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I "met" this guy about three years ago on a message board, and we quickly became friends. Over the past years, we've been friends, friends who were interested in one another to friends again. Recently, we became closer than we'd ever been, and became interested in pursuing something with each other. To make a long story short, he came to see me a few weeks ago (he lives around 12 hours away, so this was the first time we'd met in "real life".) and while it was fun, I didn't find that my expectations for something romantic were met.
We spoke at length about our meeting and decided one more meeting was in order to make a final decision. I should say, he did tell me that though there was some akwardness his expectations were met, and that he wanted to pursue a relationship with me.
We had a conversation a few nights ago that's left me at a loss for what to do. He'd just come home from a bar, and was quite drunk and pretty much spilled his guts and told me he thinks I'm "the one". I really don't feel this way about him. To be honest, I'm back to feeling like we're just friends, and really don't want to have a second meeting (at least one where we're trying to make something romantic happen). And to make matters more complicated, I've since become interested in someone else.
I didn't realize he felt as strongly as he does, and I don't know how to tell him that I don't feel the same way or that I want to pursue something with someone else. I don't want to hurt him, though I know I will. How do I tell him gently and tactfully that I'm not interested? From the way he was speaking tonight, this is going to crush him, and that's the last thing that I want to do. I want to do everything I can to save the friendship, although I'm pretty sure once I tell him, I'm going to lose it. Is there anyway I can do this without being a huge bitch?
We spoke at length about our meeting and decided one more meeting was in order to make a final decision. I should say, he did tell me that though there was some akwardness his expectations were met, and that he wanted to pursue a relationship with me.
We had a conversation a few nights ago that's left me at a loss for what to do. He'd just come home from a bar, and was quite drunk and pretty much spilled his guts and told me he thinks I'm "the one". I really don't feel this way about him. To be honest, I'm back to feeling like we're just friends, and really don't want to have a second meeting (at least one where we're trying to make something romantic happen). And to make matters more complicated, I've since become interested in someone else.
I didn't realize he felt as strongly as he does, and I don't know how to tell him that I don't feel the same way or that I want to pursue something with someone else. I don't want to hurt him, though I know I will. How do I tell him gently and tactfully that I'm not interested? From the way he was speaking tonight, this is going to crush him, and that's the last thing that I want to do. I want to do everything I can to save the friendship, although I'm pretty sure once I tell him, I'm going to lose it. Is there anyway I can do this without being a huge bitch?
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. I really don't feel this way about him. To be honest, I'm back to feeling like we're just friends, and really don't want to have a second meeting (at least one where we're trying to make something romantic happen). And to make matters more complicated, I've since become interested in someone else.
