At your age you should play the game...the "I Dont Give a Fuck" Game If a girl disses you for her cell phone, "I dont give a fuck", if a girl doesnt call when she said she would "I dont give a fuck", if a girl doesnt put out when I want "I dont give a fuck". The potential is limitless with this attitude. You seem too preoccupied with getting or having a woman, but when you start to not GIVE A FUCK ABOUT THEM, they will come to you. Im about 10 years older than you and every time I want to be Mr. Nice guy and get too involved with some ding bat chick, if I start to NOT GIVE A FUCK anymore I am happier about the situation instead of "bending over backwards for women" like you said. Dont kiss their ass, have a badass attitude and dont give a fuck, then they will kiss your ass. Now go grasshopper.