how does one enter a FWB relationship?

[Yarg!]

well guys, i have this ex gf who resurfaced in my life. she isnt dating anyone and she doesnt want to date. however we're doing something next weekend hanging out and stuff. the sexual tension between me and her is high and we used to fuck like rabbits when we were dating. i broke up with her 6 months ago, but there are somehow still residual feelings between me and her. when i told her i dated someone (tho its over now) i can sort of tell from her body language she had a tint of jealousy.
well shes not looking to get back into a relationship and i neither am i. how do i suggest we become fuck buddies? my plan for next weekend is to seduce her on our 'date' and just suggest it when shes feeling me the most. has anyone succesffuly pulled this procedure off? a booty call would be a wicked investment.

 

[jnevin]

When you leave her place, just give her a pound and say "Thanks bro".

 

[patsfan1379]

If you have to ask this question, it's never going to happen for you.

 

[Yarg!]

If you have to ask this question, it's never going to happen for you.

ya i have shit for game, but if you guys can coach healother into almost getting some, it shouldnt be hard for you guys to coach a guy who already get quite abit into getting more.

 

[Turd Ferguson]

i have never known a FWB situation to work for very long. One or both of you will eventually want more.

 

[txbondsman]

well guys, i have this ex gf who resurfaced in my life. she isnt dating anyone and she doesnt want to date. however we're doing something next weekend hanging out and stuff. the sexual tension between me and her is high and we used to fuck like rabbits when we were dating. i broke up with her 6 months ago, but there are somehow still residual feelings between me and her. when i told her i dated someone (tho its over now) i can sort of tell from her body language she had a tint of jealousy.
well shes not looking to get back into a relationship and i neither am i. how do i suggest we become fuck buddies? my plan for next weekend is to seduce her on our 'date' and just suggest it when shes feeling me the most. has anyone succesffuly pulled this procedure off? a booty call would be a wicked investment.

this isn't a "for real" post, right? your just F'in with us....

 

[patsfan1379]

A fuck buddy is like a regular relationship except the whole point of hanging out is to fuck instead of snuggle under a blanket and watch a movie.

 

[silverstar1025]

I don't know how long just a FWB relationship would work with her since you said you both still have feelings there. One of you will fall in love again and want more I am sure.

 

[txbondsman]

how do i suggest we become fuck buddies?

If you don't lay it out BEFORE your "date", you will get some once if she's not "feeling" you. ( or whatever yall say)

How's this, use your own words obviously. I think that your a really cool girl, always have and still do. But I like things like they are in my life right now as far as relationships go. I'd love to be able to ask you out from time to time, but I'm just not into a steady relationship right now. I'd love it if you could call me up anytime and say "Hey, what's up, you busy, can I come over?" That would be really awsome, and I'd like to think that you'ld like that too. Do you think that that kind of deal is doable? I'd really like that."

don't say a damn thing after that, if you do, you'll fuck it up! not....a...damn...word! let her say what she has to say.

She's not gonna say, "YEAH, I'd like to fuck you from time to time too w/o you being over here putting the cockblock on me too MF'er! let's do it!!"

Listen closely and choose your words wisely, she'll go for it, but she won't want to seem like a slut....

Good luck Bro...

BTW, yes, I've had several, they worked out great, especially after they find out how it really works...

 

[jackangel]

why try to establish that kind of relationship? i think you'll have one of those by default, if you're physically intimate, and yet not doing all the other typical things a couple would do. i don't know if it's helpful to say, "hi...mind if i use your body for a while?" even if you think she's on the same page...just focus on touching her successfully (i.e. her hand does NOT go for the rape whistle).

 

[txbondsman]

why try to establish that kind of relationship? i think you'll have one of those by default, if you're physically intimate, and yet not doing all the other typical things a couple would do. i don't know if it's helpful to say, "hi...mind if i use your body for a while?" even if you think she's on the same page...just focus on touching her successfully (i.e. her hand does NOT go for the rape whistle).

you want to make shure that she hasn't gotten the "normal" signals. If it's not laid prior (and it STILL may go this way anyway) she will think that sex equals relationship....

