Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below It's quite sad really. Every weekend me and my buddies go out to the clubs and granted, we don't do too bad, we hookup quite often. But all the action that I get is from just happening to be in the right line of fire when a drunk horny girl stumbles by and starts babbling to me. I can sit there and play the eye contact game with girls for an hour and still not approach them. Once in a blue moon, if the girl makes it painfully obvious will I go over and talk to her. I can't really complain about a lack of action, but I know I am missing countless oppurtunities each weekend, and I know I probably won't meet a Quality girl by just standing there. Any one have similar problems and any suggestions?
I can't approach girls
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Kakdiesel
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Hey thick dog..it happens to all of us at one point or another..
here's what I do..i tell myself, fuck it, I know what I got to offer physically and intellectually and if the chick aint feelin it so what? You had nothing to lose to begin with...if she's hot, and she isnt into you so what? You got shut down by a really hot chick..no shame in that..now if you got shot down by some nasty chick then you got problems
but for real, just tell yourself and psyche yourself up for the kill..girls love confidence...dont let anybody tell you different..you come with a strong game and they'll at least listen to you..dont come with anybullshit..girls see right through that..
just be yourself, and really nice, and if they by any chance diss you, then they're a bitch..cuz if youre good looking and being really nice, they have no reason to diss you in a mean way..maybe they already got a boyfriend or maybe with someone else, which is no big deal..
again, you got nothing to lose...and if your boys clown you cuz you got dissed by a girl, then fuck em, ask them if THEY got the balls to try it...and most of the time, those who clown you dont..
peace
here's what I do..i tell myself, fuck it, I know what I got to offer physically and intellectually and if the chick aint feelin it so what? You had nothing to lose to begin with...if she's hot, and she isnt into you so what? You got shut down by a really hot chick..no shame in that..now if you got shot down by some nasty chick then you got problems
but for real, just tell yourself and psyche yourself up for the kill..girls love confidence...dont let anybody tell you different..you come with a strong game and they'll at least listen to you..dont come with anybullshit..girls see right through that..
just be yourself, and really nice, and if they by any chance diss you, then they're a bitch..cuz if youre good looking and being really nice, they have no reason to diss you in a mean way..maybe they already got a boyfriend or maybe with someone else, which is no big deal..
again, you got nothing to lose...and if your boys clown you cuz you got dissed by a girl, then fuck em, ask them if THEY got the balls to try it...and most of the time, those who clown you dont..
peace
HappyScrappy
New member
just standing there?
you certainly aren't going to meet a "quality girl" out at the bar. its a meet market, treat it as such and you won't be disappointed.
what I don't get is when women go out to these things and then complain later about all the guys hitting on them. WTF?! you go to a place that's sole purpose is for that, you dress provocatively, everyone's drunk...
if you went to the library or the grocery store and some dude grabbed you ass and made a pass at you - that is weird - but in a fucking club? give me a break. the only thing I can see is that they want to brag about getting hit on so much, other than that, shut up.
TD - if you want to meet quality women for a real relationship, don't bother with a bar or club for finding them.
Also don't bother with the nursury school - in fact, that can get you into some trouble... not that I've...
you certainly aren't going to meet a "quality girl" out at the bar. its a meet market, treat it as such and you won't be disappointed.
what I don't get is when women go out to these things and then complain later about all the guys hitting on them. WTF?! you go to a place that's sole purpose is for that, you dress provocatively, everyone's drunk...
if you went to the library or the grocery store and some dude grabbed you ass and made a pass at you - that is weird - but in a fucking club? give me a break. the only thing I can see is that they want to brag about getting hit on so much, other than that, shut up.
TD - if you want to meet quality women for a real relationship, don't bother with a bar or club for finding them.
Also don't bother with the nursury school - in fact, that can get you into some trouble... not that I've...
