I Feel a Rant Coming On

[Sweet_Bitch]

**Crawling up on my soapbox!!**

So I have this friend, we'll call her Jane. Jane was dumped by her boyfriend recently. She has made the wise decision to play the field for awhile and remain single in an effort to "see what's out there." This is a great decision for her, she's young and has ALWAYS had a boyfriend. Jane met this guy, we'll call him John, on the internet. He is the typical rebound guy. Very nice, very sweet, very attentive, very average, very...well, for lack of a better way to illustrate this-he's a girl, trapped in the body of a prepubescent boy. Nice guy and all, but pretty much a wuss and REALLY a doormat. But she's all about hanging out with this guy becuase he does all of the things that she needs-cuddly, compliments, flowers, dinner, undivided attention. Here's what's pissing me off: she tells this guy over and over that she does not want a "serious" relationship and that no way does she like him like that and then proceeds to spend ALL of her time with him, call him 50 times a day, sleep with him, and let him practically move in. (Which he loves!!) So John is thinking that this has got long-term written all over it and she's crushing his little femme-like heart and then has the nerve to get pissed off because he isn't getting that she doesn't like him!! WTF!!!! And I would say it was his own fault, except that I've known guys like this and they are NOT capable of understanding that a girl could be using them. (Much in the way that girls are often incapable of understanding that they could be being used...ironic.) So Jane e-mails me and calls me 50 times a day to bitcha nd complain about him and his ragging on her and his whining and his neediness-and then goes out with and sleeps with him and lets him stay that night!!!! Good lord!!!

 

[SoreArms]

The smallest sign of attention makes guys think the girl likes them, even something as small as "nice shoes" would make a guy think "she wants me". Now imagine, she's been spending all her time him, sleeping, spooning, etc..... That dude thinks he's in and if he's femmy and sensitive like you said, he's probably really attached already and will be really crushed, but the longer she waits, the worst it be.

 

[theoak01]

fuck sounds like me, direct john to this board he can join the sopping wet vaginas

 

[Gymgurl]

Avice - Stayout of it....tell her to deal with it and you don't want to hear it until she ends it

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

The smallest sign of attention makes guys think the girl likes them, even something as small as "nice shoes" would make a guy think "she wants me". Now imagine, she's been spending all her time him, sleeping, spooning, etc..... That dude thinks he's in and if he's femmy and sensitive like you said, he's probably really attached already and will be really crushed, but the longer she waits, the worst it be.

I've told her that at least 30 times a day for the last month-she's just a dipshit in this particular case

 

[awittyusername]

Just tell her to dump Alien Amp Pharm.

 

[SoreArms]

I've told her that at least 30 times a day for the last month-she's just a dipshit in this particular case

send her to me, I'll straighten her out, and twist her and bend her and all that other good stuff

 

[alien amp pharm]

Same thing happened to me recently except the girl played along and led me to believe she really was interested in something long term.

It's wrong to lead people on.

 

[Gymgurl]

or how about the ones that tell you they don't want a long term relationship and then get mad at you because they changed their minds and you didn't.....

 

[Kroliczek]

Avice - Stayout of it....tell her to deal with it and you don't want to hear it until she ends it

Agree. Stay out of it as much as you can. She relies on you as a friend that she can vent to you.

 

[alien amp pharm]

direct john to this board he can join the sopping wet vaginas

lol!!!

 

[alien amp pharm]

Just tell her to dump Alien Amp Pharm.

LOL!!!

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Agree. Stay out of it as much as you can. She relies on you as a friend that she can vent to you.

And vent she does. I learned long ago to keep my mouth shut-hence the reason I'm ranting on here and not to her I smile and nod and tell her it will only get worse and she ignores me-it's great!!

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Same thing happened to me recently except the girl played along and led me to believe she really was interested in something long term.

It's wrong to lead people on.

Agreed. What drives me nuts is that I've done this before. I was her about 6 years ago and I really screwed this guy over, bad. I ripped his little heart out-over and over again-and stomped on it-with my big black boots. I only have a fraction of an idea of how much I hurt him and that's enough to have made me feel like crap for years about it. So I see her doing the SAMe thing and I just want to grab her and shake her, but I can't and I won't-everyone must learn on their own.

 

[Y_lifter]

John must have a Gigantic Hammer

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

John must have a Gigantic Hammer

Femme-Like guys rarely do-I speak from experience. Sadly.

 

[Y_lifter]

Femme-Like guys rarely do-I speak from experience. Sadly.

You mean Physically Femme ? Light in the Loafers Femme
or
Just a nice guy in touch with his softer side that treats her like a queen?