 

[jnevin]

Honestly bor, the way you post about your "normal" relationships makes me think there's no way you could pull this off.

 

[jackangel]

you want to make shure that she hasn't gotten the "normal" signals. If it's not laid prior (and it STILL may go this way anyway) she will think that sex equals relationship....

think there's a chance for an amusing thread 3 months down the line?

 

[velvett]

The biggest problem or rather failure within a sex only relationship is when the people involved start lack certain common courtesies towards each other. (Incedently, the lack of common courtesy to those you love and or family is the root of most problems)

So being that you're an ex part of the relationship you once shared with this person is damaged and being that you're still attracted it's likely that the sex part of your relationship is not the damaged part.

In short, I guess what I'm saying is - you're setting yourself up for failure but if you go into this knowing that then you might just be prepared for what ever may happen.


Oh and to specifically answer your question, sometimes the direct approach like, "so, you wanna f**k?" is the best approach. (just don't pair it with activities like eating out, movies, socializing and talking)

 

[txbondsman]

think there's a chance for an amusing thread 3 months down the line?

ROFL!! one that starts out, "I fell for my ex, and now...."
Good one bro, K 2 U...

 

[txbondsman]

Oh and to specifically answer your question, sometimes the direct approach like, "so, you wanna f**k?" is the best approach. (just don't pair it with activities like eating out, movies, socializing and talking)

Uhhh... Velvett.. so you wanna F&%K? LOL

depending on what kind of girl it is Vett, I'm not feeling that we have a, well, let me say "worldly" woman here. I could be wrong....

 

[ponyfitness]

Sometimes you don't even need to say anything. Odds are, when the two of you go out you will have a good time, some drinks and end up in bed and screw each other silly. What happens the morning after is the most important part. If you kick her out and make her feel like a whore, then she'll bail. If you act nice, take her out for breakfast and then have the discussion at the breakfast table - after having sex - then she'll be much more likely to say "yeah, that was fun and we should do it again." then you can bring up the no strings thing and she will probably go for it unless she already has feelings for you.

The idea behind FWB is having a friend vibe but enjoying each other in bed as well. However, it usually doesn't end up well because inevitably one person starts having feelings - or when she tags some other dude you get jealous.

 

[txbondsman]

Sometimes you don't even need to say anything. Odds are, when the two of you go out you will have a good time, some drinks and end up in bed and screw each other silly. What happens the morning after is the most important part. If you kick her out and make her feel like a whore, then she'll bail. If you act nice, take her out for breakfast and then have the discussion at the breakfast table - after having sex - then she'll be much more likely to say "yeah, that was fun and we should do it again." then you can bring up the no strings thing and she will probably go for it unless she already has feelings for you.

The idea behind FWB is having a friend vibe but enjoying each other in bed as well. However, it usually doesn't end up well because inevitably one person starts having feelings - or when she tags some other dude you get jealous.

or you find out some chick eats pussy better than you do AND has a bigger dick, even though it's pink w/ a humming bird growing out the side of it! LOL

 

[velvett]

Uhhh... Velvett.. so you wanna F&%K? LOL

depending on what kind of girl it is Vett, I'm not feeling that we have a, well, let me say "worldly" woman here. I could be wrong....

LOL!

I think when someone is offended by such a bold and perhap brash statement like "wanna f**k" you can get an idea of what expectations you are dealing with and since most people can not separate sex and love you really need to go into these things with your eyes wide open.

 

[Lestat]

basically don't bother with any preamble, get to fuckin, when you are done, chill for a minute or two then bounce. that's how you start off a fwb type deal. After that you can hang out a little more as friends, but to keep expectations set upfront start it off with just straight fucking.

 

[velvett]

basically don't bother with any preamble, get to fuckin, when you are done, chill for a minute or two then bounce. that's how you start off a fwb type deal. After that you can hang out a little more as friends, but to keep expectations set upfront start it off with just straight fucking.

what he said

 

[babygirl84]

if there is baggage it ain't gonna happen.

FWB only really work when there isn't emotional attachment..... and with enough sex that never lasts for long.

