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vinylgroover
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If you need a setup, suggest you have a threesomewit your mate to your girlfriend. If she says yes, you have your answer..........then do what you have to.
How would you guys handle this
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the_only_sepe
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ditch her
theoak01
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I dont believe they have done anything,shes doing something,not cheating I just cant figure it out, almost like she is hanging out with him tp spite me because I dont like it,which still isnt right
now for the guy,he knows where I stand thats for sure,and he appologizes and plays the drunk card,now I dont buy it but why upset the harmony of all our friends by making a huge scene and fighting
and she was the one who told him right out to fuck off,and how lucky he is I havent killed him yet,so I really dont think she likes it,but is to nice to smack him
I really tore into her tonight about it,hopefully the point gets across or she will soon be gone
now for the guy,he knows where I stand thats for sure,and he appologizes and plays the drunk card,now I dont buy it but why upset the harmony of all our friends by making a huge scene and fighting
and she was the one who told him right out to fuck off,and how lucky he is I havent killed him yet,so I really dont think she likes it,but is to nice to smack him
I really tore into her tonight about it,hopefully the point gets across or she will soon be gone
do not show your weakness right now, worst thing you could do. If she sees this in you, then she'll be anticipating confrontation and will get that much more defensive when it comes up. The only way out of this is through your buddy. You need to tell him that he means more to you than her b/c chicks are temporary but good bros are forever. Then tell him that if he's really your bro, he needs to tell u so you can get out of the relationshp while you still have some pride. Tell him you would peacefully end things b/w you and the girl (blatant lie prob.) basically calm every fear he could possibly have of telling you... then get him liquored up a bit and just have a bro night. If he does tell you, he's definitely worth keeping around because that takes some SACK... I'd forgive him for 25% of his sin at that point... take the other 75% out on him after he passes out with some clippers and a sharpie.
theoak01
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he wouldnt tell me,because he thinks I was to drunk to remember him kissing her last week and didnt say a fucking word and he knows what happened last time I got mad
its going to be a long day tomorrow trying to work this shit out with her,as this is totally not like her at all
its going to be a long day tomorrow trying to work this shit out with her,as this is totally not like her at all
bottom line, you shouldn't have to be put through this shit when it's someone you greatly care about. If she hasn't come to you and PROVEN to you that you have nothing to worry about after seeing this in you, maybe in some sick way she just wants to get you heated... or worse. Either way, a serious talk is in order, and I would suggest you do it as emotionally free as possible, so as to avoid defensive answers. Use lots of "I" statements, do not use the word YOU if you don't have to. And do not ever use sorries and buts in the same discussion. Remember to put yourself in her shoes and think about how she will absorb your words.
bodytemple75
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Bro,...ditch the girl, and that guy is not a friend. I would sever all ties asap. Trust your gut feeling first. If you have to hesitate, you already know the answer. Don't put yourself through the rest of this shit. I have known girls like that and guys like that, and they always turned out to be scum. Always.
Seriously bro,...do your own thing without these two. Chances are they are already fucking, or have planned to. Liking eachother is not a necessity right now for them, since they are sneaky about the whole thing, and both have most likeky are hiding some secret or being shady.
Start dating, and hang out with a different friend. Just stop talking to them, make something up if they ask why. Don't let this bother you, or give it a second thought. You can be sure what you suspect is right on the money. Be sure of it!
I wish you well. Truly... I have been there myself.
Seriously bro,...do your own thing without these two. Chances are they are already fucking, or have planned to. Liking eachother is not a necessity right now for them, since they are sneaky about the whole thing, and both have most likeky are hiding some secret or being shady.
Start dating, and hang out with a different friend. Just stop talking to them, make something up if they ask why. Don't let this bother you, or give it a second thought. You can be sure what you suspect is right on the money. Be sure of it!
I wish you well. Truly... I have been there myself.
bodytemple75
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True Story:
I had a good friend, years ago I grew up with. We were really close, and he was a real sweet, great guy. Like a brother. We hung out for years, he helped me after I got out of the hospital, through good time, rough times...he was a true friend. His mom loved me, sisters, dad,...I was like his brother. I used to go to his house every Sunday and have macaroni.
Going out, he was a quiet guy, and me, and my other buddies used to build up his confidence, and I used to hook him up with the ladies, since he was not much of a talker since he always got nervous. I liked helping him out. made me feel good to see him happy. I usually had to break the ice, after that he was fine.
