Have you reached a point where you think you don't want kids or marriage?

[frorider6]

When I was 18-20, I wanted the total package: wife, 2 kids, dog, house in the burbs, etc. But the older I get, the less I think I want that package. I don't think I want kids anymore and am starting to think marriage is just a flawed concept to begin with.

Now, I just want to have a successful long term relationship. I'm joining the military so I'll be moving every couple of years, so no house in the burbs (which doesn't even appeal to me anymore). Kids..... I would love any child of mine more than life, but it's not like I'm planning on one now. But I still want a dog, still want a dog.

 

[The Dude]

I don't want kids. I've got a dog and even a cat. That's enough for the forseeable future. I'm too selfish to turn my life over to youngins. I do want marriage. Unfortunately, I'm with the wrong girl for that. Plus, the only girl I know that is has serious marriage potential is my girlfriend's best friend so that's out too. Oh well.

 

[Warik]

The older I get, the more I want them. Life seems pointless otherwise.

-Warik

 

[The Dude]

Good point. When it is all said and done, kids are why we're here. They're the meaning of life (in general).

 

[PHATchik]

I'm 20. Right now, I am a sophomore in college. I have really started thinking a lot more about my future. I realize that I want a career, a husband, kids, and even a cat and a dog. The older I get, the more I realize that is what I want. The only problem is actually trying to find the right guy to actually consider spending the rest of my life with. It's not looking like it will happen any time soon.

 

[buksoon]

If people are the "authors of the books of their lives", I want mine to be a "Choose-Your-Own-Adventure", not a romance novel.

I just never found a man who thrilled me as much as map does, and the possibility of going anywhere. Maybe I'm maposexual??

I think marriage is much better for men than women, even with the "spread the seed" theory.

 

[velvett]

Maybe I'm maposexual??

I love maps.


Wanna play map and seek?

 

[frorider6]

I'm 20. Right now, I am a sophomore in college. I have really started thinking a lot more about my future. I realize that I want a career, a husband, kids, and even a cat and a dog. The older I get, the more I realize that is what I want.

That was how I was at 20. 8 years later and I don't know if that's what I want anymore.

 

[BaBa-BooeY]

BUMP

 

[satanic goatslayer]

Once you get to the fifth or sixth kid, it gets a bit old.

That, my friends, is when you take up baby bowling. It's more challenging because the pins wiggle and shriek.

 

[buksoon]

That was how I was at 20. 8 years later and I don't know if that's what I want anymore.

Jeez, at 20 I was so lost in the idea of true luuuurv forever and ever... it was all I could think of.

Blecchh! I couldn't even see for all the damn stars in my eyes!

We've become cynical, Fro.

 

[Night Fly]

I used to question whether or not I wanted kids....but after spending time with my friends kids...I may want some one day.

Who knows. I do know that I definitely want to be married one day.

 

[DcupSheepNipples]

Have you reached a point where you think you don't want kids or marriage?

Why worry about that! Just clone yourself. I plan on cloning myself. My clone will have all the advanteges of having someone that lived their life before them. Who knows better than myself to raise myself!

 

[buksoon]

Once you get to the fifth or sixth kid, it gets a bit old.

That, my friends, is when you take up baby bowling. It's more challenging because the pins wiggle and shriek.

See I would use the baby as the ball, but that's just me.

 

[PHATchik]

Jeez, at 20 I was so lost in the idea of true luuuurv forever and ever... it was all I could think of.

Blecchh! I couldn't even see for all the damn stars in my eyes!

We've become cynical, Fro.

Is this what I have to look forward to?

 

[big4life]

I use to think that I wanted kids, but now that I'm getting older,
I'm just looking for the perfect lady to share my life with.
No preconceived notions about what it should be like.
Just someone to share in the adventure.

 

[Taps]

Yeah, I'd like to the family thing someday. Maybe when I'm 30 or so. I'm in no great hurry. Gotta get my own life in order first.

