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GrandMaster
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medicj said:
what did u do now?
Spit?
lol!
It takes two people to have an argument.
Wootoom said:
Watersports?
I just kept bothering him. He was super quiet and said he didn't feel like talking. I think he was worried about the trip. He kept talking about how he is going to miss everyone and he was sad b/c his parents are mad at him for some other stuff. I couldn't stop bothering him ... I tried. I was sad b/c he was leaving. I didn't say anything really bad.I just wouldn't leave him alone.
Thats grounds for dismissal right there.
medicj said:
I dont know the guy. Maybe, hard to say.
GrandMaster
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jack_schitt said:
Common Psycologist JS....cant u see shes in great need
what a waste of a PHD
hope things are going to be ok, in all honesty
medicj said:
Maybe, maybe not. Fix it before he leaves. Go now! Do it.
Don't go to bed angry at each other and don't go to Falluja angry at each other, is what my grandma always said.
GrandMaster
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whats Falluja??
8 months? WOW, thats a long time.
KillzwithPillz
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so does that mean , ur single? waz sup
j/k hell be ok just tell him your going to be miserable with out him..hell forgive ya
j/k hell be ok just tell him your going to be miserable with out him..hell forgive ya
bigmann245
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medicj said:
listen girl i know exactly what your going through. sit down, take a deap breath and relax. ok are you ready?
i did 12 years in the navy and i did two, 6 month deployments to the gulf in that time. my wife and i were just dating at the time but we knew we were getting married. the days and even weeks before i would leave is the worste time ever. it is worse than the actual whole 6 months. i did the same thing with my wife. i didnt want to talk, i didnt want people around, everything made me upset. my mother in law asked me what i needed for the trip and i turned to her and said "a new life". i cant believe i said that. i was so mean. but i was in such a state of shock that i was leaving the woman i loved so dearly for 6 months. the time does fly by believe me. before you know it, its half way them its the day before then the day of then hes there and 9 months later you have a baby. dont laugh thats how my son was born. got home from my last cruise, couldnt wait to be with my wife and boom, 9 months later my son was born. funny how that happens.
but back to your dylema. no he wont be mad at you 4 ever. right now he is holding your picture in his hand staring at it. do what we use to do. go outside at night and stare at the stars. pick a cluster of stars you both can see. we used the little dipper. we called it our kite star bringing our love from one to the other. every night i would go outside and look at the stars and know that the woman i loved was on the other side doing that very same thing. it kept us connected. but we made it through the 6 months in no time at all.
girl, he is thinking about you more than you know. ive seen the toughest guys on the boat break down with homesickness. hang in there. keep writing letters they help tremendously. i dont know if they have email but use it if they do. we didnt have email on my first deployment so we prayed every day for mail call. those letters help get us through to the next mail call. and spray perfume on them. guys might say something corny about that but when they are alone in there bed they will stuff your letters in there pillow so they can smell you all night long. my wife kept my shirt in hers with my cologn on it in her pillow. she said it was as if i was right next to her when she closed her eyes.
absence does make the heart grow stronger. it has made our relationship stronger than you can imagine. if your ever feeling down and need someone to talk to you can pm me anytime. i will answer. i get pm's all the time from people that just need to talk or vent or advice.
he loves you just as much as he ever did. dont give up. hang in there. you have a friend over here. ill help you get through this.
Love is grand.
i know the feeling when ever hubby left i was a wreck....expecially when he went and we couldnt speak to each other!medicj said:Thanx,angel. I hope he stays safe,2. I'm gonna be stressed for 8 months, but he usually comes back ok.
things will be ok....do what i did i found it helpful- i got a notebook and i wrote to him every day..i used different paper when i mailed him letters....that way i kind of felt like i was speaking to him..sounds corny i know it but it helped me a little
Thank u so much. U really made me feel so much better. He isn't even out of the US yet but I miss him so much already. The last time he was gone I wrote to him EVERY day. He had email on the ship and even when he had to leave the ship for a while, I still wrote every day so he had plenty to read when he got back. Thanx, really. U have helped me a lot.I'm sure u will get some pm's from me before this 8 months is over.bigmann245 said:
Lmao!!