Well, he met this chick one day, on his own, and i met her,...all seemed fine until one day. (after he announced they were an item for a while this happend,...) I say,..."Hey let's all go out, me, my girl, you, and your girlfriend?" He got really weird on me and freaked out saying I was not suppossed to let anybody know they were going out. I was like "Wha?" I asked him, you told me you have ben going out with her for like almost a year....He said yes, but she does not want "anyone" to know. Strange? Yeah...I just shut my mouth, and was like "WTF!?" I didn't know wheter to ask him if he was fucked up, or just getting stupid, letting her fuck with him. No matter, she fucked him up so bad. Everyone knew already,...this was like the twilight zone. I just shut my mouth and agreed with an apology.
After a while of him getting weird on me, I tried to fix the situation, and after he had no problem with me calling them girlfriend/boyfriend (whenever that was,...still do not know) I suggested we all hang out more, double date, to hopefully bring us all together, accept oneanother, and make my friend happy, we could all hang out and have a good time. (nothing sexual at all, just friends meant) Well even the girl I was dating thought he was weird (her best friend mind you) and we were always wondering about the two of them. Time went on and things never went like we wanted all of us to be. All friends. I always had a weird feeling about this chick (his girl) I think she used to tell him, she did not like me. I never understood why, but I am guessing I was one of his friends who truly understood what a bitch she really was, from the start. I never liked her, he started to know how I felt, but always kept my mouth shut, and respected him. This was out of respect for him, as my friend. Even though I knew, and he knew, I knew what she used to say about me, and how she did not like me, or like him spending too much time with me. Completely brushed it off..
After a while, things clamed, and one day I see him in town, he is with her driving. Now my other buddy experienced the same thing I was the whole time. he was our other buddy. Three of us. he completely agreed with me, and we all pull over on the side of the road, to say hello. It was summertime, and we felt like just see'ing what he was up to that beautiful night. he pulls over with her, my stomach turns,...and I just say hello, not looking directly at her, but faking it. It was hard. She knew I did not like her either. Obvious, but as respect for my friend, I say hello regardless. I start to walk back to my car as he is parking. She gets out, and runs to my car, where me and my other friend get in. She is hanging out by my window now. Now she completely changes personality, and acts like she likes me. She straight out asked my friend if we wanted to go somewhere and "Fuck." She said a friend, and her had a hotel room they were having a get together, and had alcohol, ect..., and were going there after my poor buddy (still parking his car) dropped her off for the night. All this unbeknowing to him. I was speechless. I thought, what a whore. I just stayed silent. I was so angry, I could not believe it. My buddy sitting next to me did the same, but told me this was not the first time she had asked him. Night ended...
Long story short,....I found out she cheats on him daily, they broke up, she told him to wait, and she would let him know in a month if she wanted to get back. He would call me up crying, literally every day, counting the days to her decision. it was pitiful.
Our friendship faded after that, as she had complete control over him. His family used to call me asking what happened, but they knew. They did not like her either. He wound up marrying her, and I lost touch, and was not invited to the wedding. I would have went, because he was a friend, even though I hated her, I loved my buddy. I never did tell him about what a whore she was proposing that shit to me that night, but I had a feeling he knew she was like that, and already doing that with other guys already. I was not the first. He was so in love with her, and basically he thought he was,...more like so desperate, he would never leave her. He was a nice looking guy with ZERO confidence who settled. He met my mom one day, in the supermarket, and flat-out "lied" to her about why I was not invited to the wedding. I guess the subj. of him getting married came up, and he had to cover his/her ass and went in a panic. My mom was at the place they were married at the same day, and saw his wedding (she was at a different wedding reception, just so happened caught his there). She though such good friends,... weird that I was not invited. Get this...he said, he tried to call me, and I was not home, and that is why he did not invite me. Like it was "MY FAULT." Well, after hearing this lame, flat out "lie" of an excuse, it really put a dent in my heart. I loved this guy like a brother, and aways missed our friendship. I had an answering machine that never had a message, I had a house, you could ring the doorbell (I'm not far at all) I have a mailbox,...how invitations are usually SENT TO WEDDINGS! To this day. I was pissed, but always miss my bro. I know his mind is all fucked up, but can't belive he would ever do something like that to me, and lie for her, that way. I'm always sad when i thinkk about it though. I hope he is well...
End of story....
Moral...
Anything is possible...
stay sharp, always be on your guard with people. Nothing is too surprising...
I had a good friend, years ago I grew up with. We were really close, and he was a real sweet, great guy. Like a brother. We hung out for years, he helped me after I got out of the hospital, through good time, rough times...he was a true friend. His mom loved me, sisters, dad,...I was like his brother. I used to go to his house every Sunday and have macaroni.
