious
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WWWWWTTTTTFFFFFF!!alien amp pharm said:
moose11
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Lestat said:
ur totally right....before i left everything was perfect we got cought up in the moment...but there was somethign there ya know? and yes everyone did say "dont do it" and we didnt listen...and a few even said "youll be divorced in less than a year" sux...we used to have so much fun.....she got more sensitive while i was away and i got more "hard" i guess. we dont have many assest so splitting stuff isnt a big deal. just the house really. we did have sex this morning WOOHOOO lol
awittyusername
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moose11 said:
Get out now! The occasional sex is not worth the bullshit. You can get more sex being single than being married.
Seriously, I have friends who were in the same boat. They tried to work on it. Now, they are 30 divorced with kids.
Get out and enjoy your life
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EnderJE said:
What? I know I'm not alone here guys. right? RIGHT?
It's like whacking off....nobody wants to admit they do it, but everybody does.
Covergrl80 said:
Because they don't have a lot of friends/family with military background.
Whe my son joined the service, the year he graduated, I told him, "DO NOT FALL IN LOVE! DO NOT GET MARRIED!!! The divorce rate in the service is over 85%! Have all the fun you want but keep it wrapped and stay SINGLE!" I asked him if he understood me, and have repeated this statement to him on several occasions. I've told him if it's true love, it'll be there when you're discharged.
I told him that, a very good friend of mine who put in 20 years in the Force told him that, my mother told him that, and a family doctor told him that.
moose11 said:
Occasional sex does not a successful marriage make, okay?
Either get your sh*t together, sit down with the wife and say, "look, we have a serious problem," and either a) have a nice little agreeable divorce or b) decide to do EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to make it work and get your asses into serious counseling ...
BUT DECIDE SOMETHING before finances get too twisted (bank accounts, checking accounts, car loans, mortgage, DEBT ...), hearts get even more deeply involved -- which makes things VERY BITTER -- or (god forbid) children become involved!
I've been with my husband for 11 years -- married for over 4 -- he's my best friend, my lover, my partner, my buddy ... we'd be lost without each other ... and as for ...
... If the relationship is a drag in the first year you have problems that need serious attention and it's not going to get better by kidding yourselves.
awittyusername
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moose11 said:
Bro, it is much better to be alone than to be in an unhealthy relationship.
The fear of being alone is the reason most people are involved in relationships. (and for the guys...the fear of never getting steady pussy again)
You must be young. (early 20's) Go out an enjoy yourself. Learn to be happy by yourself before you try to be happy with someone else.
Oh. Tell all your friends not to get married.
they (who ever they are) say most mariages that fail do so in the first year. You both had to become dif people to make it through your tour in Iraq...that took a year right? Isn't it only fair to give yourselves the same amount of time to see who you are now that you are back and together? If it doesnt work it doesnt. either way good luck and thanx.
moose11
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randk said:
we have become diff people...waaaay diff. i agrred to go to couples counseling and that got us nowhere..actually made us fight alittle more because of the "session topics" we both want it to work but being misserable just sux and its hard to live like that ya know.
bicepts101
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milo hobgoblin said:
yep bro and thats why they lose good soldiers like myself.
i hear ya bro. i almost did the same thing in 2000 when i signed up. lucky i realized she was completly retarded and didnt go through with it. i saw so many relationships destroyed, marriages broken, cause of the military alone. not only do u have to to worry about your shitty lifestyle but u have to worry about when u go to the feild about the guy in the other company that lives down the street and ur gone for 30 days.
people in general suck. they cheat, steal, lie, etc. to make themselves feel better. this is why i pick and choose my friend and people i like so wisely. ive just seen too much.
dont worry about this you'll get through it and look back at it and pat yourself on the back cause this made u a stronger man. cause beleive me it will.
but i must say if it wasnt for the military i wouldnt have covergirl80 and she has changed my life forever. shes great
vinylgroover
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i don't know that you have become different people......people don't change in 6 months.......you obviously took the whole marriage thing very lightly and didn't take the time to get to know each other well enough before getting married.
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MuscleMom said:
That an ironic choice of wording.
... what the hell, works either way 
