How can I make it clear?????

[CYBERNIGG]

Theres this chik from S.A. that I talk to through e-mail. She's 5 months preg. The guy that got her preg. told her that he doesn't want anything to do with her or the baby. She's asking me if she should make him pay child support. Her parents are telling her NO, that she should just do it on her own. I told her that she will need the money and that if he's not going to be there then he should have to pay. She's still not sure on what to do. What can I do to convince her that he needs to pay child support?

 

[saint808]

get some facts and actual figures on just how much money it takes to raise a child.

 

[cure]

If the parents are willing to help her she doesn't need some scumbag supporting her and her kid.

 

[saint808]

if he doesn't want tp support her and the child then why did he get her pregnant... there are a ton of precautions both people could have taken... of course i don't know the whole story this could be a turkey baster incident as far as i know.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

She should give the kid up for adoption. Failing that, she should get a court order to get support.

 

[CYBERNIGG]

If the parents are willing to help her she doesn't need some scumbag supporting her and her kid.

Even if her parents are going to help her, that scumbag needs to pay for that child. He owes at least that much.

 

[CYBERNIGG]

if he doesn't want tp support her and the child then why did he get her pregnant... there are a ton of precautions both people could have taken... of course i don't know the whole story this could be a turkey baster incident as far as i know.

Well, they had been together for a little more than 2 years. They were even going to get married. She was on the pill. She still got preg. He said that he didn't want anything to do with that. He told her that he didn't want see her or the kid ever!

 

[PatsFan34]

If the parents are willing to help her she doesn't need some scumbag supporting her and her kid.

Exactly!! I was in the opposite situation!! When I got my son's mother pregnant, they just wanted me out of the picture. But fuck that, I've fought every step of the way, and started paying support before we even went to court. Now 7 years later and about 8 court appearences, I have the best 7 year one could ask for, and I still see him religiously every other weekend.

Tell her if he wants nothing to do with the kid, to peace the fool anyway, his money is worth shit!!! It's better for her and her child in the long run to have no attachments to a scumbag piece of shit!!!

 

[cure]

Dignity folks, i would just want that asshole out of my life. I'd rather work 3 jobs and do it on my own then for him to hold it over my head.