this has be discussed many times here.
if I recall correctly, for the most part, you may desire the role, but you can't have it. you also may not touch it. no... seriously, stop touching it.
you need hair gel. ego. fashionable clothes. you need to go to all the best clubs in NYC. wifebeaters are meant to be ribbed and tight. did I mention hair gel?
there is much more - but no sense worrying about it, because the chances are, you can never be one. there are the few, the proud, the campus models.