He got down on one knee...

[b fold the truth]

I was talking to my Mother tonight and she said that my Father asked her to marry him on their first date. They got engaged 1 year later and was married 1.5 years after that. He was 19 when they got married and she was a few days away from 18...40 years later they are still together and very much in love.

I never knew that about my parents till today. She just felt the need to tell me that you can meet someone, fall head over heels in love with them and just BELIEVE that they are the one for you. She said that they had been through some amazingly tough times yet they continued to remind themselves of that love that they had for each other and fought to rebuild it no matter what.

Is love like that still present today? Has the world changed that much?

B True

 

[jesus 2]

that is undying love, the love jesus 2 wishes to experience. will jesus 2 find it? only time will tell...

 

[Ceebs]

That's such a sweet story.

I think love like that could exist today, but it's difficult to cultivate something longterm, something stable, something enduring in this instant-gratification society. Fast food, high speed internet, fast cars - we're conditioned to expect everything to be easy and at arm's reach, and to enjoy fleeting pleasures.

 

[saint808]

the world hasn't changed... people have... people are jerks these days

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

I think it was more lust than love.Love only shows with time.

 

[big_bad_buff]

Has the world changed that much?

B True [/B]

in most cases yes, the world has changed a lot in 40-50 years. the more we fall away from god, the worse it's going to get. in 10-20 years(if it last that long) there probably wont even be a thing called marriage anymore.

 

[Mandinka2]

Re: Re: He got down on one knee...

in most cases yes, the world has changed a lot in 40-50 years. the more we fall away from god, the worse it's going to get. in 10-20 years(if it last that long) there probably wont even be a thing called marriage anymore.

Yep , spot on there with the God point , only the poor know the value of faith. Modern life is rubbish , sad to think but we've cultivated a world full of developed assholes to a far greater extent than a developed world.

 

[Bigsatan13]

Sure turn this into another god\prayer\whiney thread!

B, I believe that it can still happen. It's all about the people involved. But on a lighter note, maybe when he got down on one knee, he got a look up that leg and liked what he saw!
Or maybe Mom flashed him!

 

[68GT350]

I don't know about that god stuff, but I'd turn down all the money in the world in order to find true love like that.

 

[WODIN]

I know it can happen B.

 

[john937]

my Father asked her to marry him on their first date. They got engaged 1 year later ... Has the world changed that much? B True

Today, she'd have him classified a stalker and get a restraining order.

 

[Temple]

>Is love like that still present today?

People don't even have sex til weeks of dating..let alone MARRIAGE!

People who get married within weeks or months of dating need a swift shotgun to the head.

-= nav =-

My husband and I knew each other 3 months when we got married. That was 15 years ago...we probably did need a swift shotgun to the head looking back on it. It hasn't always been easy but we have ALWAYS loved each other and will until we are both dead. So, to answer your question B, yes, love like that is still possible today.

 

[sermon_of_mockery]

I hate being the dick on this thread,but it seems that your all sugar coating this subject for b.Honestly I feel that type of "love" has no place in this world today.

 

[velvett]

I wouldn't rule out the slight possiblity of it happening but at the same time I wouldn't hold my breath either.

 

[casavant]

People would be more faithful if we lived in harsher times. I really believe that right now, and I'll keep believing it until someone proves to me otherwise.

Hell, just look at how so many people's mindset changed after 9/11. All of a sudden people were rethinking their priorities and trying to put more time into relationships and family life.

Look at the Baby Boomer generation. Soldiers came back from a war of incredible death and destruction to wives and girlfriends that had spent every day worrying that their man was going be killed or possibly already was. They were more family-motivated as a result.

I don't think there was any one point in time where things were perfect. People have always been selfish, there have always been those that cheat on their lovers. But right now, I'd say things definitely are not getting better, to say the least.

 

[big4life]

I would like to think that it still exists, but to be honest, I don't really see it. I hope that you find it or something close.

