She has been emotionally beat up for the last twelve years, so it is in reference to her letting me completely into her heart.
The thing that is the hardest is that she is afraid of what he would do (not necessarily to her, but to himself) When she divorced him, he used her kids against her to get back in, threatened to kill himself and got their church to tell her that she was wrong and had no authority to divorce him. She was coming out of a realationship with someone she was supposed to marry when he showed up and did/said what was needed to get back in.
Then went back to his old ways of emotional abuse, being lazy, etc. This guy pays for nothing, doesn't even have a steady income, refuses to help out and only gets nice whenever I am mentioned (he is fat and actually pretty slow, I mean iq is probably 80 or 90)
The guy originally left her so he could go start a ranch what a maroon, abandoned his family for a piece of dirt.
Her parents are afraid of what he might do to her when he finally realizes she has been telling him to leave for like 5 months now. He just ignores her and walks away every time she tells him.
I was supposed to go meet her parents with her last Thursday and he must have known something was up cause he changes his mind and calls her to come get him as were driving down the road. So she freaks and picks him up after I get dropped off at home. Her parents know about me, her best friend knows, her co-workers know, I have met everyone except mom and dad. Hell even some of her neighbors know. And they have all told her to finish getting the ex gone and getting on with me unless she likes being miserable.
From my past experiences as a a deputy and my own life, I really think the thing that stops her from just calling the sheriff to get him out is she is truly afraid of him. Also, she owns the house, he is no where on the title. In fact I looked it up on the Superior court website, found that she is actually divorced, he was removed from the title to the house as a result, he even has liens agaisnt him for upaid medical bills.
Really too much to write, but from what I have seen she is being honest with me.