How should I write this e-mail to my ex??

[studcj]

well, I've decided to write an e-mail to my ex. I broke up with her about 2 weeks ago. We decided not to "shut the door" on us ever dating again. The timing just wasn't right. anyway, i'm writing her an e-mail to say hi, but I don't want it to seem like I am missing her too much, or that I want her back. Does that make sense?

thanks for any suggestions

 

[The Shadow]

well, I've decided to write an e-mail to my ex. I broke up with her about 2 weeks ago. We decided not to "shut the door" on us ever dating again. The timing just wasn't right. anyway, i'm writing her an e-mail to say hi, but I don't want it to seem like I am missing her too much, or that I want her back. Does that make sense?

thanks for any suggestions

DO you miss her?
DO you want her back??

If so - THEN TELL HER. Don't fuck it up twice...

 

[Sassy69]

"Hi, how's it hangin?"

 

[Test boy]

Tell her she just starrred in a glorious wet dream!

 

[Slice of Peach2]

I have to agree with Cornholio.

Do the right thing.

 

[spentagn]

Referring to her as 'bitch' and 'ho' might not be appropriate. Try more endearing terms such as harlot and ale wench.

 

[studcj]

Do I miss her? Yes
Do I want her back? eventually.....but not now

Is she going to wait around for me? No, and I don't expect her to.
She has some growing up to do before I get involved with her again. But I do want to say hi.

we were friends for about 3 years before we started dating, and it's weird not calling her, etc.

 

[studcj]

Ok....here's what I got so far.....

" Hey,

Just thought I'd write you a quick note before I get back to work. What have you been up to? Same stuff here.....lots of work and homework. well, write me back if you feel up to it.

cj
"

 

[freshr1]

Don't email, call her, or better see her and talk to her.

I've been on that road before and it's faaaar to easy to misinterpret text. It's missing tone, body language, etc. You'll write something and she'll completely misinterpret it. In person at least you can fix it right away, but with email she'll have days to think about.

IF you do decide to write email ... write it, and leave it for a day, dont send it. Then look over it again. You will find things to fix, I guarantee it. But all in all, email sucks. It's too cold and impersonal.

 

[The Shadow]

Do I miss her? Yes
Do I want her back? eventually.....but not now

Is she going to wait around for me? No, and I don't expect her to.
She has some growing up to do before I get involved with her again. But I do want to say hi.

we were friends for about 3 years before we started dating, and it's weird not calling her, etc.

The reason I asked is this:

If you do miss her and want her back, then you will invariably express those sentiments whether you wish to or not. By being honest up front - it save yop from looking wishy-washy or hypocritical.

 

[Xalthus]

Ur a big boy, u should be able to figure out how to say "Hi" to ur old girlfriend...

 

[Crazier]

Xalthus - I don't know about that man. Did you see his tentative note to her? It's fucking terrible.

--

 

[studcj]

Thats why I'm asking advice! I'm fucking terrible at this shit.

 

[primetime21]

Ok....here's what I got so far.....
well, write me back if you feel up to it.

cj
"

Forget the "write me back if you feel up to it" part. That sounds desperate. Just say hey whats up...blah blah, speak to you later (or something like that).

 

[freshr1]

Yeah ditch the "if you're up to it", it's too weak.

"hey susan,
blah blah blah i need sex blah blahsex blah

talk to you soon,
yada"

 

[Test boy]

Hey,......sounds like you are writing to a guy. How about Hi___her name_______? Good luck. Women are the only thing that gives me paralysis of analysis. Realise that her reaction to your letter will be 80% emotion and 20% logic.

 

[ZenMachine]

I am going to have to go the other way on this one.

Don't write her. What end is served by you exchanging emails? If you do miss her, contact will only make it worse.

Let the break be clean, at least for now. It has only been two weeks.

Zen

 

[studcj]

OK, how's this:


" Hey,

How's everything going? Not too bad here, just staying busy with work and homework. I just figured I'd say hi since we haven't talked in a while. well, talk to you soon

cj

"

 

[Xalthus]

bro.. U need a long term girlfriend.. After u talk dirty to her for a LONG time, u will know how to talk to girls properly.. its quiet amazing actually. Thats how i learned how to talk to girls

 

[studcj]

fuck, what the hell was I thinking??

I think I'll wait a while longer........unless somebody can write a good note for me.

 

[mdd]

i agree, if you have any thoughts that you want to be with her tell her, dont fuck up twice, i did, and over a year later i'm still in love with the girl and we dont event talk......

 

[Crazier]

In 11 days from now it'll be 4 years ago for me.

And I STILL love her. --

We have a baby together, so I still see her and talk to her, etc.

Your 2nd note was MUCH better. If you possibly want another chance with her, send it or something similar. It'll get you two at least writing back and forth to each other.

Peace.
--

 

[Jae]

Dude it has only been two weeks, and you want to say hi. Face it, you want her back. Or else you wouldn't be asking how to do this. Then again, if you don't want her back, why waste time emailing her and perhaps feeding her a false notion?

Do you REALLY just want to say hi? Do you even have anything to talk about?


You could just say.....

Dear Ex,

Just a quick note before my homeroom teacher returns. Just wanted to say hi. So... Hi. And can you please return my NSync cassette tape. Thanks.


Kidding aside, just let it ride out. If she is your ex and you don't want her back, you would be better off saying "hi" to someone else.

 

[Mighty P]

Man, if you don't want her back right now, DON"T WRITE HER! There is no need to prolong anything. Clean break! Not to mention you won't fuck anything up either. Just no contact now, if you have to talk to her at least wait a while. Maybe a month or so, just to give yourself some time to see how you really feel. Time will tell you everthing.