 

[PHATchik]

I'd sincerely like to believe that kind of love is still out there. I hope and pray it is. That's the kind of love I see when I look at my grandparents. Almost 60 years together. I see love like that, and I think sure, some relationships don't work out, but look at the ones that do.


That's the kind of love that I hope is waiting somewhere for me whether I've met him or not.

 

[Citruscide]

And for the other 99.99% of people out there who do this, life is utter hell and dismay...

Thank you..

C-ditty

 

[PHATchik]

And for the other 99.99% of people out there who do this, life is utter hell and dismay...

Thank you..

C-ditty

Cynic.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Even with all the crap that has been slung my way, believe it or not, I DO believe that such strong emotions did and still can take two people through life together...

I think I read Vixenbabe say it best once "We just both never fell out of love with each other at the same time".

Life is hard. Marriage is difficult. Raising a family and becoming stronger TOGETHER is EXTREMELY TOUGH... but it isn't impossible.

Maybe I am hopelessly romantic or just a glutton for punishment, but I still believe that such relationships existed then and will always exist.

 

[HumorMe]

Love is out there like that, you just have to let your guard down and let it into your heart and vice versa. I agree with big_bad_buff too.

 

[PHATchik]

Love is out there like that, you just have to let your guard down and let it into your heart and vice versa. I agree with big_bad_buff too.

Letting down your guard can be the hardest part. I speak from experience. When you have burned, it's hard to put yourself at risk again.

 

[Lao Tzu]

how can you determine if you want to spend your life with someone based on one day together? normally that kind of love is called stalking.

 

[theoak01]

Is love like that still present today? Has the world changed that much?

B True

Its there but people are so jealous and hypocritical that if you mention it they slam you saying its not real blah blah

 

[Lao Tzu]

Re: Re: He got down on one knee...

Its there but people are so jealous and hypocritical that if you mention it they slam you saying its not real blah blah

try going into a crowd, throwing a dart in the air & spending your life with whomever it hits. Doesn't work that way.

 

[The Shadow]

you can meet someone, fall head over heels in love with them and just BELIEVE that they are the one for you
B True

Romantic or not.....I believe in that.

It's something that you just know.......unspoken even

 

[HumorMe]

Letting down your guard can be the hardest part. I speak from experience. When you have burned, it's hard to put yourself at risk again.

Phat...I'm not trying to make light of your comment but we all have been burned at one time or another and some more than others. That's how we learn. Meeting that person is something that can't be mistaken for anything else. You will just know. I dated my wife for a few months and broke up and hated each other for a full two years and then got back together and dated for close to 6 years and finally got married. We've been married for 15 years and more in love today than ever before. It's just something that nobody can explain.

You will know, trust me!

 

[PHATchik]

Phat...I'm not trying to make light of your comment but we all have been burned at one time or another and some more than others. That's how we learn. Meeting that person is something that can't be mistaken for anything else. You will just know. I dated my wife for a few months and broke up and hated each other for a full two years and then got back together and dated for close to 6 years and finally got married. We've been married for 15 years and more in love today than ever before. It's just something that nobody can explain.

You will know, trust me!

I know. Your story kinda sounds like my boss's. She and her husband once lived together, then broke up. Didn't speak for a year then ran into each other one night, and got back together that night. They've been together ever since. I know that guy is out there. I just have no clue who is he or where he is. But I won't give up on him just yet.

 

[theoak01]

Re: Re: Re: He got down on one knee...

try going into a crowd, throwing a dart in the air & spending your life with whomever it hits. Doesn't work that way.

not what I meant

Im not saying you can just fall in love with anyone ,but love at first sight is possible

if you find it your lucky

 

[madbomber31]

yes, the world has changed.. apparently you are supposed to fuck like a whore until a guy comes along and can either take care of you or you get pregnant...

