It's beyond that. He pleases me when he does it he just rarely does it. We had sex like 7 times from July to December of last year. He never expresses desire, touches me, seeks me out, he's not affectionate, which has lead to me feeling unattractive, unloved no confidence, etc
He's become mean, I talk to him and he won't even reply back. We decide to go out and he says where ever but when I suggested places he knocks them down but puts no options, then gets irritated.
He ruined my 30th birthday, he didn't plan anything and then got mad I didn't plan anything, he then pressured me to pick a place, when I finally picked a place he said not there because he doesn't like it (is it my bday or your fucking bday?)
In May we went to NYC together and he ruined it, he yelled at me at the top of the rock, he told me ground zero was "whatever" and told me to hurry up so we could leave, he ditched me and left me crying alone in the statue of liberty (that's when and where I decided I wanted out, I just was too much if a pussy/fool to so it before)
He's blamed our issues on me working too much but I work too much because I truly no longer enjoy his company, it's a vicious cycle.
There's much more of course, these are just examples within the last year.