I used to think I'd be a terrible parent. But I've come to realize that most people feel that way before they have kids. These days, I think I'd do a pretty good job...

Now I just gotsta find me a wife.

 

[Warik]

PHATchick,

Nice avatar.

-Warik

 

[buksoon]

Is this what I have to look forward to?

I'm sorry, Phat! Didn't mean to be all gloom-saying. But you know what? I'm MUCH happier now. It's like: you're almost a slave to the desire for love. And then one day you're free. (Somewhat, it's still with you.)

Do you know--not to get all English teacher on you, sorry--the Latin root of the word "passion"? "Passus: TO SUFFER." Also the root of "pathetic."

(Absolutely NOT referring to you, Phat okay?)

 

[PHATchik]

I'm sorry, Phat! Didn't mean to be all gloom-saying. But you know what? I'm MUCH happier now. It's like: you're almost a slave to the desire for love. And then one day you're free. (Somewhat, it's still with you.)

Do you know--not to get all English teacher on you, sorry--the Latin root of the word "passion"? "Passus: TO SUFFER." Also the root of "pathetic."

(Absolutely NOT referring to you, Phat okay?)

Good to know!

 

[frorider6]

I use to think that I wanted kids, but now that I'm getting older,
I'm just looking for the perfect lady to share my life with.
No preconceived notions about what it should be like.
Just someone to share in the adventure.

Absolutely perfect way to describe where I'm at.

 

[PHATchik]

PHATchick,

Nice avatar.

-Warik

Thanks Hun! Same to you.

 

[Test boy]

Thats a semi sad story. A lot of people thought I'd make a great husband and I don't think it will ever happen. I'm usually quite happy alone so I am perhaps made to be single.

 

[KA-BAR]

I could not imagine not having my kids. 11,6,3 all girls so im fucked. heh. We started early im only 29. My wife has been talking about having another one lately and im like ummmm wont it be kind of hard now that you have your tubes tied? She told me I could wack off in a cup and they could inject it into her or some shit. I said hell no. If we are going to have another we will do it the fun way. So Im considering having it reversed so I can try to have a son AGAIN. I hear its pretty expensive but I will shit the money somehow It just bothers me how much gear I could by for that price. lol . I still want to have a boy so I can make him into a state champ wrestler. Shit I will keep rambling of forever so Ill cut myself off now. Life would suck without kids.

 

[Latimer]

I find most kids annoying. Makes me think twice about procreating.

 

[HumorMe]

I believe you will know when marriage is right for you. I believe you will know when kids are right for you. Never give up on your dreams of these things. I was so much like all of you, living my own life, depending on myself for all things, etc.
You will know exactly when it is time to get married. You just wake up one day and it hits you. We were married five years before we had kids. In marriage, there will come a time when you want or don't want children. I never wanted to have any kids before I got married but after marriage it becomes a dream to be a parent. Kids are great! Wonderful creatures and you created them! To look at an newborn and think you had a part in it is awe inspiring! Trust me, you will know when the time comes. I would get all the wild hairs out of your ass first, though!

 

[Latimer]

Marriage? Why do I need a certificate to prove my love? More like take all my shit if things don't workout down the line.

 

[litig8r]

I have been married 20 years this summer. My wife and I were married 11 years before we had our first kid. At 40 I have a 3 year old and an 8 year old. My wife and I both have great carrers (we are both attorneys)(poor kids...right). and my wife just decided to run for State District Court Judge. Things are good. Not perfect but I would not trade my family or my life for anything.

hasta

litig8r

 

[PinK233]

Nothing makes me more happy right now then the thought of marriage & children...along with being successful in my future career...I'm sure that will never change....I've always loved kids...the thought of having one or two or three to call my own really amazes me...

 

[Austin316]

Of course I want all that, I just have no clue as to how Im gonna get it, I don't even know what to do with myself, I need to straten my own life out before even thinking about it. But to me, its essential in life, whats the point of life otherwise if not to share it with other people?

Hmmmmm, now you've gone and made me think