how long till you married? or moved in with your not so better half?

[madbomber31]

i know we got lots of boys and girls here living with someone or married to them... how long did it take you to:
A. get engaged?
B. move in together?


whichever applies to you let us others know... feel free to elaborate on why it went so quick or why you waited so long...

 

[The Shadow]

We dated for ~4 and a half monthes before we were engaged. Married that same year.

 

[havoc]

Been engaged twice, took around 6 months for both of them, lived with one about 4 months into it, didnt go through with either of the engagements and thank God for that.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Started dating in July, moved in late Nov/early Dec, got engaged Valentine's, got married in May about 1 1/2 years later......

 

[BackDoc]

5 years then married...I was a T-MAC...Typical Man Afraid of Commitment

 

[Phemomena]

here comes the "information i don't often share" post...

i moved out with my last fiance to move in with my current fiance! (that was three years ago, we got engaged just over a year ago)

 

[HappyScrappy]

IslandGirl is moving in with me on Aug 12th.
So I'm getting all of my drinking and whoring out of the way now.

 

[kat]

Fiance #1 (I was 18 and stupid)
dated for 6 months before I moved inwith him only because life at home was unbearable, and agreed to marry him out of guilt. Lived together for 2.5 years and I left.

Serious Boyfriend #2 (aka second guy I ever slept with)
Dated for 4.5 years, moved in after 4 years, were broken up after 6 months of that.

Fiance #2 dated for a year before we moved in together, left me for anothr woman on our 2nd year anniversary.

After that, I was single for a year, happy as a pig in poo, and swore I would never move in with a guy again. I had my own place, my ownstuff,my own rules.

Then drummerboy came along. He was basically homeless and would take turns staying at our houses. We had already started dating in secret and he more or less begged me to let him movein with me. That was after 2 months, but he still took off every now and again, so we've now beendating 3 years this month and hes been living here roughly 2.5 years of that steadily.
No intentions of ever getting married.

 

[Milhouse]

Got engaged once after 5 months, split up by the seventh month.

Moved in together with the last serious one after 7 months, lived together 3and a half years before splitting. Lived in separate rooms and lives(still friends nothing more) for 4 more months until lease on house finished, Moved out 3 months ago, happy as a pig at a buffet, gonna stay single as long as possible, hopefully forever, and never get married lol.

I have net way too many women the past few months that are trying to put a shackle around my ankle within a day or so, so I give them the boot right away. Sorry this fella has a mom already, doesn't need a second one. I tell em I just want to be casual up front, and still they want a relationship after even though they agree with me up front. I don't get it.

 

[Cleaner]

Moved in together after a couple months.
12 Years before we got married.
Will be together 15 in March.

 

[sinister_storm]

Moved in together after 3 months of dating.Lived together 4 1/2 years before we were married......divorced after 1 1/2 yrs of marriage.

 

[WODIN]

Dated for two years, lived together for six months before we got married.

 

[madbomber31]

cleaner, did you say you moved in after a few months of dating? and didnt marry her until 12 years later?

 

[Yellowbomber]

living three years together, married 1 year

 

[Cleaner]

Yup -- thats what i said.

 

[madbomber31]

so by law were you married after 7 years according to the state? or not? why wait so long? was it basically we live together and practically are married anyway, why ruin what we have?

 

[Gilbyag]

lets see heya... w/my x-wife. dated for 1yr, lived together & engaged for 1 yr. married for about 6 mths & then started talk'n about separation/divorce. we never shouldve gotten married. hell, we shoulda broken up about the 1st yr.

meet my current in late june early july of last yr. dated, started dating exclusively in late Oct early Nov... currently living together. And its all good. Happy as 2 peas in a pod.

BUT... fearfull as hell due to my divorce. That was a prime example of shit CAN change QUICK! I truely though she was "the one". And that there could possible not be nother. MAN WAS I WRONG! My point is... time doesnt really tell the story. Its just a feeling you get when its right. I shouldve listend to mine w/ my xwife, my feeling was it wasnt right, and it wasnt.

 

[Cleaner]

Common Law Marriage is a joke.
When you buy a house or business they laugh at that.
It has so many legal loop holes.

I was more than married to her before we got married. I was already contractually bond because of our business.

We were going to get married sooner but the business came along and we couldn't pass it up and that sucked up all the money.

So we had to re-group. Large marriages eat up a lot of money and I was going to have my girl say years latter that I shoulda or coulda......So we went all out.

Even if we got married before we bought the business we would have still been together for at least 7 years. Finally what got us going was a dear friend who was dying of cancer. He said he wanted to see it before he died. Well he didn't get to see it but we tried to pull it off before he passed.

 

[Slice of Peach2]

With my ex-husband, we dated for a year, then got engaged the another year later got married.

Almost five years later got divorced.

 

[BigJay81]

Been dating for 5 years same girl.

I let her sleep over sometimes.LOL

When I don't have to get up at 6 to workout

Weights Before Dates!

But I do cave alot how couldn't you.
She just looks so damn good and can hold a great conversation with me. Only person I have never been bored with.

You ask because your going to ask her to move in?

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

85% of people that live together before getting married end up divorced.

Damn statistics.


I moved in with a girl after datinng 5 months. We weren't engaged and never got that way, though I thought we would.

My parents got married 3 months after they met....married, not engaged....and they have ben together 29 years.

Just in case you were wondering...I was born '75, they were married in 1972.

 

[smallmovesal]

been together almost 6 yrs now... lived together when i was in ontario for about 5 months... in a year from now we hope to be living together again and when we are more settled in a few years the marriage part should happen. but we're not too concerned about it yet.

 

[madbomber31]

sorry, not enough replies yet.

 

[kat]

Oh Matt, Matt, falling for the stats game again.
Now, lets think about this.
If one is traditional enough to get married and not live together (as yours and my parents did) chances are, they are also traditional enough that they will stick together through all the shit that normal, sane, human people would throw the others ass to the curb. Hence, people who live together prior are less likely to be walked on in a relationship, or at least know when to get the fuckout.

The few crazy people I know who get married and didn't live together are also the people who wound up having affairs when they were 40, going though marriage counselling, hating each others guts and being generally miserable unil one or the other fortuitously dies.

Now Matty, Maybe your folks are the one in 10 million couples that would do it all over again the same,but though my folks were no where near worst case described above, my momma always did tell me that any woman who gets married is a woman with no self respect.

 

[big guns72]

Met her, she stayed the night. Never really left. Lived together for 2.5 years. Got married. She left after about 18mos. I changed the locks and filed for divorce after about 4 days of her not coming home. The divorce was finalized the 21st of last month. My girlfreind moved in about 3 months after the wife split. And no, she was not my girlfriend when my wife and i were together.



........What was the question???

 

[Badkins21]

Well, Pam and I have been together for about four years now, and I plan on proposing this Christmas, then getting married in two summers...We won't live together 'til we're married (according to her!).