Going out, he was a quiet guy, and me, and my other buddies used to build up his confidence, and I used to hook him up with the ladies, since he was not much of a talker since he always got nervous. I liked helping him out. made me feel good to see him happy. I usually had to break the ice, after that he was fine.
Well, he met this chick one day, on his own, and i met her,...all seemed fine until one day. (after he announced they were an item for a while this happend,...) I say,..."Hey let's all go out, me, my girl, you, and your girlfriend?" He got really weird on me and freaked out saying I was not suppossed to let anybody know they were going out. I was like "Wha?" I asked him, you told me you have ben going out with her for like almost a year....He said yes, but she does not want "anyone" to know. Strange? Yeah...I just shut my mouth, and was like "WTF!?" I didn't know wheter to ask him if he was fucked up, or just getting stupid, letting her fuck with him. No matter, she fucked him up so bad. Everyone knew already,...this was like the twilight zone. I just shut my mouth and agreed with an apology.
After a while of him getting weird on me, I tried to fix the situation, and after he had no problem with me calling them girlfriend/boyfriend (whenever that was,...still do not know) I suggested we all hang out more, double date, to hopefully bring us all together, accept oneanother, and make my friend happy, we could all hang out and have a good time. (nothing sexual at all, just friends meant) Well even the girl I was dating thought he was weird (her best friend mind you) and we were always wondering about the two of them. Time went on and things never went like we wanted all of us to be. All friends. I always had a weird feeling about this chick (his girl) I think she used to tell him, she did not like me. I never understood why, but I am guessing I was one of his friends who truly understood what a bitch she really was, from the start. I never liked her, he started to know how I felt, but always kept my mouth shut, and respected him. This was out of respect for him, as my friend. Even though I knew, and he knew, I knew what she used to say about me, and how she did not like me, or like him spending too much time with me. Completely brushed it off..
After a while, things clamed, and one day I see him in town, he is with her driving. Now my other buddy experienced the same thing I was the whole time. he was our other buddy. Three of us. he completely agreed with me, and we all pull over on the side of the road, to say hello. It was summertime, and we felt like just see'ing what he was up to that beautiful night. he pulls over with her, my stomach turns,...and I just say hello, not looking directly at her, but faking it. It was hard. She knew I did not like her either. Obvious, but as respect for my friend, I say hello regardless. I start to walk back to my car as he is parking. She gets out, and runs to my car, where me and my other friend get in. She is hanging out by my window now. Now she completely changes personality, and acts like she likes me. She straight out asked my friend if we wanted to go somewhere and "Fuck." She said a friend, and her had a hotel room they were having a get together, and had alcohol, ect..., and were going there after my poor buddy (still parking his car) dropped her off for the night. All this unbeknowing to him. I was speechless. I thought, what a whore. I just stayed silent. I was so angry, I could not believe it. My buddy sitting next to me did the same, but told me this was not the first time she had asked him. Night ended...
Long story short,....I found out she cheats on him daily, they broke up, she told him to wait, and she would let him know in a month if she wanted to get back. He would call me up crying, literally every day, counting the days to her decision. it was pitiful.
Our friendship faded after that, as she had complete control over him. His family used to call me asking what happened, but they knew. They did not like her either. He wound up marrying her, and I lost touch, and was not invited to the wedding. I would have went, because he was a friend, even though I hated her, I loved my buddy. I never did tell him about what a whore she was proposing that shit to me that night, but I had a feeling he knew she was like that, and already doing that with other guys already. I was not the first. He was so in love with her, and basically he thought he was,...more like so desperate, he would never leave her. He was a nice looking guy with ZERO confidence who settled. He met my mom one day, in the supermarket, and flat-out "lied" to her about why I was not invited to the wedding. I guess the subj. of him getting married came up, and he had to cover his/her ass and went in a panic. My mom was at the place they were married at the same day, and saw his wedding (she was at a different wedding reception, just so happened caught his there). She though such good friends,... weird that I was not invited. Get this...he said, he tried to call me, and I was not home, and that is why he did not invite me. Like it was "MY FAULT." Well, after hearing this lame, flat out "lie" of an excuse, it really put a dent in my heart. I loved this guy like a brother, and aways missed our friendship. I had an answering machine that never had a message, I had a house, you could ring the doorbell (I'm not far at all) I have a mailbox,...how invitations are usually SENT TO WEDDINGS! To this day. I was pissed, but always miss my bro. I know his mind is all fucked up, but can't belive he would ever do something like that to me, and lie for her, that way. I'm always sad when i thinkk about it though. I hope he is well...
End of story....
Moral...
Anything is possible...
stay sharp, always be on your guard with people. Nothing is too surprising...
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