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tuc biscuit
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I tell them straight with reasons, no point being a child about it.
SoreArms
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I used to just stop calling and act unavailable until they got the point. A girl I was dating and was starting to like did this same shit to me recently, boy it fucking sucks. I wish I could appologize to all the chicks I did this to. I'll find a way to be honest about it from now on.
avenirup said:
Spineless
I`m with Tuc, Tell them with reasons. "This is why we`re splitting up." lol Maybe they can learn from their mistakes. lol uh oh... Here it comes.
Paulo said:
What`s immature? Telling a woman why you`re breaking up?
avenirup
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wend said:
So when you call out of work and you are not really sick should you just tell the truth and deal with all the bullshit you will get...hmmm....NO!! I do not have the time to tell with some chick "it just isn't working, it's me-not you"- who I have not known for that long to hear her shit! It is not about having balls--it is about getting through the F'ing day without hearing so bitch's drama and her wanting the 1004 reasons why I am breaking up with her. If it is long term-different story--but short please--you either have not had short term bs relationships or love drama in your life. The end.
avenirup said:
Well are you quitting your job or are you calling in sick for ONE day?
Are you breaking up with the girl or are you cancelling ONE date?
Mr Analogy returns.
Imnotdutch
butler monkey
Isnt this why mobile phones and text messaging were invented? How about sending an email?? 
In all seriousness treat em with some respect and tell em face to face........
In all seriousness treat em with some respect and tell em face to face........
Werd
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I admit I am not good at this myself. Remember that thread where I had all those emails from some internet fucker that I'd never even had a phone conversation with?
If a guy doesn't call me or email me after two (meaning two messages and maybe one email or any combination - a message or email can be lost... but 2?) then I "take the hint". It is no biggie. So I don't see why guys don't get this.
I have tried before being nice and SAYING "Thanks but no thanks" but then I got nasty emails, etc. I don't need that.
If it is a friend who I know is lazy like that (I am like that too with my friends sometimes) then it is a different situation altogether. But if it is a "dating" sitch then I just dont return calls and/or emails.
If a guy doesn't call me or email me after two (meaning two messages and maybe one email or any combination - a message or email can be lost... but 2?) then I "take the hint". It is no biggie. So I don't see why guys don't get this.
I have tried before being nice and SAYING "Thanks but no thanks" but then I got nasty emails, etc. I don't need that.
If it is a friend who I know is lazy like that (I am like that too with my friends sometimes) then it is a different situation altogether. But if it is a "dating" sitch then I just dont return calls and/or emails.
Imnotdutch
butler monkey
Some guys are just fucked up...........
Well when you tell em face to face you can at least hand over the restraining order.........
Well when you tell em face to face you can at least hand over the restraining order.........
Werd said:
fistfullofsteel
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whatever behavior they don't like is what i do, and they get sick of it and stop calling me and i don't return their phone calls. 
Werd
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LOL@ Imnotdutch and Starfish
There was one annoying dude that I finally sent a NASTY email to telling him to stop emailing me and I was not remotely interested in him. He actually sent an email saying he didn't realize I didn't dig him, just thought that maybe I was "busy" and that he wont do it again. This guy was like 25! I had never even had a phone call w/this guy.
But he turned out to be harmless in that he didn't get nasty back, actually apologized.
I admit I am REALLY bad at telling someone I am not interested in them after I go out with them. I just don't call back. If I DO like a guy but am feeling stressed about seeing him again, then I tell him I like him, but he needs to back off. One guy went psycho on me the other guy said he understood and did just that - he backed off.
I lose interest in guys before I even get to the end of the email or 5 minutes into a conversation. I know it's me.
I can't help but feel that I am letting some quality guys slip through the cracks, but what does it matter if I am not in a "place" right now where I can have a relationship? IIf I like a guy I TRY to be his friend. There are very few guys out there that will give me that chance though and that is something that I can't understand.
I am very sexually liberated so it isn't about "playing" or "teasing". I have to honestly say that it bothers me that so few men are willing to give a woman a chance to be friends to see if something wonderful will ever have the chance to grow.
There was one annoying dude that I finally sent a NASTY email to telling him to stop emailing me and I was not remotely interested in him. He actually sent an email saying he didn't realize I didn't dig him, just thought that maybe I was "busy" and that he wont do it again. This guy was like 25! I had never even had a phone call w/this guy.
But he turned out to be harmless in that he didn't get nasty back, actually apologized.
I admit I am REALLY bad at telling someone I am not interested in them after I go out with them. I just don't call back. If I DO like a guy but am feeling stressed about seeing him again, then I tell him I like him, but he needs to back off. One guy went psycho on me the other guy said he understood and did just that - he backed off.
I lose interest in guys before I even get to the end of the email or 5 minutes into a conversation. I know it's me.