 

[-SD-]

Let me get this straight. John has seeing Jane and fucking her on a regular basis and she spends a lot of time with him and always calls him/vice versa. Yet Jane tries to say she doesnt want a relationship???
Sounds like she has a relationship with john to me. Unless I missed something they are doing the normal things that people do in relationships i.e. spending a lot of time together and fucking.

 

[Y_lifter]

Let me get this straight. John has seeing Jane and fucking her on a regular basis and she spends a lot of time with him and always calls him/vice versa. Yet Jane tries to say she doesnt want a relationship???
Sounds like she has a relationship with john to me. Unless I missed something they are doing the normal things that people do in relationships i.e. spending a lot of time together and fucking.

She hadn't yet written her first name and his last name on her book covers..

 

[-SD-]

She hadn't yet written her first name and his last name on her book covers..

Oh shit, and you forgot the note in study hall that asks him to check yes or no for if he will "go with her".

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

You mean Physically Femme ? Light in the Loafers Femme
or
Just a nice guy in touch with his softer side that treats her like a queen?

I mean just a nice guy in touch with his softer side that treats her like a queen. Don't get me wrong-guys like this (as few and far between as they are) are great, if they have a backbone. This one does not. And I don't call him femme-like as an insult, it's just the best way to describe him. I'm all for guys in touch with thier femme side, but the perfect guy is not only in touch with his, but able to tell me to go f*#& myself when I deserve it.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Let me get this straight. John has seeing Jane and fucking her on a regular basis and she spends a lot of time with him and always calls him/vice versa. Yet Jane tries to say she doesnt want a relationship???
Sounds like she has a relationship with john to me. Unless I missed something they are doing the normal things that people do in relationships i.e. spending a lot of time together and fucking.

Hence the reason for my aggravation with her for bitching about him not getting that they aren't in a relationship and that they are just "friends".

 

[Kroliczek]

And vent she does. I learned long ago to keep my mouth shut-hence the reason I'm ranting on here and not to her I smile and nod and tell her it will only get worse and she ignores me-it's great!!

Yeah, but if you are telling her that it is only going to get worse, then you are not 'keep[ing] your mouth shut.'

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Oh shit, and you forgot the note in study hall that asks him to check yes or no for if he will "go with her".

LMAO!!!

My favorite was always the best friend talking to you for them. Oh, and writing "I heart whoever" on the back of your hand or on your knee so that it could be read through the hole in your stonewashed jeans!! As for writing names on notebooks, I always thought that was SOOOO lame.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Yeah, but if you are telling her that it is only going to get worse, then you are not 'keep[ing] your mouth shut.'

True. However if you compare the ratio of things that I could/want to say to the thing that I do say...it's practically nothing. Ha ha.

 

[Kroliczek]

True. However if you compare the ratio of things that I could/want to say to the thing that I do say...it's practically nothing. Ha ha.

Ok. But I hope you see my point.

There is a difference between practically nothing and nothing. I have expericence in these matters and my best advice is to keep out.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Ok. But I hope you see my point.

There is a difference between practically nothing and nothing. I have expericence in these matters and my best advice is to keep out.

I do, and I can appreciate what you're saying. Most of the time when a person vents to their friend they aren't looking for advice or guidence or even an opinion. I'm definetly like that. But I also think that if you vent about something enough to one person, they are eventually going to say something. And I'm pretty sure I know what kind of person you are warning me against being and I assure I am not. I too have had MUCH experience in these matters.

 

[awittyusername]

but the perfect guy is not only in touch with his, but able to tell me to go f*#& myself when I deserve it.

Go f*#& yourself

 

[jh1]

fuck sounds like me, direct john to this board he can join the sopping wet vaginas

Right on orb..... Right on.

 

[jh1]

Just tell her to dump Alien Amp Pharm.

LMFAO...

K for that...

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Sweet_Bitch... go fuck yourself! Can we fuck now?

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Go f*#& yourself

I'm in !!!!!!

Seriously, does anyone know what I mean though?

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Sweet_Bitch... go fuck yourself! Can we fuck now?

Gee, as tempting as that is....

 

[the nature boy]

How old are the parties involved?

 

[SoreArms]

I'm in !!!!!!

Seriously, does anyone know what I mean though?

I know exactly what you mean, I like the same in a woman. I hate emotinally submissive women.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

How old are the parties involved?

Jane is 22 and John is 21 I think.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

It's not that I want a guy to be a total asshole, but I respect someone who can call me on my bullshit. Besides, it's healthy to have a good sparring match with your significant other once in a while...makes for great angry or make up sex!!!