Kakdiesel
Banned
My general "line" i use when I want to talk to a girl in a club is this:
just approach her when she isnt dancing or just standing there by the bar waiting on a drink and say, "hey whats up?" THen go on to ask her her name, whats her major (if she's in college) or what she does...get her to talk about herself..then wait for her to ask about you...girls love to talk about themselves Seem genuinely interested in what she's about..then she'll reciprocate
smile and be very nice....yeah nice guys finish last most of the time, but douche bags finish last EVERYTIME.
go for da kill Women love conquerers, be a conquerer and go at it...
just approach her when she isnt dancing or just standing there by the bar waiting on a drink and say, "hey whats up?" THen go on to ask her her name, whats her major (if she's in college) or what she does...get her to talk about herself..then wait for her to ask about you...girls love to talk about themselves
Seem genuinely interested in what she's about..then she'll reciprocatesmile and be very nice....yeah nice guys finish last most of the time, but douche bags finish last EVERYTIME.
go for da kill
Women love conquerers, be a conquerer and go at it...Bikini Mod
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Yea...what he said.
It is quite true that you probably won't meet a quality girl if you don't approach them. Like Kak said, there is no shame in being shot down by an attractive girl and if she is a bitch then FUCK HER...why would you waste another moment?
And even if she isn't ALL OVER you at first, that doesn't mean that she is not interested. Girls REALLY dig persistence....at least I do anyways.
It is quite true that you probably won't meet a quality girl if you don't approach them. Like Kak said, there is no shame in being shot down by an attractive girl and if she is a bitch then FUCK HER...why would you waste another moment?
And even if she isn't ALL OVER you at first, that doesn't mean that she is not interested. Girls REALLY dig persistence....at least I do anyways.
Kakdiesel
Banned
Thanks Bikinimom
I like to think that I have pretty good experience with meeting girls in the club or in a social scene like that (my frat parties, house parties, etc.)
its all the same...Again, I cannot stress the importance of confidence/sincerity combo...not cocky, but knowing that hey, i'm not a loser and I got something to offer kinda mind set.
I like to think that I have pretty good experience with meeting girls in the club or in a social scene like that (my frat parties, house parties, etc.)
its all the same...Again, I cannot stress the importance of confidence/sincerity combo...not cocky, but knowing that hey, i'm not a loser and I got something to offer kinda mind set.
You should pick up the book....
"How I met the man of my Dreams" by Supersizeme, the forward was written by his lifepartner Havoc. I saw it in the Self Help Section at Barnes & Noble this weekend. It may have some tips you can apply to coochie.
"How I met the man of my Dreams" by Supersizeme, the forward was written by his lifepartner Havoc. I saw it in the Self Help Section at Barnes & Noble this weekend. It may have some tips you can apply to coochie.
havoc
Shaolin Ninja
Wodin, do yourself a favor and trim that fur coat above your eyes you call eyebrows, keep it up and I'm going to wrap that 18 kilogram unibrow around your whale sized head like an Israeli Turbin, stretched down your scholiosis suffering spine and stapled to that blubber deposit between your shithole and your testicle cathumper.
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May1010
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Thick Dog -
I've seen your pix in the members section. You're very do-able.
I've seen your pix in the members section. You're very do-able.
AGENT SHAGWELL
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Thick....you just gotta go up and talk to them...period.
Being a single woman, my biggest complaint is I never get asked out by guys, unless on rare occasion they are very cocky and annoying. NEVER....its quite frustrating. I'd probably go out with any nice guy that approached me, or at the very least have a nice converstation with him. But this very rarely happens. Last 2 guys I dated was because one: I approached him, two: my old roomate told him I would go out with him if he asked me. Both told me they thought I had a boyfriend already, or would have said no if they approached me.
But if you never approach a girl, you'll never get the chance.
You can do it Thick
Being a single woman, my biggest complaint is I never get asked out by guys, unless on rare occasion they are very cocky and annoying. NEVER....its quite frustrating. I'd probably go out with any nice guy that approached me, or at the very least have a nice converstation with him. But this very rarely happens. Last 2 guys I dated was because one: I approached him, two: my old roomate told him I would go out with him if he asked me. Both told me they thought I had a boyfriend already, or would have said no if they approached me.
But if you never approach a girl, you'll never get the chance.
You can do it Thick
TD look at it this way. You were alone before you walked up to her so if you walk away alone...what have you lost. And the only way that she can take your self confidence away is if you let her. If on the off chance that you get shot down a few times...you will realize that its no big deal. It will get easier to approach them. Unfortunately sometimes this is easier said than done...but your really don't have anything to lose.