I can't help but feel that I am letting some quality guys slip through the cracks, but what does it matter if I am not in a "place" right now where I can have a relationship? IIf I like a guy I TRY to be his friend. There are very few guys out there that will give me that chance though and that is something that I can't understand.
I am very sexually liberated so it isn't about "playing" or "teasing". I have to honestly say that it bothers me that so few men are willing to give a woman a chance to be friends to see if something wonderful will ever have the chance to grow.
canadianhitman
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I just tell them it's over...plain and simple. And I believe in clean and total breaks...none of that "I hope we can still be friends" crap. Basically, I try to establish that we shouldn't see each other again unless it's coincidental, or talk to each other beyond a cordial "hello" if we should bump into each other (this means NO phone calls, under any circumstances). It really is the best way to break up with someone.
canadianhitman said:
I agree. That`s why I went out of my way to hook up with girls NOT FROM my area. If we were`nt together, we would really have no chance of seeing each other, but more importantly I would NEVER have a conversation with a buddy or aquaintence about being with the same girl. I would hate to be with a girl that someone else was with THAT I KNEW. or The other way around.
GEEK2FREAK
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while your having sex you gotta flip her over then donkey punch her...after you get your nut and when she wakes up...tell her shes a slut just like her mother and tell her to get the hell on
canadianhitman said:
I dont agree I am friends with most of my exs. They were such a special part of my life for a period of time so regardless of what happend once we are ready I like to be friends.
As for the orginal topic ok anything under a month of of dating yeah I do the no phone call return thing. Anything over a month I tell them the it is not you it is me thing unless they are an asshole then I tell them it is them.
mountain muscle
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Be Honest with them.. never make up some excuse it weakens your position and gets the wheels in their minds turning. Try to always end a relationship with the idea that you could tell everyone...." I left her with style." Games are for adolescents when it comes to relationships. Be a man. Not that I have always followed this line of thought....a few girls messed me up pretty well. I have just found this to be the best way for me.. good luck bro.
Werd
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rpol said:
See I can't really have a relationship right now. I have SERIOUS trust issues that I need to straighten out before I can think about a boyfriend. But I don't want to let decent me just get away either. The only alternative is for us to be friends and if something happens, it happens. If not, then we stay friends. Friends whether male or female come in and out of our lives so I don't see the harm.
I admit I KNOW there is something wrong with the way I process information - shit from the time I was little so I NEED to work on me before I can truly have a committed relationship. Also I am struggling to get my career off the ground, have health issues and serious trouble with my ex. Right now would be THE WORST time for me to have anything close to a relationship. But I also dont want to let good guys go....
Lift Chief
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Don't be a pussy.
I just pull an american psycho and say: "It's over, we're through." If they have the balls to ask why you say: "I'm sorry, (insert first name here), you're just not terribly important to me."
If they start crying or some shit you promptly get up and walk away. If they ask where you're going you say: "I have to return some videotapes."
Works like a charm.
I just pull an american psycho and say: "It's over, we're through." If they have the balls to ask why you say: "I'm sorry, (insert first name here), you're just not terribly important to me."
If they start crying or some shit you promptly get up and walk away. If they ask where you're going you say: "I have to return some videotapes."
Works like a charm.
Paulo
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avenirup said:Nope, just don't have time for the drama. I am very important and busy-which you would have to be if you thought the way I do-I guess your not.
LOL, you don't have time for the drama, but yet you go out of your way to avoid the one woman per year you actually hook up with?
I sense a tonality of wiseassness in this thread, otherwise if, you are being serious, then you need to cowboy the fuck up and be considerate of other people's lives and feelings.
Werd said:
So you are dumping me before I even ask?
I don't guess I've ever dumped a woman. I've always been the person dumped on.
B True
Werd
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b fold the truth said:So you are dumping me before I even ask?
I don't guess I've ever dumped a woman. I've always been the person dumped on.
B True
LOL quite the contrary. What this means is that you are literally "in like flynn" (whatever the heck THAT means).
After all this time I still remember that adorable stuffed animal with the sweetest sentiments anyone had ever written me. I lost the card in the move but I do remember the words to some degree... the feeling that it gave me at the time though... will NEVER be forgotten.
It was something to the effect of holiday smiles and never being silent. I wish I could remember the exact words.
You know that story I said about the large Egyptian man (Adham) who took me in when I had no place to live for a few weeks, the large man who never laid a hand on me - treated me with kindness and decency regardless of what my job was and that I was a total stranger? You know where I summed up the courage to trust that man? That even though he was so much bigger than me he wouldn't hurt me?
FROM YOU
Robert Jan
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I'd never go ignoring her like that. I'd tell her how it is. Even if it doesn't sound nice. Because that's how I'd want to be told. Immanuel Kant I guess...
Robert Jan
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The American Psycho breakup was effective and hilarious and honest, but Bateman is not a real character... she was probably of some importance to you. Though this can be hard for a man to admit.
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