 

[Gigantasor]

When I was sixteen I hooked up with this stripper she was 24. Very attractive woman and willing to say or do whatever she wanted. My introduction to the world of women was fast, furious, and very fun. I thought I was the shit. I was hooked like a fat man with cake. The problem is that she wasn't. I was just something to do for a while. I was crushed and it took a while to get over.

Simple fact is that shit happens....all the time. If this guy is getting walked on by "Jane" so be it. He'll get over it. If he doesn't Fuc*'em. Life is not fair. Sometimes the men dish this shit out and some times the woman. If "Dildo Fagman" didn't like it he'd man up and walk away. I'm thinking some part of his little gay mind like the attention even though he knows it's not bad. Kinda like an alcholic that has come to understand that he has a problem but still drinks. He does it becase he likes it.

Yeah "Jane" is being a bitch, among other things, but life is a bitch. Hell if "Dido" wasn't such a fairy he probably wouldn't be in this position. Sounds like he is getting what he needs. Maybe he'll grow a pair after he get's kicked a few times. Then again maybe not, either way at some point it will be a distant memory.

 

[the nature boy]

Jane is 22 and John is 21 I think.

wow, he's a little young to want to have her move in.

I'd tell your gal pal to keep you out of any discussions about the rebound guy. That'll kind of let her know how you feel about the situation. If you really feel strongly about it, tell rebound guy what the deal is. Or just follow the advice of others on this thead and stay out of it, but kindly ask to be spared any details of their doomed relationship.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

wow, he's a little young to want to have her move in.

I'd tell your gal pal to keep you out of any discussions about the rebound guy. That'll kind of let her know how you feel about the situation. If you really feel strongly about it, tell rebound guy what the deal is. Or just follow the advice of others on this thead and stay out of it, but kindly ask to be spared any details of their doomed relationship.

Great advice if I were a guy, but I'm not This is how I would handle it, except that with girls this would be considered an all time bitch move. I can't say that I've totally stayed out of it, I have told her that they are both going to end up hurt and angry (or married) and I've steered clear of her invites to hang out with them (for fear of samcking some sense into him!!). But that's about as far as I can go. That's what sucks about girlfriends as opposed to boyfriends-with guys you can usually be totally blunt, with girls you gotta be careful. We get our feelings hurt too easily.

And I do agree to a point that it's his own damn fault, but I also think that if she is fully aware of the situation then she's out of line (?) continuing the charade.

 

[awittyusername]

I'm going to ask again. Which one of you guys is sweet bitch? There is no way sweet bitch is a female. Sweet bitch is way to logical to be a girl. (No offence to the ladies here. I just think she thinks like a man)

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

I'm going to ask again. Which one of you guys is sweet bitch? There is no way sweet bitch is a female. Sweet bitch is way to logical to be a girl. (No offence to the ladies here. I just think she thinks like a man)

I'm a girl I tell you, a real live girl!!! Let me explain a little about myself and maybe it will help. Growing up all of my friends were guys, always. I've had exactly 3 close girlfriends in 20-some years. I lived with my father for a few of my teenage years and he is the ulitmate "guy". Non-emotional, blunt, honest, RATIONAL. He handled his life like he handled his job-all business all the time. No time for over emotional scenes and drama queen shit. I respected that in him. I watched my guy friends go through so much SHIT becuase of girls and learned pretty quick that no way did I want to be like the other girls. In addition to which spending so much time with guys also taught me how to act etc. to earn a guys a respect and for me, it's all about respect. I didn't want to be the girl that everyone just wanted to bang, I wanted to be the girl that was cool to hang with, even with your friends I was never into the "girly" stuff so I was always more comfortable with guys, no back-stabbing, no drama, no bull shit. (Well almost none!!)

Clear it up some?

 

[RADAR]

Well at least the whereabouts of Fxygel has been located!
Tell that wussy hello for me.


RADAR

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Well at least the whereabouts of Fxygel has been located!
Tell that wussy hello for me.


RADAR

Who?

 

[RADAR]

Who?

Fxygel he is banned from here, couldn't get a date with a limp washrag and was always blaming elite & everyone else for his failures!


RADAR

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Well at least the whereabouts of Fxygel has been located!
Tell that wussy hello for me.


RADAR

Bwahahahahaahahahahahahhaah..... I think I just pissed in my pants...

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Fxygel he is banned from here, couldn't get a date with a limp washrag and was always blaming elite & everyone else for his failures!


RADAR

Don't know him...I take it that was an insult?

 

[RADAR]

Don't know him...I take it that was an insult?

Not an insult, it just the guy you describe fits
him to a tee!


RADAR

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Not an insult, it just the guy you describe fits
him to a tee!


RADAR

Whoa, I get it...sorry. It's been a mind numbingly dull day and I'm a little slow right not...I just figured out you were referring to "John". My bad.