I am going to get a woman

[fyxgel2]

That's pretty good going for the first chat Fyx. You don't have to close the deal the first time you talk to her. You just make talk and that's what you did. Next time you see her, talk to her again and then when you feel ready ask her out. Don't make it an announcement, just say 'hey, if you're not busy next weekend would you be interested in having a drink or coffee......'

this is the other thing that I am really worried about. When I am talking to women, I am afraid that if I ever did ask them out for coffee or something that the date would be awful and we both would be bored out of our minds with nothing to talk about.

Another thing.. there is another girl at this church I am friends with, and we hang out in a group afterwards, like 5-10 of us. In the beginning of the summer she gave me her number, but I'm afraid to call and ask if she wants to hang out or something, because i am worried that if it was just the 2 of us, we wouldnt be able to find anything to do and we would be bored out of our minds.

I guess i gotta get past all these worries, and just find out if it is what is going to happen or not. I guess deep down inside me, I have a fear that I wont be able to find a girl that I have anything in common with, but the only way to dispell that fear is going to be by going out there and proving it to be wrong.

I would have liked to ask that Andrea girl out tonight if I could have, but I just couldnt work up the confidence. I think maybe I should just make it my goal to give myself a few weeks (I'll see her every wednesday and will have a little time to talk to her after the service) Yes, it will be awkward when I do ask her out, no matter how long i've taken to build up to it though, that part sucks.

 

[fyxgel2]

Bro, you did good talking to Andrea at church. Its a nice start. Next time talk a little more, find out what she likes etc. If she likes to goto the beach (or whatever) just say I like it to lets go Saturday. (dont ask Assume she wants to go)

I know when your young, having "hot girl' is important. But, looks are not important. Thats why everyone tells you to lower your standards. Most "hot girls" are only going to hurt your self doubt. Just find a girl who is nice and you like.

Yes, you are right, self doubt is a mirage. You can take steps to change it

i guess she doesnt have to be blazingly "hot", I guess I would just like to have a girl that I am attracted to physically, you know what I'm saying? She doesnt have to be perfect, a 7/10 would be fine for me,

I'm just hoping that I can get a 7/10. Because I couldnt imagine myself marrying someone, or having sex with someone, who is less attractive than that.

 

[-SD-]

i guess she doesnt have to be blazingly "hot", I guess I would just like to have a girl that I am attracted to physically, you know what I'm saying? She doesnt have to be perfect, a 7/10 would be fine for me,

I'm just hoping that I can get a 7/10. Because I couldnt imagine myself marrying someone, or having sex with someone, who is less attractive than that.

Sweet Jesus, quit thinking about marriage and sex when you are light years away from having either. First things first, GET A DATE.

 

[jerseyart]

Don't get a blazing hot chick for your first time. Find an average looking girl who will work it hard to rock your world.

 

[Gambino]

Do not approach chics with a stalker mentality (sweaty hands and forehead, darting eyes, thoughts of marriage)...I would pay money to watch your public approach, I just imagine it to be rather cold lol...


ps...I got no game either, I just leeched girls off of my "friends that are girls"

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Sweet Jesus, quit thinking about marriage and sex when you are light years away from having either. First things first, GET A DATE.

No shit... we are not talking about marriage here. We are talking about going to a movie with someone who does not have a penis or who is not related to you for the first time. By now you would think you would be screaming "Whens gone me my time Lord! When!?"

 

[coverguy]

Make sure you read your "Guide to Getting Laid" by George!!!

Oh yeah, and set-up a hidden camera in your bedroom so you can document and share your experiences with the group!!!

 

[Deleted member 33117]

Look, settle for a 5 or 6. Any average to cute girl you talk to, ask her what movie she wants to see with you and get her digits. "I'm goign to call you later tonight... be sure your home." Seriously, just get some dates under your belt.

 

[gonelifting]

lol All this is making me laugh. Not at you bro, I`m just reading and enjoying the thread. I wish you well bro. All good advice btw.

That church chick sounds golden.

Here`s a few very easy parts of conversations...

"Oh you like tennis?" ,"We should go play sometime."

"you play golf? We should go play sometime."

"Can I see you this weekend?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?" "Can I call you?" You`d be surprised of the answers you`ll get.

 

[Lao Tzu]

lol All this is making me laugh. Not at you bro, I`m just reading and enjoying the thread. I wish you well bro. All good advice btw.

That church chick sounds golden.

Here`s a few very easy parts of conversations...

"Oh you like tennis?" ,"We should go play sometime."

"you play golf? We should go play sometime."

"Can I see you this weekend?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?"

"Can I call you?" "Can I call you?" You`d be surprised of the answers you`ll get.

That works in your experience? what kind of success rate did you have in your player days? What was your approach? Just talk and make them laugh?