Going to see the ex this weekend.......

[Bobber]

Haven't seen her in about 4 months. I tell her I will be at Tech this weekend to see my boy and 3 days later she informs me that she will be there as well. She then goes on to tell me that she is driving down with the guy she is talking to. This of course makes me mad and I ask her if she knows what will happen if I see him being touchy feely with her in front of me and she said yes and that she gives me permission to do whatever I want and that she understands my personality. She then goes on to say that he is smothering her and she is really just using him for a ride and expects to be with me the whole time, which to my answer was no. So now instead of going up there to hang out with my best friend and get tanked I am going to have to spend most of my time with her and possibly have to fight some guy that I already feel sorry for. Why does she have to go down this weekend and above all with some guy she knows will get the shit kicked out of him for being with her? Oh well, I love the girl and it will hopefully be fun regaurdless of what hapen.

 

[Night Fly]

Why don't you just go and get tanked with your friends anyway? Were you hoping that you and her were going to get back together? If not...I know that you said you loved her....but really...what difference does it make? Just go and have fun!

 

[flex123]

How old are you?

 

[vinylgroover]

Bobber,

If she is your ex of 4 months, why do you care who she's with.......there's a time to move on my friend.

 

[HighIntensity]

I went to Atlantic City this weekend to meet some friends from New York, one of my friends goes to school with my ex, the one that I told you about...he said she look not so good these days.

some how that did not make me happy though...

 

[Bobber]

Why don't you just go and get tanked with your friends anyway? Were you hoping that you and her were going to get back together? If not...I know that you said you loved her....but really...what difference does it make? Just go and have fun!

She is not the type to let me be when we are in the same city which I don't mind when we have a long time and don't have to rush everything. Getting back together.......we are 1200 miles apart so no that will not be happening this semester or next, but could happen next fall if one of us wants to move for the other. The difference is that when she is around I can't let the Bobber out and have to be a normal human being which NEVER happens when me and my boy get together.

Flex I am old enough to be your daddy. J/k 22, I am 22 bro.

 

[biteme]

It doesn't take much for you to want to fight. Just a word of caution, if you kick that guy's ass your asking for trouble pal. You're also wrong.

 

[Bobber]

Vinyl - LOL! 4 months? Try 3 years and being engaged.

HI - If she ever got fat, which would never happen, I would deffinetly not be a happy camper either. You must have really loved that girl if you still care about the way she looks after what she did to you.

 

[flex123]

Maybe she just wants to be your friend now. 4 months isn't that long, and if it didn't work and she is still talking to you maybe thats what she wants. I have no clue what your situation is bro I'm just making asumptions. Talk to the biatch and tell her to leave the fuckstick buddy of hers home or stay home herself.

 

[Night Fly]

The difference is that when she is around I can't let the Bobber out and have to be a normal human being which NEVER happens when me and my boy get together.

Flex I am old enough to be your daddy. J/k 22, I am 22 bro.

Well, that's your problem. You SHOULD be able to be yourself in front of her whether you are with your boys or not. I know that guys have to have their guy time...but still.

You don't have to be where she is at. It's up to YOU...not her. If she gets upset...tell her that YOU had your plans to begin with and you are going to follow through with them.

If I were you...I would just act like she wasn't in town...and if you did see her, then act like the other guy doesn't bother you (which you may not be able to do, though, if you are drinking). Can you not just find a way to stay away from her? It seems to me that would be the best thing to do in this situation.

 

[rnch]

bobber:

dude, she is mind foiking you.

she is using this other guy to make you jealous; playing him against you.

stay the hell away from her!!!!!!!!

go spend time with your boy, get tanked, find some bar skank, and BOTH of you boink the skank.

and you LOVE this girl??????????

 

[HighIntensity]

Vinyl - LOL! 4 months? Try 3 years and being engaged.

HI - If she ever got fat, which would never happen, I would deffinetly not be a happy camper either. You must have really loved that girl if you still care about the way she looks after what she did to you.

Yea I did, its def. not fat because shes a Div 1 swimmer and was 5'9 120 pounds when I knew her.

But I am guessing she just got out of practice, hair tied up wet and dressed sloppy.

 

[Bobber]

Biteme - He is about 6 inches taller than me and has a "medium" build so he might be able to put up a fight or even kick my ass. But I guess you are right, I do not mind fighting for reasons I see fit, might not be clear cut to others but to me it is ok.

Nightfly - DAMN you are good! It's easier said than done. I love spending time with her, I just wish she could have waited till December like we had planned. As for being me around her no matter what.......I don't think any girl on Earth unless they were pretty fucked up in the head would like or want to be around me and him when we get together and let loose.

Rnch - Relationships are all one big game. As for her making this pitifull move of bringing her boy toy to the same town as me only puts me ahead in the game. LOL at the tag team the skank remark, might just have to do that if the situation arises.