Fuck, this brought tears to my eyes reading it.bigmann245 said:
When I was in the army, before I got married, wifey & I would only see each other for 2wks, twice a year for 2 yrs.
I know how you feel. It's heart rending.
My posting was a little different, but, it was tough.
bigmann245
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medicj said:
no problem at all. i helped a lot of guys on the boat through some tough times. i would always get into trouble for stopping work to sit and talk with a shipmate who got a bad email, or a bad letter. i believed the moral of the workers came first. then the work will get done.
believe me, i would be right next to him if i didnt break my ankle. i did 12 years in the navy and i have been out to sea about 5 of those years total. keeping a relationship together in the military is very tough but it is achievable. just keep looking to the stars girl hes always there right on the other side.
im always on here. so i will answer your pm's as quickly as they come. take care. and if you have any questions on certain situations i know a lot about military procedures in how to go about things.
and dont worry about what some imature idiots put on here. my motto is i could care less about there childish remarks. one thing you will find is that i am open and honest and will tell you like it is. this is a hard time for you, that is why military friends stick together.
Thanx. U have already helped. I wish I had u for the last time he was gone.bigmann245 said:no problem at all. i helped a lot of guys on the boat through some tough times. i would always get into trouble for stopping work to sit and talk with a shipmate who got a bad email, or a bad letter. i believed the moral of the workers came first. then the work will get done.
believe me, i would be right next to him if i didnt break my ankle. i did 12 years in the navy and i have been out to sea about 5 of those years total. keeping a relationship together in the military is very tough but it is achievable. just keep looking to the stars girl hes always there right on the other side.
im always on here. so i will answer your pm's as quickly as they come. take care. and if you have any questions on certain situations i know a lot about military procedures in how to go about things.
and dont worry about what some imature idiots put on here. my motto is i could care less about there childish remarks. one thing you will find is that i am open and honest and will tell you like it is. this is a hard time for you, that is why military friends stick together.
bigmann245
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medicj said:
well you should have saw me typing it. it brought back so many memories i lost it a little. my wife walked in and said "whats the matter?" and i told her. i made her cry too. she feels for you also. she said to tell you to count the weeks and not the days, it goes by faster.
Lets all have a good cry.
It really helps to have people who understand. Most of my friends don't understand. They think I shouldn't be with him when he leaves so much. When we are 2gether it makes all of the waiting worth it. I don't care if they understand but it is good to know that someone does.medicj said:
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Dunk said:
LOL
Seriously Medicj
Id say itas about time you get yourself a nice unemployed black man, gain 80 lbs, and get on jerry springer
bigmann245
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medicj said:
and i have to thank you for the K. you are so kind. i didnt say all that to get some K out of ya but i really do appreaciate it. it means a lot to me that you did that. by the way to let yall know she hooked me up with K from the karma store. that was a real nice surprise. i felt good that i helped a person out, now i feel real good.
thats a friendly kiss there. take care girl.
No problem. Take care.bigmann245 said:and i have to thank you for the K. you are so kind. i didnt say all that to get some K out of ya but i really do appreaciate it. it means a lot to me that you did that. by the way to let yall know she hooked me up with K from the karma store. that was a real nice surprise. i felt good that i helped a person out, now i feel real good.
bigmann245
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medicj said:
yea well they said the same thing to my wife years ago. she was with me for the entire 12 years i was in. we were married for 9 of them. dated for the first 3. i met her when i was 19 and had just got to florida. i was hooked. so was she. her friends all told her shit like, oh hes getting with every thing he can out there. you know the girlfriend in every port thing. well, i can honestly say that i was never the "true" sailor. my buddy and i (the best man at my wedding) made a promise that we would both never cheat on our woman and we didnt. he was married and i was just dating mine. but i knew she was going to marry me.
just ask my wife she will tell you. even when i came home i spent every minute with her. i still do. the navy has brought us together like i never thought it would. it made me appreciate her and cherish every second we were together.
i really dont care what some guys say about this. it is sad they will never understand the relationship my wife and i have. it is sad they will never experience it because they wont open their mind and be truthfull with themselves.