 

[Lao Tzu]

Re: Re: Re: Re: He got down on one knee...

not what I meant

Im not saying you can just fall in love with anyone ,but love at first sight is possible

if you find it your lucky

i had that from ages 15-17. Jessica K***g**. I just looked at her & fell in love for some reason. I'd known her for a few years so this wasn't 'at first sight'. Worst part is she developed a crush on me 1 month after i fell for her but i was too socially immature to catch onto it. She spent 4 months flirting with me & i didn't do shit.

Ah well.

 

[BBJ]

love like that can exist. there is a very slim chance, but i believe that it can.
i'd really like to be happily married after twenty years. but in todays society there seems to be less and less of that going on.

 

[VooDoo Lady]

Oh come on - this just isn't a B True thread without a sweet picture or 2 of your folks with love light in their eyes!

 

[casavant]

Long term relationships aren't one big fucking drug-like blissful existence. You know why relationships used to work? Because people needed each other more back then. Humans function best when there's something in it for them. Relationships used to be more utilitarian than they are now from what I see. Relationships just for their own sake are a lot fucking harder to maintain because as soon as the feeling leaves for a bit there's nothing else to bind you together and you go looking for your next fix, telling yourself, "Well, this must not be 'the one'. And most of us are too lazy and selfish to try to really see it through. There's not a goddamn cupid's arrow waiting for you out there. Hell, the people I see with that attitude towards love are the ones who cheat the most. And everyone likes to view the past through rose-colored glasses; that's where most of these stories the old timers spit out about their relationships are so goddamn hunky-dory. Yeah, I'm sure there are some instances where things just worked and it was wonderful, but holding out for that is probably a big mistake.

No offense to B-fold or his parents. I'm commenting on the subject of the thread in general and not his particular case.

 

[Bikini Mod]

I don't think that Bfold is saying that his parents' relationship was a bed of roses AT ALL. The little bit that I know about that big old country boy says that his mother and father busted their you-know-whats from the word go... and still do to this day.

I think it has a lot more to do with old fashioned values and just plain old hard work. RESPECT. How many people do we know that care more about the size of the engagement ring and who to sit where at the reception that they will be paying for even LONG AFTER they are divorced?

Too much importance is placed on THE WRONG things when it comes to marriage. Nobody plays "marriage" but every little girl is socialized to fantasize about that long white dress that she spends a fortune on and WEARS ONCE. What is wrong with that picture?

My mother taught me hard work and how hard it was to be married. Unfortunately what she DIDN'T teach me is to choose a man who will RESPECT THAT HARD WORK.

But that is OK because I learned a lesson that I will pass on to my daughters.

If I EVER get married again, I don't even want a ring. The mere thought of it literally makes me gasp for breath. No big party for several hundred of our "closest" friends and family. No hoopla, no fan fare - no special day.

I am more interest now in all the days that will follow.

 

[casavant]

I agree with that post, Bikinimom.

 

[TEXgrl]

my husband told me the night he met me that he was going to marry me, we were married about 15 months afther that. it was not always easy, but now, 10 years later, it was worth the hard times.

 

[PHATchik]

my husband told me the night he met me that he was going to marry me, we were married about 15 months afther that. it was not always easy, but now, 10 years later, it was worth the hard times.

Sigh, see stuff like that gets me. I'm a hopeless romantic.

 

[polarpixie]

bfold, sweet thread. I agree with most of the people on this thread, the idea of 'true love' is not unobtainable, it's just not as perfect and flawless as a fairytale. It's as imperfect as your relationship with your best friends. In fact, I think the secret to these long-term happy marriages is about seeing the other person as a wonderful person and your best friend, not just your little sex toy, that's just's icing.

I think that your 'true love' is someone that you can't imagine living your life without. It's about the way this other person make you blissfully happy, but more so it's about the way this person can just make you happy, maybe not blissfully, period.

yes, the world has changed.. apparently you are supposed to fuck like a whore until a guy comes along and can either take care of you or you get pregnant...

dammit I've been doing it all wrong!