I agree with all of you, I really have nothing to lose. And it is a hell of a lot easier said than done. Out of the 4 girls I have approached in the passed 10 years, 2 have become girlfreinds, so I have a decent batting average. On a sad note, I can't count the number of times I have struck out with girls that have approached me...
LeviathanX
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Do you guys ever find that you start drifting off when you are talking to a girl? I know, it's terrible. I don't know why it happens, I try to be really interested. They never notice, but sometimes they want to talk about themselves TOO much. I really don't care what sports they played in elementary school in the first hour that I meet them. I sit there and smile, and go "yeah", "ahuh", "that's cool", etc., but by the end of the night I've forgotten more than half of what they've told me.
I don't want to be rude and just leave, so I wind up sitting there the whole time trying to stay awake.
NOTE: this isn't with every girl (some girls are actually interesting and can have deep conversation), but with the majority of girls met at clubs or bars this is how it always pans out.
I don't want to be rude and just leave, so I wind up sitting there the whole time trying to stay awake.
NOTE: this isn't with every girl (some girls are actually interesting and can have deep conversation), but with the majority of girls met at clubs or bars this is how it always pans out.
Try dating women a few years older- in their thirties. You'll find they are usually much easier to get along with, and generally easier to approach.
An added bonus is that they are hitting their sexual prime, and are better in tune with their bodies and sexuality.
Also there are more single women in their 30's, then there are men. Plus they are so much better to talk to in my humble opinion!!
I love women 30+ have a special place for women mid-40's who are in good shape!! Dated one of my college professors, man was she hot!!
BTW- I am 32
An added bonus is that they are hitting their sexual prime, and are better in tune with their bodies and sexuality.
Also there are more single women in their 30's, then there are men. Plus they are so much better to talk to in my humble opinion!!
I love women 30+ have a special place for women mid-40's who are in good shape!! Dated one of my college professors, man was she hot!!
BTW- I am 32
BTW...if she is sitting there playin the eye flirt game then she is looking at you as much as you are looking at her right??! So as long as you don't have spinach in your teeth or a huge scar on your face...she probably is interested.
Hell send her a drink...maybe she'll walk over to you...make the bartender do the approaching her thing for you.
Hell send her a drink...maybe she'll walk over to you...make the bartender do the approaching her thing for you.
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manny78
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dude if you're looking for "quality girl".....well forget about bars...there's only pussies to fuck. Nice girls with both a brain and a body are hard to find, but you'll usually meet them in unexpected places. Just be patient we always find what we're looking for....
Hehe, I've nailed a few 30 year olds and they are quite wild, they know what they want and don't play as many games. Waht happens to me al ot is when I'm playing the eye games with them is that I'll wai tto long in hopes that they'll come over to me that they end up getting bored and walking away. I need to get some balls...
You should just walk up to them and sniff their ass...you know dog style. Then just stand up and say..."We'll we're going to have to get you nekkid cause I can't smell a damn think through all those cloths..."
Note: Smile *wait for it*...then duck if necessary.
Note: Smile *wait for it*...then duck if necessary.
AGENT SHAGWELL
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OK. I consider myself a "nice girl". So here's my view on nice girl behavior.
1st-I do go to bars...however haven't been to one in about 4 months now....so I see your point. Mostly frequent them to watch NFL or NBA.
2nd-Nice girls don't play games. They make eye contact, and you don't come over, they either approach you or thats it.
3rd-Buying a girl a drink throught the bartender. I get that all the time. Half the time the guy doesn't even come up to talk, just stares. Basically, he just blew money for a drink. Better off just go talk to her, then maybe buy her a drink after talking for a while. (see I'm looking out for the guys too)
1st-I do go to bars...however haven't been to one in about 4 months now....so I see your point. Mostly frequent them to watch NFL or NBA.
2nd-Nice girls don't play games. They make eye contact, and you don't come over, they either approach you or thats it.
3rd-Buying a girl a drink throught the bartender. I get that all the time. Half the time the guy doesn't even come up to talk, just stares. Basically, he just blew money for a drink. Better off just go talk to her, then maybe buy her a drink after talking for a while. (see I'm looking out for the guys too)
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