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Cure said:
totally understand your point mate but i believe 99% of people wanna work but anxiety and insomnia and shit makes it hard
Guys i could use some input
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totally understand your point mate but i believe 99% of people wanna work but anxiety and insomnia and shit makes it hard
theoak01
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Cure said:
im honestly not making excuses and anxiety doesnt really bother me,im very confident lately where i never use to be,I am also very self dependany,my parents only pay for my food and i never go out because i have no money so dependancy is not the issue
insomnia may be im lucky to get 5 hours a night unless on sleeping pills but i dont want to get hooked
i never use to have this problem i would work anywhere that gave me spending money but now i find anything wrong
i mean i really want to do good in school this year so i can goto college but then i only have from feb till sept to save all i need for the next year
what i think would be best for me is waiting till im done high school in febuary and then work and not have to worry about this stupid shit like i am now
TEXgrl
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no flame here, but if you are looking for reasons NOT to work, you just might be lazy.
just like PolishHammer said, when you are young, you have to work the shit hours until you put some time in. It is very possible that you might not have to work on that particular day anyway, lots of employers tell you that you have to work and you sometimes end up not working. what's one day, even a holiday. jobs for some people aren't easy to come by. someday you might not be so lucky to have offers to turn down.
just like PolishHammer said, when you are young, you have to work the shit hours until you put some time in. It is very possible that you might not have to work on that particular day anyway, lots of employers tell you that you have to work and you sometimes end up not working. what's one day, even a holiday. jobs for some people aren't easy to come by. someday you might not be so lucky to have offers to turn down.
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Oak, I am going to give it to you straight.
I think that on the one hand you are feeling anxious because you AREN'T lazy and can't just sit and "enjoy doing nothing while you still can" BUT on the other hand you know that this it pretty much the end of childhood... graduating high school, then college and on the to adult world with adult responsibilities.
You know what I tell my girls if they ever SEEM to be in a hurry to grow up? ADULTHOOD IS OVERRATED! LOL
It's ok to want to spend a little time with your family during holidays, etc and pass up a few jobs here and there, BUT deep down you know you are not lazy like that.
So, might I suggest you either:
RELAX A LITTLE and enjoy this fleeting time in your life. It is true that you have a place to live and you don't have to support a family. That will be over soon enough!
OR
Get a job and work if that will make you feel less anxious.
You know what the answer is, you just are having a little trouble coming to grips.
PS - If you were truly lazy then you would have ZERO ANXIETY about not having a job.
Oh yea, and I agree with AA about the BKing thing.
I think that on the one hand you are feeling anxious because you AREN'T lazy and can't just sit and "enjoy doing nothing while you still can" BUT on the other hand you know that this it pretty much the end of childhood... graduating high school, then college and on the to adult world with adult responsibilities.
You know what I tell my girls if they ever SEEM to be in a hurry to grow up? ADULTHOOD IS OVERRATED! LOL
It's ok to want to spend a little time with your family during holidays, etc and pass up a few jobs here and there, BUT deep down you know you are not lazy like that.
So, might I suggest you either:
RELAX A LITTLE and enjoy this fleeting time in your life. It is true that you have a place to live and you don't have to support a family. That will be over soon enough!
OR
Get a job and work if that will make you feel less anxious.
You know what the answer is, you just are having a little trouble coming to grips.
PS - If you were truly lazy then you would have ZERO ANXIETY about not having a job.
Oh yea, and I agree with AA about the BKing thing.
bro at your age (you're 19 right ?) I was working at 2 jobs and going to college. One was a day job (auctions) and the other one (DJ) a night/weekend job. Holidays ? So what ? I work on holidays. Big deal. It part of the game. Make money, get experience, don't be lazy.
theoak01
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i think Bmom is right i was worried about losing grips on that freedom i have had for the last 18 years and it made me nervous as hell
as for the holiday thing we have to drive a hour or so away and my grandparents etc are getting older and im the only grandson so i dont think its acceptable to just not go because of a job
but im definatly gonna relax for now and enjoy life as it is before college comes and life gets real hectic.
I have always thought I would do great in adult life but apparently its going to be harder then expected
thanks guys
p.s texgrl its not that I dont want to work but ill find something wrong that will turn me right off,for this it was holidays and the set in stone shedule where it was like pulling teeth to book anything off
maybe im setting my standards to high when i need to smarten my ass up and take what i can get or ill be doing this my entire life as i wont be able to afford college
as for the holiday thing we have to drive a hour or so away and my grandparents etc are getting older and im the only grandson so i dont think its acceptable to just not go because of a job
but im definatly gonna relax for now and enjoy life as it is before college comes and life gets real hectic.
I have always thought I would do great in adult life but apparently its going to be harder then expected
thanks guys
p.s texgrl its not that I dont want to work but ill find something wrong that will turn me right off,for this it was holidays and the set in stone shedule where it was like pulling teeth to book anything off
maybe im setting my standards to high when i need to smarten my ass up and take what i can get or ill be doing this my entire life as i wont be able to afford college
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Bikini Mod
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The Canadian Oak said:
See, I knew that YOU KNEW the answer!
It's called maturity Oak... you'll be just fine.
Yea, Adulthood is over-rated FOR SURE, but it also isn't impossible.
You're a smart kid and maybe you won't understand this, but I have enjoyed watching you "grow up".
Manhood is hard, true. But it ain't impossible.
YOU'LL BE FINE. I have faith in you.... but that isn't what is important.
YOU HAVE FAITH IN YOU!
That means everything.
theoak01
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bikinimom said:
See, I knew that YOU KNEW the answer!
It's called maturity Oak... you'll be just fine.
Yea, Adulthood is over-rated FOR SURE, but it also isn't impossible.
You're a smart kid and maybe you won't understand this, but I have enjoyed watching you "grow up".
Manhood is hard, true. But it ain't impossible.
YOU'LL BE FINE. I have faith in you.... but that isn't what is important.
YOU HAVE FAITH IN YOU!
That means everything.
all I can say is thank you,thank you for believing in me
it may seem weird but you have helped me more with certian problems then my own family and for that I am grateful
that job is already passed but there will be more and I will take anything I can get
Thanks again