 

[DownUnder23]

Bobber,

If she is your ex of 4 months, why do you care who she's with.......there's a time to move on my friend.

thats what the hell i was thinking

 

[Night Fly]

Nightfly - DAMN you are good! It's easier said than done. I love spending time with her, I just wish she could have waited till December like we had planned. As for being me around her no matter what.......I don't think any girl on Earth unless they were pretty fucked up in the head would like or want to be around me and him when we get together and let loose.

What is in December? Were you all supposed to move closer or something?

You know...I actually find it quite entertaining when guys are 'themselves' around their other guy friends. They can talk about other girls and what they want to do with them...I couldn't care less. I just don't want them to disrespect ME....ya know?

I promise you...I KNOW that it's easier said that done. I've had to do it! You said that you are already one step ahead of her because she is bringing the guy that she is talking to...right? Well...why don't you make yourself be another step ahead of her and act like he doesn't bother you! That would really throw her for a loop and make all kinds of things run through her head. Seriously..I think you should just be yourself around your buddy...and see how she reacts to it! Don't disrespect her...but don't go out of your way for her, either.

 

[Bobber]

Flex and DownUnder I think yall missed the post where I stated we had been together for 3 years and engaged.

 

[rnch]

As for being me around her no matter what.......I don't think any girl on Earth unless they were pretty fucked up in the head would like or want to be around me and him when we get together and let loose.Rnch - Relationships are all one big game.

you and your boy sound like me and my broly.........we seem to bring out the devil in each other; do stuff we wouldn't otherwise do apart.

i still think she is bringing this other guy along to throw him in your face and make you jealous and want her back. don't play her game!!!! ignore her, get drunk with your boy, and let HER find YOU.

 

[Bobber]

you and your boy sound like me and my broly.........we seem to bring out the devil in each other; do stuff we wouldn't otherwise do apart.

i still think she is bringing this other guy along to throw him in your face and make you jealous and want her back. don't play her game!!!! ignore her, get drunk with your boy, and let HER find YOU.

One step ahead of you on that last part bro, I have a new cell # which i have not given to her even though she has begged for a few days now so she will have to do her research if she wants to find me. But I know she will cause we are like magnets, if we are in the vacinity of the other we will find each other no matter the oobstacles. Especially her, she has the only child syndrome and feels that she should get everything she wants. What I figure is i will hang out with her one night and my boy the other and that way everyone is happy.

Bring out the devil in each other? Hell we are the devil when we go out, nothing but a lot of commotion and nutsness but there are ALWAYS fine ass women with us so it's all done with style.

 

[Golfer18--old]

Haven't seen her in about 4 months. I tell her I will be at Tech this weekend to see my boy and 3 days later she informs me that she will be there as well. She then goes on to tell me that she is driving down with the guy she is talking to. This of course makes me mad and I ask her if she knows what will happen if I see him being touchy feely with her in front of me and she said yes and that she gives me permission to do whatever I want and that she understands my personality. She then goes on to say that he is smothering her and she is really just using him for a ride and expects to be with me the whole time, which to my answer was no. So now instead of going up there to hang out with my best friend and get tanked I am going to have to spend most of my time with her and possibly have to fight some guy that I already feel sorry for. Why does she have to go down this weekend and above all with some guy she knows will get the shit kicked out of him for being with her? Oh well, I love the girl and it will hopefully be fun regaurdless of what hapen.

Bro's before hoes mother fucker.

 

[supersizeme]

Hey I just had to throw my fiddy cents in here. Call me a bitch, but do you really need to kick the shit out of this poor shmoe? It's kind of fucked up that your girl is willing to bring this unsuspecting guy into a situation where he might get his ass handed to him. She basically said, "go ahead and pummell him" when she gave you permission to react however you want to if you see him getting friendly with her. I realize it'll bother the shit out of you to see him trying to get some num nums from her, but you already know she's not into him. You have nothing to feel intimidated by.

 

[rnch]

big bobber:

clean out your PM box!!!!!!!! it's full!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Bobber]

Re: Re: Going to see the ex this weekend.......

It's kind of fucked up that your girl is willing to bring this unsuspecting guy into a situation where he might get his ass handed to him. She basically said, "go ahead and pummell him" when she gave you permission to react however you want to if you see him getting friendly with her. I realize it'll bother the shit out of you to see him trying to get some num nums from her, but you already know she's not into him. You have nothing to feel intimidated by.

That's what I am saying. She knows what it will end in and she even hates fighting. But I think it's kinda cute. Who knows maybe he will be a feisty one and try to talk shit when I kiss her right in front of his face.

 

[Bobber]

Re: big bobber:

clean out your PM box!!!!!!!! it's full!!!!!!!!!!!!

It is empty, it's just fucked up. It allows PM's every now and then but not on a regular basis

AIM me at Bobber1980 or email at [email protected]

 

[Machiavellian Muscle]

Bro let me give you advise from someone who is going thru it...

Just go their keep you head clear and move on. She is an ex and leave it at that. Don't beat up this dude because he has done nothing wrong. She is your ex. By you not giving a fuck it will make your ex feel more confused and somewhat attracted to you. If you beat him up she will feel as though she still owns you.

Move on and put your energies into something postive.