how do you live with someone that has SEVERE bi-polar disorder?

[jerseyart]

Werd,

I am beginning to really have a deep affection for him. But I am not rushing things... I have too much drama in my life and in the lives of my children already to hook up with someone who will bring more unnecessarily.

I don't have children, but I imagine it is always more difficult with little ones to consider.

This guy is definitely one of a kind. He has never been mean or remotely controlling. As a matter of fact he waits on me hand and foot, is supportive of me but lets me do things for myself (He has a lot of money and influence but respects the fact that I want to do things for myself - he points me in the right direction and offers me helpful advice and insight but that is where it stops - the rest is purely up to me.).

I hear you. Finding a good person is hard whether one is a man or a woman. I hope he is the one for you.

He wants to please me very much. Even asked me to dominate him in bed.

I won't even touch that one.

He is extremely forthcoming about his condition. His attitude is this: I've got this illness and it is up to me to do what I have to do in order for me to be well. I find this VERY reassuring. One of his sons has also been diagnosed with this illness and I have been privy to many of their conversations. He is a really good father. He gives his son gentle and strong support without making his son feel badly about his situation.

Everyone comes with baggage. There are many worse qualities in people than having an illness. I paid for my ex to seek help with a psychiatrist, because she would tell me of suicidal tendencies. She refused to let me be involved. If he's open and willing, I imagine a large part of the battle is won. In retrospect I wish I had pushed it more, because there may have been advice she was ignoring. She eventually simply refused to see her any longer, and declared herself cured. Maybe subconsciously I didn't want to believe anything was wrong with her. In many ways I feel like I failed her in that respect.

I wish you all the best and will remember you both in my prayers.

 

[Badbart]

Bump her ass now! I married a bipolar woman who hid it from me until we were married and it was awful. You will never know the real person they are. The Bipolar person doesn’t even know who they are. You will have one life of pure hell, everything is jolly one day then hell the next. Then are start meds and they turn into a sexless zombie, you can either have a girl with a rollercoaster personality or a sexless loveless prude. It got to be too much I had to divorce her after 4 years.

 

[Werd]

Everyone comes with baggage.

Funny you should say that. He said to me a few weeks ago, 'Honey, you have a lot of baggage, but that's ok because I have a REALLY BIG container!" LOL

You wanna talk baggage?! There are sometimes I feel like a person couldn't possibly be more defective than me... but then I get kind words of praise and support from my family and the friends that I am slowly letting into my life (in the past I was too fucked up to be able to separate REAL FRIENDS from people that definitely were NOT). I have an excellent counselor that specializes in my circumstances - "Women Helping Women" - AWESOME ORGANIZATION!!! (Sorry - had to give that plug. ) and I feel like even though shit is real thick, I am starting to trust my decisions again.

He is a good guy and if it works out between us - GREAT!

If not, then that will be OK too. More life lessons... makes us who we are.

Thank you for your kind words and well wishes. I wish the best for you as well. Don't be too hard on yourself for the relationship that didn't work out. We can only be 100% responsible for ourselves.

 

[Werd]

Bump her ass now! I married a bipolar woman who hid it from me until we were married and it was awful. You will never know the real person they are. The Bipolar person doesn’t even know who they are. You will have one life of pure hell, everything is jolly one day then hell the next. Then are start meds and they turn into a sexless zombie, you can either have a girl with a rollercoaster personality or a sexless loveless prude. It got to be too much I had to divorce her after 4 years.

I am so very sorry.... It pains me to hear such things.

 

[Badbart]

I am so very sorry.... It pains me to hear such things.

Thank you. I don’t like to complain but I don’t want him to make a mistake like I did. My x-wife could be the sweetest person and for a long time she hid much of her mood swings. Yet at times she was so nice then other times meaner then a snake. She was such a complex person and had so many issues it was mind boggling. It was the most frustrating time in my life, when she left it was like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders.

 

[BonerBoy]

They are Bi Polar werd, not Schizophrenic..

They simply have HIGH HIGHS, and LOW LOWS.. No happy medium off meds
They can be on Meds and go weeks stable and then suddenly go either direction.

They also tend to be control freaks and freak out(raise voices) when THEY interpret
someone taking that control from them..


The complaint as to why many stop taking meds is that it makes them feel so
stable and middle of the road that they feel they have no emotions. Just Blah

I think some people are worse off than others

when my friend went off meds he said that he felt his dad owed him alot of money because he had dreams that he had made him alot of money so he left him a threatening note telling him he wanted 20 k in a suit case in unmarked bills

so its more than just highs and lows

 

[Badbart]

I think some people are worse off than others

when my friend went off meds he said that he felt his dad owed him alot of money because he had dreams that he had made him alot of money so he left him a threatening note telling him he wanted 20 k in a suit case in unmarked bills

so its more than just highs and lows

Isn't that scizo?

 

[Werd]

Thank you. I don’t like to complain but I don’t want him to make a mistake like I did. My x-wife could be the sweetest person and for a long time she hid much of her mood swings. Yet at times she was so nice then other times meaner then a snake. She was such a complex person and had so many issues it was mind boggling. It was the most frustrating time in my life, when she left it was like a huge weight was lifted from my shoulders.

I know the feeling of the weight being lifted even though my ex had other issues. The night I asked him to leave (he only acquiesed because otherwise I was calling the cops) a strange calm fell over the house. I can't explain it... till shit with his lawyers started.

Now I fear that calm will never return, that is why I am sooooo careful about who I get involved with.

I am very passionate, that is true. But crazy drama is THE LAST thing that I crave.

 

[BonerBoy]

Isn't that scizo?

Nope, Bi-polar

 

[awittyusername]

sounds like something she would so to me too, she blackmails me when she gets in her physco state. and threatens eveyone thats close to me even my own family. i wanna knock her fucking jaw loose sometimes

Exactly what I went through for a yr and a 1/2. she tried to call DUI's on my friends, threatened to goto my grandpa's nursing home and cause a sceen , or just blackmail me to keep me around and doing what she wanted. I moved 3 times and changed my number 5 times. It was 3 yrs ago. and I am still afraid to go out or talk to my best freind. I'm afraid she will get jealous and start all over. It really destroyed my self worth. But, I'm getting better. And, I learned a valuable lesson.

So, my advice break it off ASAP. Try not to feel guilty about it. Trust me the longer it goes on the worse she gets and the more it breaks you down.

Good Luck, PM me if you need anything