How do you get over the past?

[Peyote Killa]

GO SURFING!!!!!

No bullshit, even if you try to think about something, you can't. All your problems are gone, and the only thing on your mind is the sheer beauty of your environment. I'm serious, if you want to forget about something, and at the same time bring yourself peace and happiness, go surfing!

 

[polarpixie]

GO SURFING!!!!!

No bullshit, even if you try to think about something, you can't. All your problems are gone, and the only thing on your mind is the sheer beauty of your environment. I'm serious, if you want to forget about something, and at the same time bring yourself peace and happiness, go surfing!

Thanks Peyote.....yo...(Sorry, I couldn't resist!!!), that I wish I could do. Even if I wanted to attempt it, it is way too cold around her....brrrrr.....


Did you print that surfer pic out for the surf shop yet?

 

[Peyote Killa]

It's cold here too, but I wear rubber and I love it that much.
And the pic is awsome everybody who walks in loves it. I had it blown up and put on high gloss paper, it looks really badass, all the local surfes come in and ask if they can buy it.

Thanks alot

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

I'm sure everyone at one time or another has longed for the past and the way 'things used to be'. I do that alot. I have a bad habit of looking back and longing for the 'old days'. I know it's bad to get stuck in the past because it prevents you from moving forward, but sometimes it just bothers me. Why do things have to change when you are not ready for it to?

So help me out here, what helps you to move on? For me, I'm talking about relationships with people, romances or friendships. But it could be anything....a change in where you live, your job, your partying habits......Do you just try to tell yourself that the future is brighter than it has ever been in the past and that changes are good for you?



............
Hey South Park is on!!!

It think about the past and the future equally. There are people that I miss, that I will most likely never see again, but I have accepted what the relationship has taught me, and will hold on to the memories......BUT I will not get stuck in that time period.

Not to sound "cheesy" but I'm happy about my life right now, more so then I have ever been-----and I don't have alot going on right now either. I'm just happy about myself and I'm very positive about my future.

 

[Jimsbbc]

If I didn't have to future to look forward to there wouldn't be much in my life worth hanging on to.

 

[bigpopfd2]

I really feel the past is dangerous if you think about it...peope who try and live in the past only end up hurting themselves when they realize its all gone...i just say learn from the past and live everyday to the fullest

 

[TheProject]

I think about different parts of the past every night including things I wish I had done. But, lately, specifically, and it's kind of hard to explain, but what I miss the most is the good feelings certain old relationships used to bring me in the beginning. Those feelings of excitement and almost euphoria you get from being around or hearing from that person. I wish I could bottle up that feeling. But that's the problem, it is only in the beginning...then day by day, it is disintegrates into nothing, and you don't even realize that is what's happening until you have already gotten to the point of nothingness. No more euphoria. No more excitement. This person is almost a stranger to you now.

Like someone else said tho, you can't cherry pick the good things out of the past.

That euphoric feeling you're describing is the big reason I loved that summer. But I still remember the bad parts that went with it, and how that made me feel. Like when I wouldn't get that phone call, and couldn't figure out why.

I'm still looking for the new euphoria, in the hopes that it won't be coupled with or followed by the sadness I had before.

 

[polarpixie]

Peyote -- COOL!!! I'm glad it's a hit! Props to whoever the artist was tho...

Project, yea....maybe I am just too impatient!!!

bigpopfd2 -- i've already realized it's all gone...it's not exactly that I want to live in the past....just that i wish really hard that the past was a part of the future, if that makes any sense.

Jen -- keep that positive thinking up! That is what I need to do. You def. have alot to be happy and proud of tho.

Jims -- glad you're keeping ur head up!!

 

[Fantom604]

If you come up with anything, I am dying to know!! I am still hung up on a woman that broke my heart...

 

[polarpixie]

If you come up with anything, I am dying to know!! I am still hung up on a woman that broke my heart...

Sorry bro (can't I say that too??? Everyone else around here does....). IMO, the only way to treat a broken heart is to lose all hope that you'll ever get back with that person again. I think that's what kills, is that hope and wondering you'll ever get back together, but I've found that if I just accept that that's never gonna happen, it still hurts, but not as much. I dunno if that will help you at all....

Or you can try do a search on threads entitled, "I hate my ex-gf" or "Should I kill my ex-gf?" or "Should you kill your ex-gf or the guy who she cheated on with" or "You should never fall in love again"......