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here is my ex update
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yeah she wrote those long letters i posted.. not me man.bran987 said:
I'm not really falling apart her.. I've got a lot of anxiety over this, and I'm losing my appetite and what not.. but she is really in far worse shape right now.. she tells me she is amazed at how mentally together I am...
yeah.. i tried to convince her otherwise.. she knows about all the thoughts I've had on this relationship.. but she looks at me as someone who is sure of themselves and sure of what they want and sees a strength in that that she doesn't have.Forge said:No offense Lestat, but man that is a funny statement!
Fatbastard02
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LeStat,
I hope this doesnt come off the wrong way, as I too have gone through some really painful break-ups, but stop filling yourself with self-pitty! Man, she dumped you, plain and simple. Even if you want to argue about who dumped who, the fact of the matter is... its OVER! I have read a lot of your posts, from your 40 page IM dialogue, which after that I wanted to kill myself, to your random updates. I feel for you bro, its a part of life and a part of love. I am glad to see that your dating around, but you got to stop comparing other chicks to your ex. Its not fair tot hem or yoruself! Another thing, she broke up with you, and probably might like all this heart-break attention. Move on, your constant updates only depress you more, and further lead to more attachment.
Discover GOD, spend more time int he GYM, date other broads, do anything but don't talk this women. Its not making you any better off, and only reminds you of more memories!! Can I get a hell ya from someone.
Fat
If your still in love with her/miss her and yoru trying to move on from her, why do you mail her or talk to her. Avoidance man...
I hope this doesnt come off the wrong way, as I too have gone through some really painful break-ups, but stop filling yourself with self-pitty! Man, she dumped you, plain and simple. Even if you want to argue about who dumped who, the fact of the matter is... its OVER! I have read a lot of your posts, from your 40 page IM dialogue, which after that I wanted to kill myself, to your random updates. I feel for you bro, its a part of life and a part of love. I am glad to see that your dating around, but you got to stop comparing other chicks to your ex. Its not fair tot hem or yoruself! Another thing, she broke up with you, and probably might like all this heart-break attention. Move on, your constant updates only depress you more, and further lead to more attachment.
Discover GOD, spend more time int he GYM, date other broads, do anything but don't talk this women. Its not making you any better off, and only reminds you of more memories!! Can I get a hell ya from someone.
Fat
If your still in love with her/miss her and yoru trying to move on from her, why do you mail her or talk to her. Avoidance man...
velvett said:
I'm basically living the first option right now. Going to now remove myself from the picture and allow herself to really think about things.
She did tell me that she was amazed by me over the last week and a half since we've been talking again and really appreciates my understanding and consideration for her feeling.
I did see a therapist as did she.... we talked about it afterwards.
My therapist says she believe I truly love this girl, she believes that she really cares about me. She believes we are both smart people, and that she is in a time of her life similar to the time I was in at that age.. just unsure about myself and my role in relationships. She didn't offer any advice, she said as for what I should do, its up to me, its my life and I have to live it afterwards.
My ex told me that her therapist asked her to tell her one thing she didn't like about me. She had no answer. She went on to ask.. are you physically attracted? Are your mentally stimulated? Were you happy? etc. all yes yes yes.
She therapist said it sounds like she broke up with me for intellectual reasons, meaning not for an real emotional reasons, she just thought about it and her brain took over. She said it sounds like I'm more then willing to work with her on things.
Funny.. her therapist basically is on "my side.." Many people aren't... many people say that she just is having this rebound of emotion because she saw me, we know each other so well, have history, so of course its comfortable and fun... they say why set yourself for another nasty breakup.
Others say you gotta go with your heart.. that this could be what "working this out" or "reconciling" means...
Whatever the reasons.. I still feel willing to hang in there.. to risk my heart some more. I feel she is worth it.
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Maybe he meant so you can jump off the Sears Tower.
Ohh gotcha.JH1 said:probably some reference to my recent engagement in chicago... who knows...
I'm nowhere near that... we're not back together.. we're not dating. We've basically both just touched based and acknowledged that there is some interest there.. maybe not enough interest to take the risk.. not sure.. ball is in her court.
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Lestat said:
Gonelifting would be proud.
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EnderJE said:
Year 4: Alien Amp Pharm still hasn't gotten laid.
Good point.velvett said:
Here is really what I think went on though.
She wasn't sure if what she was feeling was "it".. she said things were good, not just good, great. Nothing to complain about, but her brain cast doubt over the whole thing.. is this really what love is?? Is this what i am supposed to feel when I am in love..
she takes time her herself.. only 5 months so far, she may need more... she finds out that hey.. following your heart isn't so bad.
If it wasn't for her seeing me a few weeks ago and all the recent communication, she likely would still be living the live she was in a couple months ago.. the one where she thought she was completely moved on.
Now what all this means? I'm not sure..