You are going to have to find a "buddy" somewhere else.

sorry.

 

[mountain muscle]

Just find a married woman.

Works for me.

 

[Tweakle]

Go out, hit it, don't sleep over, no cuddles.

Ignore them beyond the occasional MSN for a week, then next weekend if you're bored send a text or msn late at night asking if you or she wants to come over.

 

[healother]

meet a girl at the club, sleep with them that night, call them another day.

 

[Tweakle]

Helother is giving you advice on how to deal with women.

pause for a second to let the implications of that sink in, then ask digger to delete this thread and we'll pretend it never happened.

 

[healother]

Helother is giving you advice on how to deal with women.

pause for a second to let the implications of that sink in, then ask digger to delete this thread and we'll pretend it never happened.

 

[redshirt27se]

LOL

if you start this up, you'll be back dating her in less than a week.

then your friends will rag on you and you'll say "its different this time"

then a month from now you'll hate her worse than before and break up again.

 

[juiceddreadlocks]

LOL

if you start this up, you'll be back dating her in less than a week.

then your friends will rag on you and you'll say "its different this time"

then a month from now you'll hate her worse than before and break up again.

TITCREAM

 

[txbondsman]

LOL

if you start this up, you'll be back dating her in less than a week.

then your friends will rag on you and you'll say "its different this time"

then a month from now you'll hate her worse than before and break up again.

yep, I think so too Bro...

 

[manny78]

Just act like a playa'...

 

[musclemom]

Just find a married woman.

Works for me.

^^^ TITCR

He's right, you need to find a married chick who has a less than satisfying sexual relationship with her spouse but no intention of divorcing.

You have two unmarried/unattached individuals, someone's going to gum up the works with wanting a "RELATIONSHIP" sooner or later. May not be her, either

 

[GoldenDelicious]

being direct is make or break. it can work, but when it doesnt, its over. if you absolutely ahve to do it, make sure shes well prepped (ie horny as hell) and have teh scene preprepared ie clean sheets everythign nice condoms in place etc so taht there is as little thinking/logistics management as possible during the interaction

if you have no idea how the hell to do that, start with transitioning to sex via funny sexy stories that either you or your friends were involved in until she starts investing in you (her investing in you means taht shes adding to the convo meaningfully and putting in effort) and then you know youve got her hooked, and then its all about waiting until shes toey as hell and you can hit her up.

dont forget to touch her, but not too much

yia

 

[-SD-]

just start fucking dude. If you have to "lay it out" and "set parameters" and all that other horse shit you will turn her off more than likely because women dont want to have it all out in the open that they are just a fuck buddy. Although they will actually be a fuck buddy in reality. They just dont want it "officially established" that they are a fuck buddy, makes them feel like sluts.

 

[ponyfitness]

^^^ TITCR

He's right, you need to find a married chick who has a less than satisfying sexual relationship with her spouse but no intention of divorcing.

www.ashleymadison.com

 

[healother]

just start fucking dude. If you have to "lay it out" and "set parameters" and all that other horse shit you will turn her off more than likely because women dont want to have it all out in the open that they are just a fuck buddy. Although they will actually be a fuck buddy in reality. They just dont want it "officially established" that they are a fuck buddy, makes them feel like sluts.

TITCR

especially the last part in bold

 

[sugarlicious]

Hmmm
From the sound of it, you and your ex have a lot of HEAT between you and yes the sex will always be fantastic BUT you know it is just sex, she in other hand, will play along because most ex's who still love their partners feel, half of something is better than nothing. So you only given her the physical part, will be ok for her in the beginning, but eventually she would ASK YOU, CAN WE TRY AGAIN and I do still LOVE YOU.
No matter what happens I can assure, the rules of balance will never be equal, since you stated she had a hint of jealousy when you informed her you dated someone after her, From my experience she will play/go along BUT she will not be able to just maintain just the physical relationship you want, since you once dated each other and fell in-love,
Wouldn't it be easier to just Pull a girl from the internet chat site or a club and become fuck buddies, NO EMOTIONAL baggage to deal with.