How to get an old gym partner motivated?

[firefighter337]

I don't know if this is the right spot to post this but here goes.

About 4-5 years ago. I use to have a gym partner that use to be dedicated, motivated and extremely knowledgeable. He would always be the one calling me up to hit the gym, keeping me in the right spirits about keeping the diet in check and would of made a damn good personal trainer, due to his knowledge and the way to motivate people.

Well 4-5 years ago, he quit cold turkey. Gained about 40-50 lbs and transformed into a fat ass.

I have contacted him a few times in the past couple of years to get back into it with me. He tells me he misses the gym and wants too. He just could not afford the gym anymore but when his business takes off alittle bit he is going to get back in the gym with me.

He goes December 1st 2008 and buys a 5 year membership up front and calls me...Get ready, Im getting back into it. I was happy as hell...finally, I will have a damn good workout partner instead of no shows that want to workout a few times a month.

Well we go one time before Christmas, both agreed to take the 24th-28th off for family......He has not been back yet.

I told him he needed to start back into it slowly and ramp up to where he use to be. He got back in there and was about 75% of what he use to have. Maybe he just does not want to dedicate time to do it. Maybe I pissed him off somehow.

As homo as this all sounded, I am just worried about an old buddy of mine. What to do?

 

[Gawd]

Just call him up.. say get ready, I'm picking you up in 20. Then hang up.
Heh.

Honestly I think people need to be self motivated first.

 

[cobracock1979]

LOL,

Lead from the front bro - train and eat like a mofo - when he sees your improvements that should be a great motivator

 

[wills_got_rythm]

Hog tie him take hime to the gym, chain him down and make him lift!!!!

 

[silent says]

Tell him there is a bikini contest at the gym.

 

[SouthernLord]

Call his ass everyday and bug the shit out of him. I am trying to convert my old training partner to get back in it now. We benched Friday and on Saturday he said, "My chest is so sore I wish I was dead." lol I tried to restrain him, but he had to try and keep up with me. He pussed out on squats today because his chest was still sore. I don't really blame him.

When you get him back in there start him off slow. just the basics with a lot of abs, low back, and cardio. Build his base and get his work capacity back up. Don't let him go to crazy at first or he might get injured or the soreness might make him stay home.

 

[PWR]

He has to be the one to make his mind up. I was "that guy". Lifted heavy for years and quit cold turkey for 6 years. I have been back in now for about 6 months and feeling almost as strong as I was at my best. I have gained 30lbs and lots of mass.
I switched gyms and now go by myself. I wish I had someone to workout with but my schedule is rough. I go at a different time every day. Tell your buddy that if he will stay at it and get through those first 2 months he will begin to make good gains. Muscle has memory and will remember quickly.

 

[captainahole]

If he is in business for himself that will be the priority. Unless you have worked for yourself you wouldn't get it. He will miss the gym but focus will keep him from it. He will come back when he is ready. If he was dedicated once he will come back. It took 18 years for me to come back. That's the plain and simple answer.

 

[wills_got_rythm]

He has to be the one to make his mind up. I was "that guy". Lifted heavy for years and quit cold turkey for 6 years. I have been back in now for about 6 months and feeling almost as strong as I was at my best. I have gained 30lbs and lots of mass.
I switched gyms and now go by myself. I wish I had someone to workout with but my schedule is rough. I go at a different time every day. Tell your buddy that if he will stay at it and get through those first 2 months he will begin to make good gains. Muscle has memory and will remember quickly.

Thats the truth I was out for a little over 2 years and have been back now for about 4 months. I now have a pretty consistent schedule thats why I can dedicate time to the gym, man I was really sore for that first month but I love it.

 

[b fold the truth]

I'd forget him in a heart beat.

I send out about 20 text messages every Friday night about Sunday's training plan and time (always start at 10:30AM). Sometimes it is just me, sometimes we have a crew.

I'm there, I'm motivated, I'm progressing. I'd love for others to be there too, but if they aren't motivated then they will be hindering my progress even if I drag their butt there.

 

[firefighter337]

You guys are 100% correct.

I called him and told him the deal. Told him to give me a call if he needed anything. Told him not to think there was an animosity between us because of it and not to let this BS prevent us hanging out in the future.

I am over it, I just am that type of person. I want to help out as many as I can. No reason to let this prevent my future gains.