Just got to this thread now...
medicj, I'm sure things will be fine. From what ya tell me, he is a good bro. Combine it w/ the fact that you are a very sweet lady, and things can't go wrong.
It's just a very stressful moment for both of ya, for similar yet distinct reasons.
What I'm sure bonds ya is the love you have for each other.
Plus, ya know where to go if ya gotta vent, etc.
Love ya!
medicj, I'm sure things will be fine. From what ya tell me, he is a good bro. Combine it w/ the fact that you are a very sweet lady, and things can't go wrong.
It's just a very stressful moment for both of ya, for similar yet distinct reasons.
What I'm sure bonds ya is the love you have for each other.
Plus, ya know where to go if ya gotta vent, etc.
Love ya!
monstermmf
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SublimeZM said:
Leave it to you! ha geezus.. Sublime.. I want a sig damnit..
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nutsnack
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oh shit..hard times i know.. lost my best friend who was in the navy seals 2 months ago.. he was in some heavy shit though!.. may God rest his soul!!
I know what u mean. EVERYONE tells me stories about all of the bad stuff he is probably doing when he is away from me.They say that even if he is a good guy, Marines usually drink a lot and he probably cheats when he gets drunk. The thing is: Every time he goes out drinking with his friends, everytime he's had more than " a couple " I know it because he calls me and everyone yells at him b/c he won't get off the phone. He misses me more when he drinks.He stays on the phone until he goes to sleep.EVERY TIME. It's kinda funny b/c there has been a few times he went outside of the bar and locked himself in his car to talk to me b/c his friends kept trying to get him off the phone. I know he isn't doing anything wrong.bigmann245 said:
When I was doin it, my wife was still in H.S. for 2 yrs. Everyone was telling her what I was doin (they thought), & how bad I was for her. One of her teachers even made a coment in front of the class about how some people throw their lives away waiting for the wrong guy. She had no one who understood, no one to talk too. This was pre internet, so she was really alone.medicj said:
BTW, teacher got fired.
That sounds harsh. I understand. My parents even give me a hard time. It sucks. I really don't care much anymore. I am a little worried because he usually spends most of his time on a ship when he is gone. This time, he will not be on a ship. They always had internet on the ship but he was not sure if he would have much chance at a computer while they are in Fallujah. I am so worried that I won't hear from him much. It really sux.hidngod said:
bigmann245
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medicj said:I know what u mean. EVERYONE tells me stories about all of the bad stuff he is probably doing when he is away from me.They say that even if he is a good guy, Marines usually drink a lot and he probably cheats when he gets drunk. The thing is: Every time he goes out drinking with his friends, everytime he's had more than " a couple " I know it because he calls me and everyone yells at him b/c he won't get off the phone. He misses me more when he drinks.He stays on the phone until he goes to sleep.EVERY TIME. It's kinda funny b/c there has been a few times he went outside of the bar and locked himself in his car to talk to me b/c his friends kept trying to get him off the phone. I know he isn't doing anything wrong.
that is so funny. i did the same thing. we had phones at the pier when we pulled in. this was before cell phones. well before you could bring a cell phone overseas and have it work. but i use to go out and drink, a lot, thats all there is to do there. but i would always go back to the ship and before i went on to the ship i would call the wife from the phone. she knew i was drunk but she loved it. she knew i was drunk and still had time to stay out (we had a curfew on the boat) but i used my last hour or so to call her. every time we were in port. some of the other married guys or guys in relationships would still be out cheating but i was always in that phone center every night. there was one time we went to a bar and all of a sudden my friends were gone. they found out that upstairs was a hooker bar. so they dragged me up there without telling me what was up there but i walked in and noticed all skimpy dressed woman. i turned to my buddy and said im going back downstairs this is bullshit. they got pissed at me for leaving but its not my thing. even if i was single i dont believe in paying for sex. its nasty in so many ways.
your man sounds a lot like i was when i was in the military. and you sound a lot like my wife was. we ares till the same people but you guys remind me so much of what we went through and what we were like in the military. you guys are just a little bit younger than us. we are 30 but you guys arent far behind. hang in there, dont listen to the jealous idiots it will drive you nuts. just keep looking to the stars. that would always pick me back up when i was down.
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