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I am seething with anger right now.
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needtogetaas
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pms.
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Come back after you work off the energy.
Come back after you work off the energy.
needtogetaas
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thems fighting words right there biteme.thelion2005 said:
you ganna let him say that to you.
Lestat said:
I just got back from divorce court. The ex's husband was there. I couldn't look at him or I would have wanted to get up and pound him if he were to give me a cross look. I should have shut my mouth when that fucking judge asked about any family violence. The good thing is the stepfather still can't be around her until orders are final and that may be the final order. The bad news is the judge ordered us to undergo counseling for divorced parents that don't get along. 750$ that I don't have. He said I'd have to get it. Father's rights said he was an idiot.
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Beachbum1546
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Imagine if you went to court with cheque drops in your system... awesome.
Erzulie said:Deep breaths hun, Doesn't matter how angry you are, tommorrow will still hold the same problems.
My daughter is severely mentally ill. I've got to get her into counseling pronto. My ex wife calls screaming demanding to talk to her accusing me of poisoning her mind because the child will not talk to her. My life will be hell for the next several years.
biteme said:
I agree you definitely need to seek counseling for your daughter. As for he X, when she calls make it short and sweet. If your daughter doesn't want to talk tell her that and then hang up. Don't give her the satisfaction of using you to vent to, she knows it angers you and that is fueling her.
Small baby steps B, You can't eat an elephant in one bite, you have to eat it one bite at a time.
theoak01 said:
Brother, if they're all this insane, I'm staying alone for the rest of my life and there's nothing to even consider. She is bats, whacko. Throws and breaks things if she doesn't get her way. Threatens to kill herself if she gets grounded and screams and yells outside at the top of her lungs like a raving lunatic.
biteme said:
Outside of the threats to kill herself, let her be and don't give in. Let her scream, yell, break things. She knows EXACTLY what to do right now to break you. When she say's she will kill herself, scoop her up and bring her to the Emergency room, let her know you are taking her threats serious and that its nothing to be threatening.
But DON'T give her, her way. You are doing a disservice to her by allowing her to think she can throw fits and then do what ever she wants. The real world will not be as easy on her. Think of her holding down a job, no employer is gonna put up with that... how about her husband, or boyfriend? No man will want to deal with that either.
It may be hell for a while B, but in the end it is worth it. Called 'tough love'
Erzulie said:
We were in the emergency room for 6 hours 2 nights ago. She kept threatening to kill herself so I called the police. They came out (sent an ambulence and assured me that I was doing the right thing. The counselor finally arrived at the hospital after about 5 hours. She said the child has control because she uses threats to scare me to disclipline her. I asked if kids really do kill themselves if they don't get their way. She said that some do. She wanted to admit her for 3 days evaluation. They wouldn't take her, but setup counseling. If she keeps pulling this shit, the cops told me to send her to Green Oaks where the real crazy people are and maybe that will scare her straight. If she really has a serious problem then she'll be getting the help she needs.
biteme said:
Thanks hun
I've dealt with kids that did the same since I was a 16. My bro did the same thing, and I was always the one dealing with him. My mom gave him his way just so she didn't have to listen to him or go thru the violence. To this day, out of all of my family, I am the only one he does not raise his voice to, that he truely respects, because I set him in his place.
My X has a son that would also do the same. I wasn't his mother so discipline was hard for me. I talked to him alot though, I never once had to raise my voice to get him to behave. He was scared of his dad so he'd never pull any crap on him, but he ruled his mothers life.
One thing I don't and never would tolerate is a disrespectful kid. If theres a problem, or they are upset, I will sit down and listen to every word my kids have to say even though its them disagreeing with me. Doesn't mean I will lift the punishment.. etc. But they know they have the right to disagree with me and tell me but ONLY in a respectful way. My kids can tell me anything, no matter how bad it is.
Communication is a big key here. She's older and its gonna be harder to get her in the habit of talking to you, telling you how she feels. But its NEVER to late.
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pre munchie salivation?needtogetas said:
